Is a female a slut if....

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  1. Princess

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    Hello all! i wanted to know if you would consider a women a 'slut' or 'hoe' or 'tramp' if she wanted to do a 3some with 2 guys. I wanted to know because what gets me off is a man enjoying himself, and knowing that I am the cause of the enjoyment/pleasure. I think it would be even more fun if I had two guys to to get off with me. (My boyfriend and some one we mutually agree on.) Is that slutty for me to want that?
    I don't think so, but I would like to try it. also how could I approach my boyfriend about it?
     
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    No. There's dozens of threads about DP. Huge turn-on for lots of people. Um. Pick someone your boyfriend finds attractive. You can tell what guys think of other guys -- probably better than they can.

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    I think so. If you don't call a woman who fucks 2 dudes at the same time a slut, who would you call a slut. It is hard to hold that kind of woman and someone who has not even had sex before in the same category, sorry just my opinion.

    You can't have your cake and eat it too.
     
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    God, there's always the rule bringers and censors. Even here. So are the guys sluts too? Don't listen to him.
     
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    Princess (YOU GO GIRL!!)- what 2 (OR 3) consenting ADULTS do behind closed doors is FINE. And it's NO one else's business!

    UpwardCurve...in this case, YES she CAN have HER CAKE and EAT IT too.

    As for how to approach her BF - perhaps some MFM porn? (It's ALL over youporn, pornhub, etc. etc.) - just play it on your computer and ask him if he's ever considered doing such a thing. OR just ask him??

    Good luck!

    CL
     
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    Your not a slut, your a woman who know what she likes.:biggrin1:
     
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    i wouldnt think any less of a girl who had had a 3some with 2 guys,, hell i might even ask for details
     
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    I disagree and don't think so. Especially when it involves their boyfriend / husband.

    People need to stop being so judgemental :mad: (especially HERE)
     
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    It may sound like a subtle distinction, but I think a girl in just any 3-way would be a bit of a slut, but not so if shes with her boyfriend. Its like adding a toy or new fetish to their sex life. Variety makes things exciting and you never know what you enjoy as a couple until you try it, TOGETHER.

    Also, as someone alluded to earlier, this same logic applies to guys. Just because society has this wack belief that guys can (and are SUPPOSED to) sleep around and having FMF Threeways doesnt make them any less sluty
     
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    A slut is anyone that has more sex than you care to have, just like rich is anyone who makes more money than you do.

    I wouldn't worry about what anyone other than your boyfriend thinks.
     
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    Just like with any other sexual activity, some people will consider you a slut for it, and some won't. So what...

    Have fun, if you manage to persuade your boyfriend! ;)
     
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    I'd say how can I meet her. That is a hot occurrence. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. The only thing is you might owe him a mff threesome too.
     
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    No girl, u discuss it with ur BF, and if he agrees it is partof ur life. ur not doing behind his back. Enjoy both !
     
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    My wife and I have had numerous MFM plays and I certainly dont think of her as a slut. I actually encourage her to enjoy herself in sex, and if that means there is an extra cock or 2 then who am I to judge.

    Now....if I could just get an FMF happening.......
     
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    Hell no, you're just enjoying yourself imo
     
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    Hell no you aren't a slut. don't listen to the haters. You found something that you really enjoy, and want to share it with your b/f. Nothing wrong there as long as he is in to it to. There are jealousy issues and things you may have to work thought to make such an arrangement work. But in no way are you a slut for wanting that.
     
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    sweetheart, there are people who consider you a slut for having sex before marriage. it's not the opinion of others that counts!

    think long and hard...will it make you feel cheap? or will it make you feel sexy and empowered? only you know the answer to this.

    will you feel better with a man you know & trust...like a mutual friend? or will it be better for your relationship if it's someone you care little about?

    if you're worried about your image then be 100% sure your bf won't spread it about if you break up, and that the man you choose is discrete.

    i had a mmf, many years ago. personally i wouldn't do it again, just because it wasn't as much fun as i thought it would be...but i don't feel cheap for having done it. i had many years as a bored housewife and it was good to look back and think, 'yeah, i really lived!'

    want my personal opinion on your situation? you don't sound like you're ready just yet. there's nothing to stop you waiting a month, six months, a year. don't rush into it until you know whether you really want to try this. i wouldn't want your fun ruined by misplaced guilt. you'll know when you're ready.
     
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    Imo, a slut is a girl who won't have sex with me but yet will still fuck other guys. So the real question is not would a mmf would make you a slut, but rather would you would have sex with me? :biggrin1:
     
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