Is he into me? Am I being played?

[crunchydelight]

I’m 23, he’s 26. We met on an app on July 1st. He told me he’s been searching for a serious relationship for a long time, but no one wants exclusivity. I told him I’ve experienced the same thing. We went on date one, it went incredible. After date one, he invited me on a trip. I went on the trip with him, and it went incredibly. We made out for the first time. Since then, we see each other about three times a week. He showed me he has deleted all her apps. He told me “I’m yours.” He told me “I want to go through life with you.” He told me “You make me so happy. I want to do everything with you.” He wants me to move in with him!!!

Here’s what I’m worried about: On the days I don’t see him, he won’t text me or call me all day. If he does text me, he only gives me one word or sentence and takes between 3 - 8 hours to respond. He accidentally showed me his texts between him and his friends, and it was dramatically different. Like night and day. This is his ONLY red flag. Everything else about him is perfect. When we’re together in person, it’s completely magical. He is physically very affectionate. What should I do?

The texting thing is bothering me to epic proportions. I am beyond confused and hurt. I think about it more than our good moments. My thinking is: if you’re taking that long to get back to me, I’m clearly not that important to you.

 

[LPSG Simon]

He wants me to move in with him!!!

If you only met on July 1st, that's WAY too soon. I know people who date for years who still dont want to move in with each other. That's a conversation for way way way down the road, not after a few weeks.

This is his ONLY red flag. Everything else about him is perfect. When we’re together in person, it’s completely magical. He is physically very affectionate. What should I do?

Nobody is perfect, and generally, the saying holds true that 'if something seems too good to be true, it probably is'.

My advice is to slow down, focus on your own friends and pursuits when he is not around, and be mindful of how limerence can impact your decision making.

 

[Ikkaku]

I’m 23, he’s 26. We met on an app on July 1st. He told me he’s been searching for a serious relationship for a long time, but no one wants exclusivity. I told him I’ve experienced the same thing. We went on date one, it went incredible. After date one, he invited me on a trip. I went on the trip with him, and it went incredibly. We made out for the first time. Since then, we see each other about three times a week. He showed me he has deleted all her apps. He told me “I’m yours.” He told me “I want to go through life with you.” He told me “You make me so happy. I want to do everything with you.” He wants me to move in with him!!!

Here’s what I’m worried about: On the days I don’t see him, he won’t text me or call me all day. If he does text me, he only gives me one word or sentence and takes between 3 - 8 hours to respond. He accidentally showed me his texts between him and his friends, and it was dramatically different. Like night and day. This is his ONLY red flag. Everything else about him is perfect. When we’re together in person, it’s completely magical. He is physically very affectionate. What should I do?

The texting thing is bothering me to epic proportions. I am beyond confused and hurt. I think about it more than our good moments. My thinking is: if you’re taking that long to get back to me, I’m clearly not that important to you.

Moving in after a few weeks is a bad idea. When u first meet someone, u still don't know them that well. Moving in means adjusting to ones habits.
Anyway if he doesn't text u, when u are not seeing each other, means u are not yet a priority. ANd it is understandable, u barely met.
A partner is suppose to last a life time, if everything goes well. U take your time with that, even if everything seems like a dream.

 

[funguy9988]

You may want to do some online research about getting into a relationship with a covert narcissist. There are specific traits they exhibit and it sounds to me like you may have met one. The lovebombing you so soon after meeting you is a red flag. Also, the desire to rush things along is another.

 

[RyanMars]

lovebombing is a huge red flag, he is too intense too fast. be careful, he seems like he will become a problem

 

[barehole4use]

I’m 23, he’s 26. We met on an app on July 1st. He told me he’s been searching for a serious relationship for a long time, but no one wants exclusivity. I told him I’ve experienced the same thing. We went on date one, it went incredible. After date one, he invited me on a trip. I went on the trip with him, and it went incredibly. We made out for the first time. Since then, we see each other about three times a week. He showed me he has deleted all her apps. He told me “I’m yours.” He told me “I want to go through life with you.” He told me “You make me so happy. I want to do everything with you.” He wants me to move in with him!!!

Here’s what I’m worried about: On the days I don’t see him, he won’t text me or call me all day. If he does text me, he only gives me one word or sentence and takes between 3 - 8 hours to respond. He accidentally showed me his texts between him and his friends, and it was dramatically different. Like night and day. This is his ONLY red flag. Everything else about him is perfect. When we’re together in person, it’s completely magical. He is physically very affectionate. What should I do?

The texting thing is bothering me to epic proportions. I am beyond confused and hurt. I think about it more than our good moments. My thinking is: if you’re taking that long to get back to me, I’m clearly not that important to you.

Honestly a red flag is a red flag, go with your gut feeling & investigate more, ask to meet his friends etc & then you can ask direct questions, if someone is lying it will soon spill out.If he avoids this, that tells you for sure he is hiding something or someone from you.

As for moving in with someone so quickly, i would take your time on this one, my late mother always gave good advice & her advice was before you move in together go on holiday for 2 weeks before, then you will know what you will be sharing together & if the other party is being dishonest it will show.