Is good sex that hard to come by?

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Women find men that are well hung and excellent in bed but are complete assholes to them and they put with it because he's so good in bed... and it's hard for them to leave so they let a lot of stuff slide that they wouldn't with someone who is just mediocre... my question is have any of you women ever been in that situation and if so what was the final straw to make you say "fuck this" he's so good in bed but I cant take it the bullshit anymore? and if that guy was to call you now for a booty call would you do it?
 

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My boyfriend is a liar and I am a bullshit detector. I used to call him on it, especially because most of the things he lies about are stupid. Since I'm married to someone else, I couldn't care less who owns his home, or why he has no veteran's benefits even though I know for sure he spent 8 years in the army for example. But I gave up on that because he would never admit to lying anyway.

Sometimes he lies about things that do matter to me. I can always tell when he is trying to hide that he has had sex with someone else. I can tell he is used to jealousy, and just trying to avoid drama. But it's an open relationship and I am married! I expect him to have sex elsewhere when he wants to. He works in a bar that is a swingers meet market! I also think he lies about women because I told him I would leave him if he was insufficiently discriminating. For example, I trusted a woman and her husband because they are his friends. I didn't ask any questions. I just agreed to a foursome with them because he knew them, and we all wanted to. Later, I find out the wife goes to adult theaters and porn shops with viewing rooms, and sucks as many dicks as she can, and tries never to suck the same dick twice. I have forbidden sex with indiscriminate women, but he loves their adventurous side. I try to remind him that I don't accept every person who wants me, but I have been very open and willing to have new experiences.

When I call him out on this type of lie, of course he can't admit to lying. So I remind him that I encourage him to have other partners, and I just want to hear very honestly about how he met them, who they are as people, what he did with them, and what steps he has taken to protect my husband and I from STDs. After that reminder, he will be honest about it again for a while. Then on day I will know he's hiding someone from me again.

It has never been my habit to tolerate lying. I always say you deserve what you continually get, because you will continually get what you tolerate. I especially do not tolerate lies about sex because that is something I consider dangerous. But for some reason, I never leave him, and I'm not planning to. I have never been so well-fucked in my life. I can't imagine having to give up sex with him forever. I really don't want to. I think he knows. I think he knows he can keep lying and I will keep laying with him. I'm not sure he knows how much truth I do know. Months ago I stopped poking holes in his bullshit and just let his false words stand.
 

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I'm more likely to put up with a guy who isn't that great in bed, but a great person in a relationship. I'll hope the sex can improve if we work at it.

What you describe would never happen - good sex never even enters the equation in terms of keeping a man around. The relationship works or doesn't work on it's own merits, sex will not make me keep him around longer. And no, I wouldn't take a booty call from him.

PS. Being well-hung has NO bearing on whether or not he's good in bed. If I get a tattoo, this might be it.
 

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My boyfriend is a liar and I am a bullshit detector. I used to call him on it, especially because most of the things he lies about are stupid. Since I'm married to someone else, I couldn't care less who owns his home, or why he has no veteran's benefits even though I know for sure he spent 8 years in the army for example. But I gave up on that because he would never admit to lying anyway.

Sometimes he lies about things that do matter to me. I can always tell when he is trying to hide that he has had sex with someone else. I can tell he is used to jealousy, and just trying to avoid drama. But it's an open relationship and I am married! I expect him to have sex elsewhere when he wants to. He works in a bar that is a swingers meet market! I also think he lies about women because I told him I would leave him if he was insufficiently discriminating. For example, I trusted a woman and her husband because they are his friends. I didn't ask any questions. I just agreed to a foursome with them because he knew them, and we all wanted to. Later, I find out the wife goes to adult theaters and porn shops with viewing rooms, and sucks as many dicks as she can, and tries never to suck the same dick twice. I have forbidden sex with indiscriminate women, but he loves their adventurous side. I try to remind him that I don't accept every person who wants me, but I have been very open and willing to have new experiences.

When I call him out on this type of lie, of course he can't admit to lying. So I remind him that I encourage him to have other partners, and I just want to hear very honestly about how he met them, who they are as people, what he did with them, and what steps he has taken to protect my husband and I from STDs. After that reminder, he will be honest about it again for a while. Then on day I will know he's hiding someone from me again.

It has never been my habit to tolerate lying. I always say you deserve what you continually get, because you will continually get what you tolerate. I especially do not tolerate lies about sex because that is something I consider dangerous. But for some reason, I never leave him, and I'm not planning to. I have never been so well-fucked in my life. I can't imagine having to give up sex with him forever. I really don't want to. I think he knows. I think he knows he can keep lying and I will keep laying with him. I'm not sure he knows how much truth I do know. Months ago I stopped poking holes in his bullshit and just let his false words stand.


Thanks this was a very honest post I appreciate that... but what makes you think that he is the only person that could satisfy you that way? or is it that you are not willing to take the time to find another man?
 

