Is an emotional guy attractive?

[Principessa]

...and maybe I'll start wearing "sensible shoes", give up my beer and ice cream diet and, do the many other things that may be "good" for me? Not happening. :tongue:

Beer and ice cream? My aunt went on a beer, tea, and wonton soup diet in the late 70's, early 80's and lost 25 pounds in two months.

 

[Rugbypup]

Oopps, didn't see the women only thing, sorry, I voted.

 

[Bbucko]

I find nothing attractive in emotionally constipated, inarticulate men.

 

[MissPretty]

No...i prefer guys that are less "emotional" and more of what think of as masculine. Not sure if being emotional would be considered as weak but for me I like very aggressive, confident and dominant type men. I don't think being emotional means a lack of stability, but I do see guys that are to emotional as being less masculine and that's not good for me. However, that's just my opinion considering the types of guys I prefer. Everyone is different...

 

[D_Peter Stubigg]

Wow, the votes are worrisome to someone like me, but the testimonials from hot-bodied females makes me feel a little bit better.

I never understood the emotional guy thing (Or what seems to be the latest trend among guys I know: crying about how you don't know how to cry). I'm not saying every guy should be a combination of Clint Eastwood and Steve McQueen... Wait, yeah, they should, it's just that they can't. And that's okay, weepy guys need to get laid to. I guess.

 

[voidout]

ugh. it is not about CRYING. jeezzzz. why is everyone making reference to tears? being emotional does not just apply to being sad...

when i say that i like an emotional man i mean that i like a man who's passionate. who has no trouble saying the way he feels when the conversation comes up...

who would want a non-emotional robot? that's terrible.
i'd rather just fuck myself for the rest of my life.
at least that would vibrate...

 

[Pitbull]

If a man wants to stuff his big hard throbbing shaft into Sugarr, he needs to be relatively quiet in nature.

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[molotovmuffin]

I voted no..... I hardly ever show emotion (sad, hurt, unhappy) and I want a man who is emotionally stronger than I am. If I'm happy, you and the rest of the world will know about it... but if I've been crying... it's private.

 

[helgaleena]

I voted for emotions. It's not as if I won't be able to tell anyway what a man is feeling by all sorts of little things, but really! It's not good to stuff them back and have them fester. Say it.

 

[L_Lynn]

I voted Yes.... I wouldn't want to be with an unemotional crustacean!

BUT I do prefer a man who is slightly less emotional than myself because I need a tether more often than I am one.

 

[whatireallywant]

ugh. it is not about CRYING. jeezzzz. why is everyone making reference to tears? being emotional does not just apply to being sad...

when i say that i like an emotional man i mean that i like a man who's passionate. who has no trouble saying the way he feels when the conversation comes up...

who would want a non-emotional robot? that's terrible.
i'd rather just fuck myself for the rest of my life.
at least that would vibrate...

Exactly! And I can't stand the macho shit. (And for the record, I can't stand the extreme female stereotype either!) We need to get beyond stereotypes and just be people. And people have emotions. Not all of us will show it all the time, and that can be fine, but bottling it up all the time is not good either. It leads to all kinds of other problems, possibly even violent crimes.

 

[SR_Blarney_Frank]

There's probably a bit of conflation of the term 'emotional' with 'sensitive.' It's entirely possible to be empathetic, sympathetic and otherwise attentive without being histrionic. For the record, I don't particularly enjoy the company of emotional women. Yes we all have emotions, but if someone is defined as 'emotional' it often implies unpredictability or exaggerated responses. I'll pass.

 

[Icantthinkofaname]

I don't get why people associate being emotional with crying.

I consider myself to be an emotional guy, I've probably cried... 3 times this year, all of which were due to some kind of tragedy going on mixed in with a bunch of other shit. Things were bad, so I went into the privacy of my room and let some stuff out.

I don't see anything wrong with a man crying over something like a death in the family/of a friend, or the birth of his children, etc. Now if we're talking about crying because the bakery gave you a blueberry muffin instead of lemon poppy...

 

[D_Portelay Porquesword]

Then again, some men do their best. People who talk to much irritate me but I don't treat them as anything "less than" for doing so. It merely is what it is.

Men, strong and silent are nice. I also prefer men to be disease free and have a sense of humor. I think on a subconcious level many people associate emotion in what ever form as a sign of weakness.

If the man is just crying and wailing during Oprah, probably not for me but I am sure there are other aspect to life he may be well suited for. Who can say?

Bottom line, each of us has to be true to ourselves. As Pete Burns said in a BBC intervew a while back "Living life according such rigid standards that you can't go out and enjoy different kinds of people are usually those poor souls that wind up on their death bed saying: Wow, life would have been much more fun in a wig and pair of heels."

