Is 40 Too Young For Viagra?

[ItsAll4Kim]

Get him to a good urologist. There's a reason, and going straight to pills without diagnostic work is a bad practice.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

We can't afford a specialist just to find out if the pill might make his penis harder. I'm tempted to just borrow one for my dad and see if it works for my man. I'm on 28 prescription medications do to a chronic health issue so I think people are making way too big of a deal about taking a pill without seeing a specialist.

 

[palakaorion]

One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is diabetes. ED can be one of the first signs. And many times doctors don't think to check for it in otherwise healthy for patients. A simple finger stick test will suffice.

 

[palakaorion]

...in otherwise healthy *fit* patients.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

My blood pressure went from fine to *really* bad between two dr. visits 6 months apart. 200/100. So in addition to palakaorion's excellent suggest re:diabetes, even BP issues can crop up unexpectedly.

I know it's "just a pill", and specialist visits can be expensive. But a boner useless if the guy who has it is sick. ED is a warning sign for many other problems, physical and emotional.

Sorry for nagging...we care.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

All of these health issues can be tested for in screened in a regular Physician's office. At this point specialist are not needed.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

His plan was to go to his primary doctor for an over all check up and blood work, etc. And ask for it then. Like I said the erection comes and goes and in the end he's able to have an orgasm so it's not a hundred percent erectile dysfunction where sex isn't possible nor orgasms for him.

 

[shamrockfaced]

His plan was to go to his primary doctor for an over all check up and blood work, etc. And ask for it then. Like I said the erection comes and goes and in the end he's able to have an orgasm so it's not a hundred percent erectile dysfunction where sex isn't possible nor orgasms for him.

I'm about the same age. I've had above average libido my entire life. I have had a few instances over the past couple of years where I seemed to have "temporary" ED. Honestly, it freaked me out. As someone with a very high libido I think I took pride (and for granted) that I could perform rock solid 100% if the time.

I too have wondered about viagara or some other pill. But that scares me to death as I don't want to become dependent on it, at all. Im afraid if I try it I will never be off of it.

Alot of this has already been mentioned. But here's what I have discovered.

I am in perfectly excellent health, but with pre-hypertension ive had my entire adult life . I take no medication or prescription.

When I have had this temporary problem, it has really bothered me and I found myself focused in it. The more that I thought about it, the worse it got. I could not relax . So it turned into a bit if a cycle. If I didnt perform I got down in myself. I was very determined to keep trying but would get pissed off at myself and didnt want her thinking it was because of her.

It also seemed to coincide with a season when I was not feeling great about myself. I workout constantly, but when I struggled with this I know my daily physical routine was lagging. I also was dealing with work stressors that were temporary too. Honestly, I am very confident it was 90% mental coupled with the fact that I'm just not 20 any more. I still get rock hard though and have an incredibly string libido. Don't know if that helps or not, but dude's problem sounds pretty familiar. I hope you can help him relax and know that youre there for him no matter what. I have a feeling when his brain and dick get back on the same page he will be able to perform well again.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

His plan was to go to his primary doctor for an over all check up and blood work, etc. And ask for it then. Like I said the erection comes and goes and in the end he's able to have an orgasm so it's not a hundred percent erectile dysfunction where sex isn't possible nor orgasms for him.

If the primary visit doesn't lead to anything ED related, please don't automatically dismiss a urology consult. I had lost insurance coverage for a couple of years. I was pretty nervous about how much my twice-yearly urology visit would cost. Turned out their cash charge was $100...literally below what the copay plus what insurance wouldn't cover cost me when I had insurance. Go figure.

Another plus was that the urologist sold me sildenafil (what Viagra is) directly, as the patent had expired on it in the US. He was prescribing it off-label, technically, but that's permissible by an MD. The cost was way lower than Viagra....about $4 per dose versus over $16. And I could get enough to actually have a sex life, as opposed to the 6 tablets monthly that insurance "covered" (with copay, of course).
Anyway, just some thoughts.

 

[Shackleford]

TG, my first question to you would be "how long has this been going on?" If it's only been a couple weeks or less, I wouldn't get too worked up just yet. I know that's easy for somebody else to say, but much like what Shamrockfaced described, I went through something similar myself about a month ago. I just couldn't maintain a full erection during intercourse. Unlike what you're describing, I was fully operative during oral/hand action, but once it was time to insert Tab A into Slot B, the best I could do was about a 75% semi. That worked fine for Mrs. Shackleford, but only up to a point: my taking forever to fully charge and (maybe) finish got miserable after a while. I was wondering what the hell was wrong with me, and of course, she's wondering if I just don't find her attractive anymore. It's an awful situation to be in.

