Is being a virgin a turn-off?

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  1. 2cl8

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    Ok so I'm a freshman in college, 18 years old and I just came out of the closet so I'm still a virgin in every sense of the word. I recently asked out a guy and he turned me down. We got to talk a lot and from what he said I think the reason he doesn't want to be with me is because I'm inexperienced and he's afraid that I will become too attached if I lose my virginity to him. Do you also think being a virgin is an issue when you are making the decision to date someone?
     
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    it's his problem... probably a reason to look elsewhere. and please don't let the experience keep you from meeting others
     
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    Agreed. He sounds like a real jerk. Sadly, you may find creeps on both sides, those like the guy you already dealt with and guys who will think you're an easy mark because you're inexperienced. I'm not saying this to try to discourage you. There are lots of good guys out there, too. It sounds like your judgment about people's motivations is pretty good, so just listen to your instincts and find someone who will treat you right. Just take your time and get to know one of them and let the experience be something both of you can enjoy.
     
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    Hate to say it, but gay guys are very flaky. You shouldn't assume it's your virginity that's the reason unless he said that's it. With gays, especially young ones, if you have a stray hair somewhere that can be seen as unattractive and they'll completely blow you off. It really sucks sometimes because with your first time, it really should be with someone special who you care about, because you WILL always remember it, regardless of what anybody may say. And with younger guys, it's all about booty calls and seeing where they can stick it next. I don't mean to sound derogatory or anything, but it's the truth and it's better to be prepared than get your heart crushed because of every douchebag out there
     
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    I certainly donĀ“t have problems with vergins. At least 10-15 young guys have lost their virginity to me over the past ten years ;)

    But with vergins and unexperienced boys you of course have to be careful and also patient, and I have met af few young guys who told me they were glad that I was their first guy, because I was both patient and careful.
     
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    Meh, great to know... can't wait now to get laid....
     
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    There is a rumour that SOME people become incredibly needy for the first person they lose their virginity to. Having said that, the people who become that particular person are generally needy to begin with. If you are a needy person, then that's why he was worried.

    Personally, i think he turned you down because he's a dick, or because he wasn't attracted to you. Not everyone is everyone elses type. Trust me, the fact that you are a virgin is absolutely NOTHING bad. Some people just aren't patient.

    Basically, he's saying, "listen dude... I'd only fuck you if you were someone I could get off with in 5 minutes or so. Since I'd have to take the time to teach you, that bores me because I'm self absorbed."
     
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    Generally I try to avoid the guys who 1. either just came out or 2. are in their late teens/early 20s. It has nothing to do with being a potential virgin, but young guys will fuck anything that moves, and rightly they should. Experience has the effect of calming someone down and maturing them and getting them in the mindset of settling down with just the one person.
     
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