Is bisexuality a choice?

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I don't think anyone's innate sexual preference is a "choice".
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Originally Posted by D_22

I choose whoever makes me horny or happy. I don't care if you're a male or female. I didn't choose to like both sexes.

D_22 is right-on, and I work pretty much the same.
 
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I think that there is quite a bit of individual variability in just how fixed a person's sexual orientation is at any specific age.

Certainly, by their very nature, bisexuals are not locked into exclusive attraction to one gender. So they have the "choice" of seeking sexual pleasure from either a man or woman. But at least for me, the capacity to be attracted to both genders runs very deep, and goes back to my very earliest memories. So it does not feel to me as if I have chosen to be bisexual.
 
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NO! It is not a choice! There should be no discussion about it. Straight people didn't choose to like the opposite, gay people didn't choose to like the same, Bi people did not choose to be attracted to both. We choose who we want to date, or sleep with, or love, but so does everybody else. Just because it happens to be any combination of gender doesn't change anything. Sure, we may have preferences, or are in the mood for a certain trait. For instance, I'm dating a man right now, but I can't just shut off my attractions for women, or other men, just because I chose to settle down.
 

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At age 5, I was fascinated by naked men in the locker room at the Y. At 10, i had a huge crush/hard-on for girls, girls, girls. At 14, I performed oral on the high school quarterback. At 18, I fucked my beautiful prom date in her parent's RV at 3 in the morning. In college, I had as many one nighters with guys as I did with chicks. Right now, I'm not dating, but there's a hot dude at the gym who's made the first move. And the equally hot red-head female manager at Starbucks slipped me her phone number. I have no doubt I was born this way and it's presented as many problems as benefits.
 

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For me, yes. I was interested in other boys' bodies and cocks - we would shower together after school sport, and I (and others) would occasionally get hard looking at others. Then I discovered the joys of the female body and that occupied me for many, many years. It was only quite recently that I let my bi side develop, and while I enjoy sex with men, could have stayed with women exclusively. Don't think I could ever have played with men exclusively. Wish I'd tried bi sex at an earlier age though.
 
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Can I just be a horny male slut who likes sex with whom ever i get horny by, cock pussy or whatever. Im pansexual.
 
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As far back as I can remember, I have been attracted to both genders. I f suppose knowing that I liked both, my first instinct was to just go along with dating women and see where it gets me. After a few gf's in high school and college, I realized that not addressing this other part of my sexuality was wearing on me. So, as fate had it, I ended up meeting my current bf at a former job a few years ago. Turns out my same-sex relationship is just as successful emotionally, and sexually, as my heterosexual relationships.
In the end, it comes down to the person for me, doesn't matter male or female. I will say though that there are some days where I am focused more on men, and other days more on women. But most days, it is a constant bombardment of eye-candy and sexual urges. Sounds really awesome, but, I sometimes wish I could just focus my attention on one sex and not both. Becomes overwhelming at times. Not sure who I will end up with.
All I know is that being bi isn't a choice, it just provides you with more opportunity.
 

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Bisexuality is NOT a choice that we are born with. People whom are monosexual - exclusively attracted to the same-sex or opposite sex - aren't able to fully understand what bisexuals experience. Because bisexuality resides in the shades of gray in between those two end points of the sexual continuum.

That said...

It is a choice to express this with the one you love or crush. For many men, they may have these feelings or desires but will never EVER tell another soul to their dying day. For them repression is a much better alternative than expressing their sexual desires - given all the external pressures to be 100% heterosexual.

But that repression doesn't change the fact that their cock twitches when they see someone that makes them pause - even if for a moment.
 
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