I was pretty convinced it was performance anxiety. Our frequency of sex has been horrible the past few months for unavoidable reasons. I hypothesized that maybe I was trying too hard to make up for the lack for frequency with nothing less than mind-blowing quality. Of course, all the prep that has to go into it for us of just allows more time for me to think about it, increasing the anticipation. I did a little research, and turns out performance anxiety is actually a physiological phenomenon. The hormones that get released when you're anxious act in opposition to the vascular mechanics of an erection. It also crossed my mind that maybe something happened in previous encounter that I didn't pay much attention to at the time but it stuck in my psyche to some negative effect.

I discussed it with a couple of my friends on here of similar age, and turned out they'd all had similar issues at one point or another, most completely inexplicable and resolving themselves. While nobody had the magic bullet, I think it helped me greatly just knowing I wasn't alone or doomed.

Whatever it was worked itself out in short order and things went back to normal. Just like that, no rhyme or reason.

That said, if it's been going on for, say, a month or more with Mr. R., it is probably time for a medical intervention. I see nothing wrong with trying a pill once and seeing what happens, but as others have said, the pill might fix the boner, but there may be an underlying cause that needs to be investigated.

Honestly, I wouldn't be too quick to write off the possibility of a psychological factor, especially considering all you two have been through with your relationship in the past few months and given the issues you two had with intercourse in the past.. There could be some subconscious doubts, concerns, or pressures at play. I mean, you're back together and everything's good and all, but to some extent deep down, he may still feel like he's having to win you back and that might not happen if everything isn't perfect.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

He stopped Prozac a few weeks ago he reported not having these problems while we were separated. Something psychological could be happening but when I'm having so many orgasms how in the world can I complain and not be satisfied?

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I also don't feel like it's me not being attractive although a few years back I remember going through those sordid feelings when his antidepressant totally killed his sex drive boner and ability to come. As soon as he went off of them everything was back to normal. I wonder if the Prozac still is having a residual side effects. I will tell you since our separation and having sex for the first time in a very long time he was much more Alpha than I ever remember him being in our own bedroom

 

[zenos]

No, he's horny as hell for me and doesn't know when to give up if it's not going to happen for him.

I wouldn’t recommend taking viagra unless it’s recommanded by the doctor. It also could be pyschological, which is solvable with patience and communication.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Trust me I'm not making a big deal out of it or trying to force my man to go on Pharmaceuticals to suit my needs. The fact that he's not 100% hard is a good thing because it means I'm not in as much pain the thing I have a problem with is the going from hard to soft hard to soft throughout intercourse. Like I said we've been married for 21 years he was 19 and came really quickly. Which was good for me cuz I get pretty sore pretty quickly with his size. I had to be very very patient and understanding to get a man to stop right before he comes every time he enters my really tight vagina. We communicate better than almost anyone I've ever met other than maybe my parents.

 

[849142]

Have a blood test to see if his testosterone levels are deficient. If so, there are a number of treatments like injections or pellets.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

He agrees it's time to have the testosterone check. It's been about 10 years. Even though at the time he had no sex drive his testosterone levels were actually higher than average. So yeah doc visit and health check up and blood work is in the works already

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

He stopped Prozac a few weeks ago he reported not having these problems while we were separated. Something psychological could be happening but when I'm having so many orgasms how in the world can I complain and not be satisfied?

Is he on a different antidepressant? Using, stopping, changing...all can play havoc with sexual response.

The 'come and go' erections though actually sound pretty consistent with typical ED. That's been my issue. And yes, it can be maddening.

And yes, there could be an emotional component related to separation and reconciliation. No matter how tough some of us seem, we do eventually react to situations, sometimes in surprising manifestations, sometimes well after the fact. Not necessarily PTSD, post a milder form of post stress reaction.

Or maybe it's D: All Of The Above

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Thanks men, all of you, for answering this questions. All possibilities are being looked into. But please continue the topic if you have something to offer.

 

[KindlyJedi]

Not really, no. It is my understanding that 40+ is the average age for the North American Male to start experiencing ED, particularly if they're circumcised. Sensitivity issues, apparently.

I've taken viagra myself, for fun, years ago. Pretty harmless, no side effects.
I didnt start experiencing ED until after I hit 45, but that was due to financial/relationship stress/fatigue and smoking heavily. At one point, my blood pressure was so high that I was at risk for heart attack and I had to take beta blockers for six months.

I'm happy to report that although I still smoke, the stress in my life has been significantly reduced and I now experience ED much less often. Only one occurence in the past year.

 

[scarymovie3]

no shame in using viagra.