Is anyone else tired of giving advice only to be ignored?

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You guys and gals are right. I appreciate the sound advice.

I'm gonna stew on it for a bit before I offer more advice. To be honest, you get a bit of a bad taste in your mouth when you feel like the advice you offer was wasted.

Hi Jeff, Always remember, that no one has to take the advice that's given to them. I think in the case of the condom issue most of us take the point of view that it is so unbelievably foolish to have unprotected sex with anyone that we can't imagine others doing it. These same people would not walk across the road with their eyes closed and hope for the best; but that's exactly what they are doing each time they don't take percautions. Don't take this guys comments seriously. When you consider his reasoning for not using a condom (because they break), his reasons for not wanting to go into the drug store etc, etc., You can see that sound advice such as you were giving will most definately fall on deaf ears. Everyone else around hear appreciates your comments, advice and humour. It's that dry Canadian wit most of us possess that keeps people coming back for more!

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I know I sure fucking am.

To be honest, I have to wonder why I bother to give advice at all if all I get in return is...

"Stay on topic"
"If I wanted to hear comments from a condomlover, I'd ask."
"Fuck off"
" You don't know shit about anything"

Let's give a big three cheers for a support group with members who don't want support.

I'm sorry ... were you talking to me?
 

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It always hurts when you offer advice to someone or compliment them and they don't want the advice nor the compliments. You just move on.

There are plenty of people who need and also want advice for the problem they are having. Focus on them. Life is too short to let others get under your skin. I keep telling myself that. Somedays I listen. Some days I don't. Unfortunately some weeks I don't listen to myself.:eek:
 

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First off, Jeff, you know I think you are one of the bright spots on LPSG. Funny, handsome, kind, insightful, the list goes on.

Lately I've been feeling like a bitter old crowing hag with my ranting posts. Maybe not exactly the way you're feeling, but similar. In my case, I think I'm more annoyed at me... but everyone else too... I don't know.

I do think I get what you're saying though. I just think that the smart, worthwhile folks read your posts and pay special attention to them. You always have something good to add.
 

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<--------- <3's condomlovers!!

Thank Goodness there are still some of us left, or this world would be a much scarier place. And just for the record, even though I'm a relative newbie here.... Even I know that you know a lot of shit about a lot of things. :biggrin1: (Boy, THAT was poetic. *snort*)

xoxox ~Amie

I know I sure fucking am.

To be honest, I have to wonder why I bother to give advice at all if all I get in return is...

"Stay on topic"
"If I wanted to hear comments from a condomlover, I'd ask."
"Fuck off"
" You don't know shit about anything"

Let's give a big three cheers for a support group with members who don't want support.
 

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Jeff,
When I offer advice and it is either rejected outright or ignored I don't worry too much about it. There are a few posting members including the one who asked the question and tens of thousands of readers. I always like to think that perhaps what I have said will strike a chord with one of the non-posters and help them out. I guess I would say that you need to remember that your advice is read and appreciated by others and not just the person who originally asked the question.
 

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Jeff,
When I offer advice and it is either rejected outright or ignored I don't worry too much about it. There are a few posting members including the one who asked the question and tens of thousands of readers. I always like to think that perhaps what I have said will strike a chord with one of the non-posters and help them out. I guess I would say that you need to remember that your advice is read and appreciated by others and not just the person who originally asked the question.
Precisely Dolf. The point is rarely the OP, who often has his mind made up, but the many who might be reading for enjoyment and accidentally learn something.
 

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This bothers me the most with my younger friends. Kids I know between the ages of 13 and 20 or so... I give them advice all the time, and I am ALWAYS INVARIABLY right about everything... but often it goes ignored. I guess many of life's lessons need to be learned the hard way.
 

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Not to worry Jeff. There are those of us here who do appreciate what you have to say. Oftentimes, it helps to reinforce what we either have said or believe. Strength in numbers. my friend.:smile:
 

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Jeff, the comments and advice you give are invariably thoughtful and kind. It's about being your truest and best self. What others do with it is about them, not you.
It is kind of rude to ask a question, get a careful thoughtful response and not acknowledge it. It goes with the territory of how you resopnd to people. I hope you don't feel like you need to adapt yourself to clods.
 

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This bothers me the most with my younger friends. Kids I know between the ages of 13 and 20 or so... I give them advice all the time, and I am ALWAYS INVARIABLY right about everything... but often it goes ignored. I guess many of life's lessons need to be learned the hard way.

You sound just like your mother did when you were 13. :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:
 

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This bothers me the most with my younger friends. Kids I know between the ages of 13 and 20 or so... I give them advice all the time, and I am ALWAYS INVARIABLY right about everything... but often it goes ignored. I guess many of life's lessons need to be learned the hard way.
What a twat! Just kidding, you know I love ya, guy!:biggrin1:

By the way, you should drop in a couple of the "guys kissing guys" threads, a few of the members have posted and have spoken definitively for straight men around the world. You'll probably be amused.
 

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Yes I am. JB, you give consistently sound advice and it's a damn shame the people who need it most ignore it. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't continue to offer it. One day, someone will pay attention and learn. That's when it will be worth your while although you may not even know about it at the time or possibly ever.

Keep up the good work. :smile:
 

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Some of the best positive comments I have received after giving advice come from someone who never posted on the thread and just read it. Members I didn't really know. For every poster who ignores you or says fuck you for your advice, there are probalby five people reading your answer and needing it.

There is an old saying, "A prophet in his hometown is scorned."

Too much truth there.

keep up the good work.