Straighteightguy
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I agree with you as I think it is merely a declarative statement reflecting an opinion. I share that opinion and I know it makes my mouth water but that's beside the point.
Good observation. I think people sometimes confuse flattery and compliment. The terms are not equivalent at all. Whether some remark is flattering depends on the recipient: if he's flattered by it, it's flattery, and if not, then it isn't. But whether some remark is a compliment depends on the words themselves.It's an observation. But still a flattering one.
Well, the difference between dick size and how good your body is that you have no say over one of those things. You have a dick that is a certain size, and that's that. However, if you're dissatisfied with your body, you can hit the gym and improve it.
Things such as this are obviously meant as compliments, but I'll have to agree with Calboner that they are, in fact, not actually compliments.
A similar analog is that I am very tall (6'6"). Almost everyone who I meet will make some sort of comment about my height. Once when somebody commented that I am tall, I sort of shrugged it off and say "Yeah." At which point he seemed to get offended and say, "You know, it's normal to say thank you to compliment." (Protip: Do not simply tell tall people, "Wow. You're tall." It's fine to ask how tall I am, but please don't just remind me.) This is just simply stating a fact over which I have absolutely no control. It's like saying, "Your hair is brown," or "You have blue eyes."
Good observation. I think people sometimes confuse flattery and compliment. The terms are not equivalent at all. Whether some remark is flattering depends on the recipient: if he's flattered by it, it's flattery, and if not, then it isn't. But whether some remark is a compliment depends on the words themselves.
Depends - was it prefaced with "You have a" or "You are a"? :tongue:
"I know!"
The point is that they are complimenting you on having something that is rare. Like a big cock, a nice body, green eyes, or being tall, etc.
I already explained earlier how most of these are outside of one's control, so I wouldn't consider it a compliment. at the same time, while "tall" and "big" can be relative, there is a baseline for what average is. If someone said you have a "nice" dick, then that would be a compliment. "Nice" is more purely relative and not subject to numbers and whatnot. "Big" and "tall" meanwhile, are, honestly, more numerically-based.
I don't consider "You're tall" a compliment. In fact, it annoys the shit out of me. (Unless said line was spoken by an attractive female, and it was immediately followed up with something along the lines of "And I totally love to get boned by tall guys." Ten maybe I'd be okay with it.) Similarly, mentioning someone's hair or eye color isn't a compliment, but following it up with "It's pretty" or something like that would make it a compliment.
I digress, though. If Xtube Guy wanted to make it a compliment, he could have said "You have a big cock. It looks nice." Then, BAM! It's a compliment.
I used to respond to compliments with that one, fairly often. Got myself into a bit of trouble that way.
How does "out of one's control" mean it's something you can't compliment on?
I'm saying you can/should compliment on it because it's rare.
You're saying you can't/shouldn't compliment on it because it "out of one's control"?
I fail to see the logic there.
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Although yeah, I do agree that saying something is "nice" or "pretty" or whatever is a better compliment than just pointing out that something is rare.
My question is this: If someone commenting on a man's photos or videos tells him that he has a big cock, does politeness require a "Thank you" in reply?
It seems to me that it does not. "You have a big cock," as far as I can see, is a mere statement of fact, in contrast with expressions of favor such as "You have a nice cock." Of course, a big cock is something that men in general want to have; so in saying such a thing to a man (I mean saying it through the medium of the Internet when he has his photos there for all to see, not saying it to his face in a locker room or in some such situation) one is likely to be saying something that he may find flattering. But it seems to me that the fact remains that "big cock" by itself merely estimates the size of a body part, just like "big feet" or "big hands," and for that reason, "Thank you" is not the appropriate response.
I ask this because of an exchange that I recently had with someone by private message on Xtube, where my videos are posted. A user sent me a message containing the following text:
(Added in editing: "Xtube Guy" is not my correspondent's actual screen name.)
I was in some difficulty about how to reply to this. Think about it: if someone says you have a pretty big cock, why should "Thank you" be the response? It didn't seem the right response to me, but I had to say something, so I wrote back as follows:
That brought back this reply:
So, obviously, Xtube Guy thought it was a compliment. I wrote back:
Fair enough, don't you think? Well, I got this reply:
Now, it seems to me that if anyone in this exchange is a douchebag, it's Xtube Guy, as I went to some lengths to be civil to him, while he replied with an insulting epithet. It is possible that the question mark at the beginning of his post, followed by the word "yea" (by which I assume he means "yeah," rather than the Biblical "yea," which rhymes with "nay"), as if he were carrying on my thought, means that he was simply unable to understand even the words of my previous message. But it really bothers me to be called such a thing, even by a dimwit. So is "Thank you" an appropriate response to "You have a big cock"?
I agree with everything you said,even the big beautiful penis!I think it's probably *meant* generally as a compliment. Perhaps a good reply to someone saying, "You have a big dick" would be "Glad you like it" or "Hope you like it". But in the end, you don't owe everyone a response, and yea, he was a douchebag.
for the record, "your big penis is beautiful"![]()
I agree!Yes, it's a compliment.
Not many people have "big dicks", so in essence he is saying that you have something rare that not many people have.
It would be like someone saying, "You have a nice body." It is definitely meant as a compliment.