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Sexyfigure206, you've gotten a lot of good advice here.
I'd recommend an honest conversation when you're sober.
I'd tell him your sexuality isn't up for discussion but your and his friendship is! I'd explain to him that you care for him as a friend and that the increasing intimacy is ok with you because of the trust he has earned. I'd also recommend explaining to him that the relationship the two of you share is new ground and feels good when it is happening and he has traveled down this path beside you willingly. He is as culpable as you. Friendships are not contingent on anything but being yourself. That's the great thing about them!
If he's currently uncomfortable with it, you have to accept those boundaries. However, the next time he was drunk and pushing those boundaries, I'd push them as far as I'd want them to go! Don't change for anyone, you are who you should be.
I'd recommend an honest conversation when you're sober.
I'd tell him your sexuality isn't up for discussion but your and his friendship is! I'd explain to him that you care for him as a friend and that the increasing intimacy is ok with you because of the trust he has earned. I'd also recommend explaining to him that the relationship the two of you share is new ground and feels good when it is happening and he has traveled down this path beside you willingly. He is as culpable as you. Friendships are not contingent on anything but being yourself. That's the great thing about them!
If he's currently uncomfortable with it, you have to accept those boundaries. However, the next time he was drunk and pushing those boundaries, I'd push them as far as I'd want them to go! Don't change for anyone, you are who you should be.
EmJay put it out there and I agree. Sexyfigure206, I think a sober discussion is the best course of action, if you go straight to drunk then let happen what happens and this is one of the few cases where I would say that pushing the envelope is OK. Please let us know how it goes. Im sure there are several of is living vicariously through you.
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A discussion could scare him off. It's like trying to tame a wild animal, no sudden moves or forcing him into a corner. Always leave a "plausible" out.
Tell him you got some new massage oils and ask him when he wants to try them out. If he agrees, go get some oils and head over. It's then unspoken that he would need to get out of most or all of his clothes. See which he chooses and get him comfortable with the situation. If he likes it, he'll ask for it again.
Tell him you got some new massage oils and ask him when he wants to try them out. If he agrees, go get some oils and head over. It's then unspoken that he would need to get out of most or all of his clothes. See which he chooses and get him comfortable with the situation. If he likes it, he'll ask for it again.
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