I am an engineer and a published author and a bit of a subject matter expert on sexual topics and an exhibitionist (strange mix, but not for this site) and I am very successful and respected in all these circles. I find intelligence terribly attractive, and I know from experience that my intellect is one of the key facets that compelled my wife’s attention.
I can recall years ago, when we were in college, first dating, and I began showing her some of my designs, and she became flustered and needed to leave my place. She later told me that she was afraid of what she might do, or let me do, if she’d stayed. My intelligence, my ability to show her things that she’d not seen and considered before was overwhelmingly sexy.
And who says nerds aren’t sexy?
So, no I don’t find my intellect to be a problem. True, I don’t have many friends because a lot of people do bore me. People like me will go very long periods of time without finding another person of the same intellect, but when they do (like with my wife and I) it’s very exciting. I’m not a competitive intellectual, I’m very comfortable in my own intelligence and don’t feel I need to be bothered competing, what I know speaks for itself. My wife is a competitive intellectual, so sometimes I get on her nerves, because she’s always trying to outdo me, and this is a very difficult thing to do.
I can see where a male\male relationship would be more prone to the competition, but it’s all about personality. I’m sure there are brilliant gay male couples out there who get along just fine.
A last thought, we intellectuals need to learn to speak plain English if we want to have more friends, sometimes it’s our own fault we are bored in various circles, no one is making us seek out such elevated conversation that no one else in the room can speak at that level. We need to speak to the audience if we want to have an audience, because when you speak above the audience they are just as bored listening as we become watching the glazed looks of confusion. Just something I’ve learned over the years.