Ever since I broke up with my ex, I have made it my goal never to fantasize about her. To try and forget her looks, and how she acted. I figured it was the healthiest thing to do. I thought it would help me heal, and I thought it would also open my mind and heart up more for someone else. Then, about 2 weeks ago, I just threw this caution to the wind, and went with it, and started to include her in my fantasies. Now I am here, because I am starting to feel a heaviness and sadness in my chest I have not felt since the early months of breaking up with her. But I am also feeling a confidence that I had early on, when I was much more driven, and found it much easier to get women. There is also a certain satisfaction of being able to tread where my mind has forbidden, a feeling of freedom, if you will, my body over my mind. Does it matter? Do you think it does more harm than good? Good than harm?