Is it a turn on if the bottom doesn't get hard

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  1. Mark5134

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    Do you find it a turn on or off if the bottom stays soft while you fuck him?
     
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    I would think it's a turn on. It would indicate to me that he is equally excited.
     
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    Fuck, no. I have a buddy who used to go soft when I fucked him, and we both hated it. Now he wears a cock ring and that solves the problem
     
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    Yes and no. Sometimes a guy has to relax so much to take me he goes soft or semi and that's a turn on, but it's also a turn on if he gets hard again because his hole tightens on me when he does--especially when a guy can't help squeezing me as hard as he can.
     
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    I have only just bottomed for the first time and I don't know if it was nerves or concentration but I never got hard. The top keep looking at my dick like he was disappointed I wasn't hard but as soon as he slid inside me he didn't seem to care anymore.
     
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    I don't get hard usually when I Bottom, not sure why. But, when I Squeeze a Cock with my hole, the Tops forget all about my soft cock...
     
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    I can be hard when I bottom but I clench up.
     
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    Most of the time I'm not hard when I bottom. Guys have questioned it before, most of them were tops and hadn't had as much experience bottoming as I had. It's not that I'm not enjoying the sex, but more that I'm not using my dick, so it goes soft. Maybe my dick just knows that some of the time he isn't going to get used during sex! Lol
     
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    I am often hard in anticipation of being fucked, but nearly always go soft at the "Ouch!" moment when the cock breaks through my sphincter. Some tops can still stroke me to ejaculation even though I'm soft or nearly soft. It's a different feeling to cum with a soft cock, and the tops really enjoy feeling my orgasmic contractions around their cock.
     
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    It doez not matter to me because that is not the part i am going to be abusing
     
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    Doesn't matter too me as long as they are into it
     
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    prefer if they are hard, and wank them to cum, makes their sphincter really tighten up mmmmm
     
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    not a turn off at all; I can't stay hard when getting fucked. If I top and he cant get/stay hard, after I cum I blow him till he does cum. [then he goes back to work and then home to his wife and two little kids!]
     
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    I don't care as long as I'm in a tight ass. I myself usually am hard when I bottom
     
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    Just curious, do you guys who have trouble staying hard while bottoming know why?

    This isn't my scene, but it hasn't been an issue when I'm going down on a woman, for example. Was just curious if it was more of a mental thing or if there was something physical about anal sex that interferes with it.
     
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    I think it's related to the fact that it almost always hurts, at least a little, when the cock goes through my sphincter. On a few occasions I have been especially aware of my cock going soft while the top holds his cock just inside the muscle ring. When I get that feeling it's a turn-on for me, even though it may not make me hard again. There may be a mental element involved, knowing that he is about to use my hole for his pleasure. Sometimes I regain at least part of the hardness while he fucks me, especially if he strokes my cock while he fucks.
     
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    does it almost always hurt to be fucked?? I've only ever topped and only a couple of guys have said it hurts, or I need to slow down/ be more gentle - as a top interested to know?
     
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    he he he well so long as the dick is already inside when you clench up, its good to fuck someone really tight;-)
     
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    yeah we tops like it when our bottom guys squeeze
     
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    I think a persons ass is worlds apart from the cock...different zones..a hard on is not required to feel pleasure...nor to cum. A top will realise this with experience
     
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