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I'm more likely to put up with a guy who isn't that great in bed, but a great person in a relationship. I'll hope the sex can improve if we work at it.

I've seen the opposite many times

What you describe would never happen - good sex never even enters the equation in terms of keeping a man around. The relationship works or doesn't work on it's own merits, sex will not make me keep him around longer. And no, I wouldn't take a booty call from him.

okay I can dig it I appreciate your honesty

PS. Being well-hung has NO bearing on whether or not he's good in bed. If I get a tattoo, this might be it.

Well I should have also said well hung and knows how to use it but I hear you lol
 

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Whew! Good Thread. I guess I'm a little more cut and dry with it.
I'm not married, nor looking for a relationship. I'm the type of woman that understands there's so many fish in the sea, why worry on one dude who feel he has to lie about silly shit? I personally have not been in a situation where I felt conflicted about continuing to sleep with a man who treated me like shit. There's nothing about disrespect that turns me on in any way, shape, or form.

At my age, If a man can't be upfront, honest, and genuine about who he is or what he does as a single man, then that means I need to befriend one who can.

Men with deficiencies like lacks maturity as a grown man (that includes men who use mind games and word manipulation as a means to try and gain the upper hand) in my opinion

You aint gotta lie to kick it!
 

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Whew! Good Thread. I guess I'm a little more cut and dry with it.
I'm not married, nor looking for a relationship. I'm the type of woman that understands there's so many fish in the sea, why worry on one dude who feel he has to lie about silly shit? I personally have not been in a situation where I felt conflicted about continuing to sleep with a man who treated me like shit. There's nothing about disrespect that turns me on in any way, shape, or form.

At my age, If a man can't be upfront, honest, and genuine about who he is or what he does as a single man, then that means I need to befriend one who can.

Men with deficiencies like lacks maturity as a grown man (that includes men who use mind games and word manipulation as a means to try and gain the upper hand) in my opinion

You aint gotta lie to kick it!

Thanks I appreciate your input and you have a lot of sensibility but some women don't have your perspective on the matter and I've seen girls just hang on because he makes her feel soooo good
 

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I'm more likely to put up with a guy who isn't that great in bed, but a great person in a relationship. I'll hope the sex can improve if we work at it.

What you describe would never happen - good sex never even enters the equation in terms of keeping a man around. The relationship works or doesn't work on it's own merits, sex will not make me keep him around longer. And no, I wouldn't take a booty call from him.

PS. Being well-hung has NO bearing on whether or not he's good in bed. If I get a tattoo, this might be it.

Took the words right out of my mouth. I have had great with well hung exes and refuse to be in a relationship or even friend with benefits situation with a man who treats me with any sort of disrespect. I have a very cut and dry policy about break ups also... "Lose my number because I've already lost yours". Harsh but you get one shot and if you royally fuck it up, you get the boot.
 

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Women find men that are well hung and excellent in bed but are complete assholes to them and they put with it because he's so good in bed... and it's hard for them to leave so they let a lot of stuff slide that they wouldn't with someone who is just mediocre... my question is have any of you women ever been in that situation and if so what was the final straw to make you say "fuck this" he's so good in bed but I cant take it the bullshit anymore? and if that guy was to call you now for a booty call would you do it?

No. It isn't hard to find a great lover if both are willing to be open with each other. A big dick does not make a man a good lover. It just makes him a guy with a big dick. What comes next is subject to his personality.

About the asshole part: After the first time he was an "complete asshole" to me? Of course. Evie3 (she isn't very tolerant of assholes) would love to visit with him once again with her non xxxy whips and chains.

I am pretty sure that when I called him back AGAIN, his phone would be disconnected. :cool:
 
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I demand the total package, and a large endowment is immaterial. Me? Spoiled? Sure, but I deserve it.

I want a good personality, chemistry, nice guy, great with intimacy; like I said, the total package.
 

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Sex is second with a man, simply because I know I can give myself what I want. If he's wonderful in other ways I can make it work.

What I can't make into a workable situation is being with a jerk.

I doubt I'll ever meet a man who is so great of a lover that I'll put up with his BS just to get it on.

No thanks.
 
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Thanks this was a very honest post I appreciate that... but what makes you think that he is the only person that could satisfy you that way? or is it that you are not willing to take the time to find another man?
I have been with many men. I am by no means inexperienced. I have had bad sex almost never; it's almost always been very good to great. What I'm getting with this particular man is on another level. Finger work so good there was a period where I had to re-learn how to satisfy myself. Psychological stimulation and teasing like I've never known before. Sex with him is deliciously novel. However, if his lips are moving, he is lying. I have never put up with lies before, and never thought I would. But if getting to continue fucking him means I have to try not to roll my eyes too hard every time something comes out of his mouth, so be it. I'm not ready to let go yet.

Also, I have two other lovers, and a husband. I'm having excellent sex all around. There is just something very different between us.