Is Inexperience A Turn Off?

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I am a 23 year old virgin and have never had the opportunity to have sex. I’ve been told by a few people Inexperience is a turn off, and that they wouldn’t want to be with someone like that. Is it really that bad? I would love to not be inexperienced, but I can’t even find a female sexting partner let alone someone willing to actually have sexual with me. Plus I don’t want to just lose it I want to trust the person I lose it to
 
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Pretty sure this question has been asked before.

But here goes...I’ve had sex with both experienced and inexperienced men. Not much of a difference. Experienced men can be total duds in bed; inexperienced/virgins can be rockstars. It’s a person’s attitude towards sex that matters, not the amount of lovers they’ve had.

Besides, what is experience? Lots of sex with one person doesn’t mean you’ll have good sex with someone else. Sex with lots of different people doesn’t mean you can have good sex with every one of them.

Just relax. It’s not that important. What is important is the attention you pay to the one you’re with.
 

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Nope. I've never been with a virgin but I have zero issue with it. If I'm aware ahead of time, it means we can be slow and have a relaxing first time to get all the awkward stuff out of the way.

I find the concept of virginity as a whole really weird and outdated as fuck. Don't stress about not having sex yet. You will when you will.
 

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My very first lover was a virgin, but then so was I. So I had no comparison at that time. We were close so we took our time figuring things out. I think we were both unnaturally patient with the process at the time. Our second go round went much smoother but, unfortunately, also faster.
 

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The women above have already summed this up perfectly.

If I can offer some advice, please don't ask the woman how many men she's slept with. It's not relevant. Just focus on the now.
 

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The women above have already summed this up perfectly.

If I can offer some advice, please don't ask the woman how many men she's slept with. It's not relevant. Just focus on the now.

For sure! And never ever ever ask if a past lover was larger or smaller or crooked or whatever. It does not matter! There's a reason he's a past lover.
 

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It is a turn off. I also find the complicated thing about someone to trust a turn off. A fuck is a fuck.

But you should do what you find important to you and don't give a s&$€÷&$ to what internet people, or anyone else think.
 

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It is a turn off. I also find the complicated thing about someone to trust a turn off. A fuck is a fuck.

But you should do what you find important to you and don't give a s&$€÷&$ to what internet people, or anyone else think.
Yeah but if I don’t trust them I won’t want to be naked around them
 

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Yeah but if I don’t trust them I won’t want to be naked around them
Hmm that seems more of a confidence thing to me. I don't think trust really has much to do with being naked or not, unless you are concerned of them secretly filming you or criticizing your body?

Maybe you need to unpack the trust thing a little more. For example, I won't sleep with someone I don't trust because I don't want someone to fuck me over (pun unintended) or sleep with me just for the sake of it.
 

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Hmm that seems more of a confidence thing to me. I don't think trust really has much to do with being naked or not, unless you are concerned of them secretly filming you or criticizing your body?

Maybe you need to unpack the trust thing a little more. For example, I won't sleep with someone I don't trust because I don't want someone to fuck me over (pun unintended) or sleep with me just for the sake of it.
I guess it’s less trust and more being comfortable with them.
 
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