Is He Doing It On Purpose Or...?

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I posted about this in another thread and thought I'd ask

There's a muscular dude who works out at my gym. After a few weeks of head-nods and eye contact in the gym, I spoke to him in the parking lot. I told him his build was great and I asked his weight. He told me 215lbs. When I started going to this gym, he used to workout with a female (girlfriend I'm guessing) but she hasn't been at the gym with him in months.

He has the best ass out of all the dudes at this gym. I have found myself looking at his ass while working out and I'm sure he's probably noticed where my eyes are pointed. To make matters worst (or better), quite often he wears a thick, workout belt over his shirt. This combination makes his ass even more visible because his t-shirt flares from of the bottom of the belt at same time pulling his pants tighter around his waist and massive ass cheeks. So much so that I can tell what kind of underwear he's wearing every time...or if he's freeballing.

A few days ago, he was done with his workout and I saw him standing at the sink mirror looking at himself. His back was to the walkway and he still had his belt on. His shape and posture resembled a woman wearing a belted, mini-shirt dress.

Do you think he does this for attention or is it just me?
 

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I posted about this in another thread and thought I'd ask

There's a muscular dude who works out at my gym. After a few weeks of head-nods and eye contact in the gym, I spoke to him in the parking lot. I told him his build was great and I asked his weight. He told me 215lbs. When I started going to this gym, he used to workout with a female (girlfriend I'm guessing) but she hasn't been at the gym with him in months.

He has the best ass out of all the dudes at this gym. I have found myself looking at his ass while working out and I'm sure he's probably noticed where my eyes are pointed. To make matters worst (or better), quite often he wears a thick, workout belt over his shirt. This combination makes his ass even more visible because his t-shirt flares from of the bottom of the belt at same time pulling his pants tighter around his waist and massive ass cheeks. So much so that I can tell what kind of underwear he's wearing every time...or if he's freeballing.

A few days ago, he was done with his workout and I saw him standing at the sink mirror looking at himself. His back was to the walkway and he still had his belt on. His shape and posture resembled a woman wearing a belted, mini-shirt dress.

Do you think he does this for attention or is it just me?

Its you… he’s a dude going the gym… when he starts windmilling in front of you take that as a sign, until then, as you were.
 
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Its you… he’s a dude going the gym… when he starts windmilling in front of you take that as a sign, until then, as you were.

You're right. It's probably all me which is why I don't go out of my way to speak to him. He just has a nice booty and his clothes can't hide it so I look.
 
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Its you… he’s a dude going the gym… when he starts windmilling in front of you take that as a sign, until then, as you were.

Can’t it be both?

everyone likes to feel good about themselves. If he is generally showing off and he knows he has an interested audience in you, it is a direct ego boost.

Just what I suspected, he was trying to get my attention. He walked up to me last night and started a conversation.
 

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Just what I suspected, he was trying to get my attention. He walked up to me last night and started a conversation.
Or he is trying to identify if you are potential security issue, if you just stares and never talks it would creep me out.
Next time be a men and generate random talk with the person, that way you end the guessing and idealization and you get to know him, that could be a cool guy even if he doesn’t anything with you.
“Hi are you done with the machine?” Or whatever comes to your mind.
If he answer and is polite doesn’t means sex but talking eventually you could ask what you want to ask or infer that it’s not going to happen.
 

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Just what I suspected, he was trying to get my attention. He walked up to me last night and started a conversation.
Or maybe, you want him to get your attention. You sound infatuated with him. So the "is he doing this on purpose?" is you projecting your desires on him: yes he is doing this on purpose because you wonder if it is on purpose.
 

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Hi,
So I’ve been a member of various gyms across various states(U.S.) going back twenty years. Over this time, I have developed many informal friendships with guys, gals and couples.

in my experience, gym friendships can be very ‘bromantic’ but not necessarily sexual. When you are a regular at a gym, it’s only natural to notice the other regulars. After you get familiar with seeing this person regularly it’s not uncommon to give a casual salutation here and there.

Now, some times guys just want to make friends and usually they will initiate this by commenting on progress they see in your body or working out near you and asking for a spot or making a joke while you both look in the mirror working dumbbells. When the platonic friendship develops further, they may become comfortable going in the locker room if you both finish at the same time and talking while getting undressed. They may even make jokes about your body and even your junk and none of this has to be sexual.

But, it can be…

I have had an occasion or two when I got a different ‘vibe’ from a gym mate. It starts out as I described above but then you notice little things. Once when I was in my late 20s this married, 40s dude had befriended me but then I noticed that he was friends with only guys and almost never even acknowledged the ladies who were morning regulars. He also would make weird sexual comments like once when he was on a nude beach with his wife and some random black dude had a ‘horse cock’. He was Def flirting.

Your conversations can help you determine also. Most gym friendships are like bar friendships, very tentative and very general. Even if you talk about a few naughty things, it should be light and general.

As for the posing in front of you…That too follows normative gym behavior. Remember, every person there is there because they want to look better than they currently do. Many men(and women) love being admired at the gym and they don’t mind where the admiration comes from. That guy that yells after every rep while doing dead-lifts, he knows you’re going to look. That woman who wears the see-through yoga pants with no panties and always stands in the back so passers by can see? She too knows you’re going to look. Your friend who wears belts and shirts that cling to and frame his body, he knows it’s going to get a look. I too will admit that I like wearing certain shirts and pants to the gym that I know are flattering and when I know people are watching it makes me work harder to keep my form or finish my set, so it can be great motivation!

