Is "big cock" a compliment?

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I agree with you as I think it is merely a declarative statement reflecting an opinion. I share that opinion and I know it makes my mouth water but that's beside the point.
 

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It's an observation. But still a flattering one.
Good observation. I think people sometimes confuse flattery and compliment. The terms are not equivalent at all. Whether some remark is flattering depends on the recipient: if he's flattered by it, it's flattery, and if not, then it isn't. But whether some remark is a compliment depends on the words themselves.
 

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I think there have been a lot of great comments here thus far and I just wanted to throw my thoughts out there...

Be it intentional or subconscious, his original statement was completely neutral and could have gone any number of ways. He put it out there and was just waiting for you to fill in the meaning. If you were appreciative, then he would have run with it is as being a compliment. But ANY other response would have been turned around as your being a complete jerk.

Is it a statement of fact? Yes. But when someone tells me I'm hot, I don't respond with, "That seems to be the prevailing opinion!" Instead, I genuinely grin and I thank them. Because, while this is a fact and it's one that I know without question... It is also subjective and the fact that the person felt strongly enough to make a statement about it, generally means that they find this to be an appealing trait and regardless of it being outside of my control or not... They mean it as a compliment and it should be received as one.

You DO have a big dick. And to most people, their acknowledgement of this fact is intended to be a statement of subservience. And the polite response to this, is always "Thank-You."
 

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Well, the difference between dick size and how good your body is that you have no say over one of those things. You have a dick that is a certain size, and that's that. However, if you're dissatisfied with your body, you can hit the gym and improve it.

Things such as this are obviously meant as compliments, but I'll have to agree with Calboner that they are, in fact, not actually compliments.

A similar analog is that I am very tall (6'6"). Almost everyone who I meet will make some sort of comment about my height. Once when somebody commented that I am tall, I sort of shrugged it off and say "Yeah." At which point he seemed to get offended and say, "You know, it's normal to say thank you to compliment." (Protip: Do not simply tell tall people, "Wow. You're tall." It's fine to ask how tall I am, but please don't just remind me.) This is just simply stating a fact over which I have absolutely no control. It's like saying, "Your hair is brown," or "You have blue eyes."

The point isn't if you can change something or not, or if it's a fact or not.

The point is that they are complimenting you on having something that is rare. Like a big cock, a nice body, green eyes, or being tall, etc.

Another thing to note is that this subject is relative. A person who is taller than 6'6" probably isn't going to compliment you for being tall (since they are taller). A person with green eyes probably isn't going to compliment someone else for having green eyes (since they both have the same eye color).

It's a compliment in those scenarios because the person is basically saying, "Hey, something about you is exceptional!" (presumably that they don't possess).

It doesn't really make sense to say, "Yeah it's rare, but it's a fact so I don't take it as a compliment." Especially, if they obviously mean it that way (like a short person saying that you're tall in a positive way).
 
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Good observation. I think people sometimes confuse flattery and compliment. The terms are not equivalent at all. Whether some remark is flattering depends on the recipient: if he's flattered by it, it's flattery, and if not, then it isn't. But whether some remark is a compliment depends on the words themselves.

Well they aren't the same word per se, but 'to flatter' someone is "to try to please by complimentary remarks or attention."
 

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Considering most guys are most concerned about their size, then yes, it is a compliment, are the commentator means it to be one.
 

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The point is that they are complimenting you on having something that is rare. Like a big cock, a nice body, green eyes, or being tall, etc.

I already explained earlier how most of these are outside of one's control, so I wouldn't consider it a compliment. at the same time, while "tall" and "big" can be relative, there is a baseline for what average is. If someone said you have a "nice" dick, then that would be a compliment. "Nice" is more purely relative and not subject to numbers and whatnot. "Big" and "tall" meanwhile, are, honestly, more numerically-based.

I don't consider "You're tall" a compliment. In fact, it annoys the shit out of me. (Unless said line was spoken by an attractive female, and it was immediately followed up with something along the lines of "And I totally love to get boned by tall guys." Ten maybe I'd be okay with it.) Similarly, mentioning someone's hair or eye color isn't a compliment, but following it up with "It's pretty" or something like that would make it a compliment.

I digress, though. If Xtube Guy wanted to make it a compliment, he could have said "You have a big cock. It looks nice." Then, BAM! It's a compliment.
 

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Xtube is all about cock, and with cock, bigger is almost always considered better, except at extremes and in special circumstances.
So on Xtube, or on this site for that matter, I would always assume that someone saying I had a big cock was offering what they considered a compliment.
And, intentions counting for virtually everything in these matters, I would accept it as such.
 

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I already explained earlier how most of these are outside of one's control, so I wouldn't consider it a compliment. at the same time, while "tall" and "big" can be relative, there is a baseline for what average is. If someone said you have a "nice" dick, then that would be a compliment. "Nice" is more purely relative and not subject to numbers and whatnot. "Big" and "tall" meanwhile, are, honestly, more numerically-based.

I don't consider "You're tall" a compliment. In fact, it annoys the shit out of me. (Unless said line was spoken by an attractive female, and it was immediately followed up with something along the lines of "And I totally love to get boned by tall guys." Ten maybe I'd be okay with it.) Similarly, mentioning someone's hair or eye color isn't a compliment, but following it up with "It's pretty" or something like that would make it a compliment.

I digress, though. If Xtube Guy wanted to make it a compliment, he could have said "You have a big cock. It looks nice." Then, BAM! It's a compliment.

How does "out of one's control" mean it's something you can't compliment on?

I'm saying you can/should compliment on it because it's rare.

You're saying you can't/shouldn't compliment on it because it "out of one's control"?

I fail to see the logic there.

