If the guy gives you the impression that there is more potential and disappears as soon as sex is over, is it really hurtful? I mean shouldn't you be relieved that the asshole is gone? Would you really want anything to do with him if he tries to fool you right from the beginning? Why should being used be hurtful anyway? It seems to me women don't pull this shit on men as much as men do. I know women use men purely for sex as well but if that happens to men they usually take it as a compliment if it's an ongoing thing. Is it because men are retarded, shallow or what? And why do we assume that when women disappear after sex it always mean the sex was sloppy.