But yeah, the things that you describe don’t seem like flirtations or teasing per se . For starters you said he had a girlfriend. If I had a dollar for every ex girlfriend that worked out with me for a while and then decided to give up… so that’s not really a thing. Also, given that it’s been a while, I’d think he would have started doing more outwardly flirty things.

I say just go with the flow and don’t be weird.

Strike up a general convo or if you find yourself in the locker room together casually ask him if the belt helps with form or does he have back issues. If he seems curt/uninterested then you’ll have your answer. I’ve made some amazing friends at the gym and who knows, this guy may become an awesome friend for you.
 
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Hi,
So I’ve been a member of various gyms across various states(U.S.) going back twenty years. Over this time, I have developed many informal friendships with guys, gals and couples.

in my experience, gym friendships can be very ‘bromantic’ but not necessarily sexual. When you are a regular at a gym, it’s only natural to notice the other regulars. After you get familiar with seeing this person regularly it’s not uncommon to give a casual salutation here and there.

Now, some times guys just want to make friends and usually they will initiate this by commenting on progress they see in your body or working out near you and asking for a spot or making a joke while you both look in the mirror working dumbbells. When the platonic friendship develops further, they may become comfortable going in the locker room if you both finish at the same time and talking while getting undressed. They may even make jokes about your body and even your junk and none of this has to be sexual.

But, it can be…

I have had an occasion or two when I got a different ‘vibe’ from a gym mate. It starts out as I described above but then you notice little things. Once when I was in my late 20s this married, 40s dude had befriended me but then I noticed that he was friends with only guys and almost never even acknowledged the ladies who were morning regulars. He also would make weird sexual comments like once when he was on a nude beach with his wife and some random black dude had a ‘horse cock’. He was Def flirting.

Your conversations can help you determine also. Most gym friendships are like bar friendships, very tentative and very general. Even if you talk about a few naughty things, it should be light and general.

As for the posing in front of you…That too follows normative gym behavior. Remember, every person there is there because they want to look better than they currently do. Many men(and women) love being admired at the gym and they don’t mind where the admiration comes from. That guy that yells after every rep while doing dead-lifts, he knows you’re going to look. That woman who wears the see-through yoga pants with no panties and always stands in the back so passers by can see? She too knows you’re going to look. Your friend who wears belts and shirts that cling to and frame his body, he knows it’s going to get a look. I too will admit that I like wearing certain shirts and pants to the gym that I know are flattering and when I know people are watching it makes me work harder to keep my form or finish my set, so it can be great motivation!

But yeah, the things that you describe don’t seem like flirtations or teasing per se . For starters you said he had a girlfriend. If I had a dollar for every ex girlfriend that worked out with me for a while and then decided to give up… so that’s not really a thing. Also, given that it’s been a while, I’d think he would have started doing more outwardly flirty things.

I say just go with the flow and don’t be weird.

Strike up a general convo or if you find yourself in the locker room together casually ask him if the belt helps with form or does he have back issues. If he seems curt/uninterested then you’ll have your answer. I’ve made some amazing friends at the gym and who knows, this guy may become an awesome friend for you.
I agree 100%

Update on the situation - after a few days of talking to me, he asked me for my number last week in the gym. We have texted a few times but nothing major. Of course, I plan to keep the convos going when I see him in the gym and eventually ask him if he wants to hangout (watch a game, bar, etc).

I must say, I told another buddy who goes to the same gym as us (at the same time) about the situation. When I told him who the muscular dude was, he said he wasn't surprised by my story. He said "that dude seems to act weird whenever you're at the gym". So clearly, I'm not the only person who's noticed what's going on.
 
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I posted about this in another thread and thought I'd ask

There's a muscular dude who works out at my gym. After a few weeks of head-nods and eye contact in the gym, I spoke to him in the parking lot. I told him his build was great and I asked his weight. He told me 215lbs. When I started going to this gym, he used to workout with a female (girlfriend I'm guessing) but she hasn't been at the gym with him in months.

He has the best ass out of all the dudes at this gym. I have found myself looking at his ass while working out and I'm sure he's probably noticed where my eyes are pointed. To make matters worst (or better), quite often he wears a thick, workout belt over his shirt. This combination makes his ass even more visible because his t-shirt flares from of the bottom of the belt at same time pulling his pants tighter around his waist and massive ass cheeks. So much so that I can tell what kind of underwear he's wearing every time...or if he's freeballing.

A few days ago, he was done with his workout and I saw him standing at the sink mirror looking at himself. His back was to the walkway and he still had his belt on. His shape and posture resembled a woman wearing a belted, mini-shirt dress.

Do you think he does this for attention or is it just me?
sure he's showing off, but I wouldn't get to worked up that its just for you... tons of guys at gyms are exhibitionist and this is their build up for a good wank back at their apartment. don't read too much in to it. now, as previously pointed out, he starts windmilling in front of you, game on! do as you see fit!
 
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