I also think that we're still too concerned with what other people think about us especially a prospective mate.
"If I'm not about to come in the bedroom and put it down, then nobody is."
That's such a bad thought to have. I wish more of us would just jump out on faith. It's okay that someone can be better at something than we are. We just have to be willing to have them teach us so that every encounter we have isn't so 'intimidating.' Learning new things and going through new experiences helps to build confidence.
I was having this same conversation years ago with a friend. We decided that we were just going to stop lying to people and say exactly what we wanted out of them. Example, "I just want to fuck." Please do not take this wrong way. I'm painting a picture. Now, those words coming out of a man's mouth, it sounds bold, spectacular, and NOT UNEXPECTED being the biggest thing. That's a man's man that said that. He's secure, confident, and seen as EXPECTED through everyone else's eyes. Now, for a woman to say that very same thing, "I just want to fuck", then it's a problem. All of these crazy thoughts comes into men's head when she says something like that. You nasty *****! I can't believe you would say something like that. I wouldn't fuck you with a ten foot pole. It wasn't a problem before and it still shouldn't be because women get horny too. We're the same despite our differences.
Maybe it's just good old fashioned fear.