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Although yeah, I do agree that saying something is "nice" or "pretty" or whatever is a better compliment than just pointing out that something is rare.
 
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I used to respond to compliments with that one, fairly often. Got myself into a bit of trouble that way.

Agreed, but it's also a useful way of shutting down pointless interactions. I have a few dating profiles chock-full of references to books, music, film, TV, travel and pastimes, and if some horny dingbat decides to circumvent all that prime conversational fodder with "your pretty", then yes, they get an "I know!" in return.
 

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Tend to agree with Alpha and Chicagowuff, will add that if you 'compliment' someone and their response is 'that's the prevailing opinion', xtube guy wouldn't be totally off by assuming douchebaggery. Objectively, you just told him 'everyone else thinks so too' or 'you're not the only one who places my cock in high regard'.
I usually tell my students that when script is our only frame of reference, we tend to assume the superlative crude/sarcastic tone is being used, and objectively, it makes you sound douchy.

Of course, if one checks out your other posts and general script personality one would probably realise that such is your normal demeanour and would thus change the assumed crude/sarcastic tone to 'he's an intelligent guy and ordinarily communicates in that way, so he was actually accepting the compliment (let's not get stuck in anal-yzing the word) but was unsure of the exact form of acceptance to take'.

I would add though, that receiving compliments on things you have no control over do leaves one sheepish- as well they should. I remember when I went to the grocery store and just randomly the girl at the checking counter says 'nice toes' or when my oral hygienist says 'wow, your eyes are so green', which, mind you is even more awkward when you your mouth is numb and the dentist is doing his thing in it.
 
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How does "out of one's control" mean it's something you can't compliment on?

I'm saying you can/should compliment on it because it's rare.

You're saying you can't/shouldn't compliment on it because it "out of one's control"?

I fail to see the logic there.

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Although yeah, I do agree that saying something is "nice" or "pretty" or whatever is a better compliment than just pointing out that something is rare.

It's the same reason nationalism is stupid. It's out of your control, so there's no reason to be proud of it. You did nothing to achieve it. You can enjoy the benefits of where you are born, much as you can enjoy the benefits of having a big dick. You can like where you were born, just as you can like your dick. And other people can comment on it; they can say positive things.

To continue the analogy to nationalism:
"You have a big cock." : "You have a nice/appealing cock." :: "The USA is a country with a high HDI." : "I really like the USA/Americans."

That's my logic at least. I don't take "You have a big dick," as a compliment, and I get flat-out annoyed when people say "You're tall." Stating a fact =/= complimenting. Compliments are based off subjective attributes. Things like "big", "tall", and "rich", while they can be relative, do have a basis in numbers and are far from being solely subjective.
 

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My question is this: If someone commenting on a man's photos or videos tells him that he has a big cock, does politeness require a "Thank you" in reply?

It seems to me that it does not. "You have a big cock," as far as I can see, is a mere statement of fact, in contrast with expressions of favor such as "You have a nice cock." Of course, a big cock is something that men in general want to have; so in saying such a thing to a man (I mean saying it through the medium of the Internet when he has his photos there for all to see, not saying it to his face in a locker room or in some such situation) one is likely to be saying something that he may find flattering. But it seems to me that the fact remains that "big cock" by itself merely estimates the size of a body part, just like "big feet" or "big hands," and for that reason, "Thank you" is not the appropriate response.

I ask this because of an exchange that I recently had with someone by private message on Xtube, where my videos are posted. A user sent me a message containing the following text:

(Added in editing: "Xtube Guy" is not my correspondent's actual screen name.)

I was in some difficulty about how to reply to this. Think about it: if someone says you have a pretty big cock, why should "Thank you" be the response? It didn't seem the right response to me, but I had to say something, so I wrote back as follows:

That brought back this reply:

So, obviously, Xtube Guy thought it was a compliment. I wrote back:

Fair enough, don't you think? Well, I got this reply:

Now, it seems to me that if anyone in this exchange is a douchebag, it's Xtube Guy, as I went to some lengths to be civil to him, while he replied with an insulting epithet. It is possible that the question mark at the beginning of his post, followed by the word "yea" (by which I assume he means "yeah," rather than the Biblical "yea," which rhymes with "nay"), as if he were carrying on my thought, means that he was simply unable to understand even the words of my previous message. But it really bothers me to be called such a thing, even by a dimwit. So is "Thank you" an appropriate response to "You have a big cock"?

i take it as a compliment..the times it's happened to me in public(at urinals,bars,supermarkets,and parties)i smile,say thanks and keep moving.
i guess going through that type of thing for 25 years i'm used to it now.(i'm 38 yrs old now)
my male friends get a big kick out of it.but past girlfriends and women i've dated have HATED it.so much so that i've gotten into some big arguments about it.
why it upset them? i'd love to know the answer to that.
 

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Conversely, if his penis had been bigger than yours and had he said you had a small penis; would you accept his comment as a statement of fact or would you think it an insult?

Its true of all forms of communication and doubly true of written (communications); that perspective and intent can easily be misunderstood. There is something to the sentiment expressed by @Catharsis that "It's the thought that counts" and it probably doesn't hurt to give your Xtube fan the benefit of the doubt. :)
 

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I think it's probably *meant* generally as a compliment. Perhaps a good reply to someone saying, "You have a big dick" would be "Glad you like it" or "Hope you like it". But in the end, you don't owe everyone a response, and yea, he was a douchebag.

for the record, "your big penis is beautiful" :)
I agree with everything you said,even the big beautiful penis!
 

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Yes, it's a compliment.

Not many people have "big dicks", so in essence he is saying that you have something rare that not many people have.

It would be like someone saying, "You have a nice body." It is definitely meant as a compliment.
I agree!
 
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