Men that strive for some sort of balance, that's the first ingrediant of attraction for me.

 

[whatireallywant]

There's probably a bit of conflation of the term 'emotional' with 'sensitive.' It's entirely possible to be empathetic, sympathetic and otherwise attentive without being histrionic. For the record, I don't particularly enjoy the company of emotional women. Yes we all have emotions, but if someone is defined as 'emotional' it often implies unpredictability or exaggerated responses. I'll pass.

This could be true, in this case I like men who are 'sensitive'...

I don't get why people associate being emotional with crying.

I consider myself to be an emotional guy, I've probably cried... 3 times this year, all of which were due to some kind of tragedy going on mixed in with a bunch of other shit. Things were bad, so I went into the privacy of my room and let some stuff out.

I don't see anything wrong with a man crying over something like a death in the family/of a friend, or the birth of his children, etc. Now if we're talking about crying because the bakery gave you a blueberry muffin instead of lemon poppy...

Agreed... Yeah, the crying over the bakery situation, I would consider very childish and NOT attractive, but crying over death in the family/friend, etc., or even crying during a sad movie, is fine.

 

[poizen-ivy]

It he cries more than me, No.

 

[Ramsey]

I have lots of thought on this, but suffice to say at the moment, today men need to learn to be men-and women need to learn to be women. Yes there are individual tastes and personality types, but both sides can be a little "off" nowadays. And most people are too damn selfish to help others learn to be better/stronger. So we get men that can act more like women and women that act more like men-and no, I'm not talking about gays & lesbians.

And so people that just call guys like that, "weepy guys", can take some frigging initiative and some balls to teach them, because yes there are some naturally emotional guys out there, but a lot of them just had fucked up families and they don't know how to control their emotions like they should. And sorry to say ladies, a lot of those strong silent types also had fucked up upbringing and don't know how to have healthy emotional responses-so they bottle them up and don't share them with anyone, LEAST OF ALL, women.

Me? I'm quiet in person for the most part, and listen more than I talk. Or, I'm quiet because I've got my own shit on my mind and don't give a fuck what you have to say :smile:

 

[ZOS23xy]

Just wondering :smile:
What I mean by emotional is not a guy who's crying like all the time, but just when he's going through a tough period or when he's watching a romantic movie or when his girlfriend makes him very happy... just a few examples.

Please only vote if you are female!

Without reading any further than the initial post, I'd have to say that anyone in control of their emotions and able to allow themselves to feel is a lot better than a bottled up personalities who only selectively allows access to their inner self.

 

[D_Kilkhampton Largehole]

And that's okay, weepy guys need to get laid to. I guess.

I'm not a "weepy guy". Read on:

There's probably a bit of conflation of the term 'emotional' with 'sensitive.' It's entirely possible to be empathetic, sympathetic and otherwise attentive without being histrionic. For the record, I don't particularly enjoy the company of emotional women. Yes we all have emotions, but if someone is defined as 'emotional' it often implies unpredictability or exaggerated responses. I'll pass.

That's maybe the term I meant when I posted the poll! Sensitive. My english is not that good to always find the right words :smile:

ugh. it is not about CRYING. jeezzzz. why is everyone making reference to tears? being emotional does not just apply to being sad...

when i say that i like an emotional man i mean that i like a man who's passionate. who has no trouble saying the way he feels when the conversation comes up...

who would want a non-emotional robot? that's terrible.
i'd rather just fuck myself for the rest of my life.
at least that would vibrate...

I couldn't describe it better, thanks!! Emotional is not equal to weepy. And I also think, in general, that sensitive men are more passionate and maybe better lovers than the macho types.
Which does not mean that we all need to become more feminin or something. Men of course still have to remain men. I like porn, I like cars, I listen to metal, I drink beer and watch soccer on TV.
But I'm easily touched by some situations, maybe my feelings get hurt sooner than the average guy, I like hugs, etc...

I don't see anything wrong with a man crying over something like a death in the family/of a friend, or the birth of his children, etc. Now if we're talking about crying because the bakery gave you a blueberry muffin instead of lemon poppy...

LOL !! That would be the definition of a weepy guy :smile:

 

[Daisy]

Sensitive? yes..of course. Why wouldn't I want to be with a guy who's passionate about sex, passionate about me..not afraid to show their feelings. I dont know any girls who like wimpy guys, but I don't consider emotional or sensitive to be a sign of weakness. If he felt overwhelmed by his feelings for me once or twice (which has happened with past boyfriends) and got teary I think that would be great, any more than that I might not be as enthusiastic but of course I like a man who can show emotion.