Apollo: Emotions are what they are but often, they are followed by an intense and lengthy session of talking of those emotions. I can handle tears but I can't handle holding hands and talking him through it for a great length of time. Not frequently, I need to clarify.
I would not turn someone away who was in need of comfort. I am not equipped to provide but so much comfort. But I am not the type to show all kinds of emotion to the guy I am seeing, so I expect the same. It is about fun, kindness, eroticism.
I am not able to do more than be a lover to a man I am intimate with. Until I marry him (and it is my duty and joy to be with him through his myriad of emotions), my obligations are at the sexual level.
If we become friends, then the sex is done for good and it becomes platonic.
My past has included guys who share (and talk) about their emotions with women, because that is how they were raised or their male buddies do not care-leaving them only the outlet of their gfs/lovers. I am sympathetic but if we are sharing all those feelings very often, my libido falls flat.
Which is ok. But my expectation out of a lover is very different than what I want from a friend.
And that means keeping things on an even keel. And preferably, using a lot of body language. As the song says, 'touch me in the morning and walk away'.
Mmmmmm. Sounds good to me.
He can kiss me with his sweet mouth and show his tenderness with his hands on my skin.
That is enough.
