Is it better to love or be loved in a relationship

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Well, I guess he/she would stay and hope that their love would grow to match their partner's love. But you are right, over time that person would eventually decide to leave.

But how long should one give oneself to fall in love with someone??? Should you leave as soon as your partner's feelings get stronger than yours?


I think this situation would need a lot of communication. First why would anyone want to be in a relationship where you don't feel something deeply for the other person from the beginning? What I think usually happens is that after peeps have been together for a while, one of the partners loses some interest, and that's when things get hurtful, and the love becomes unequal.
 

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B) ,no doubt. it's more easy to be loved, love some one didn't love u is too painful for me.

of cause i prefer C) love each other.
and i always believe there is a C) somewhere
 

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I'll chose option B... but I could be feel guilty for being in that situation due the feeling aren't reciprocal on both sides. At the end I'll terminate the relationship.
 

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In a relationship would you rather
A) be totally in love with someone, but he/she only likes you a little
or
B) only like someone a little, but he/she is totally in love with you.

(I realize the ideal situation is both parties are totally in love, but that's not an option.)



id go for the both but well it's not an option so i'll choose...'B'
 

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Some recent psychological research has addessed this topic. From a simple standpoint the one who is loved: puts forth less effort, spends less money, expends fewer resources, receives more benefits of various types, and has less relationship/partner related mental/emotional turmoil/problems/issues. Thus frm one standpoint it is more beneficial to be loved than to love. However, significant amounts of research exist that describe the benefits of loving someone...mental, emotional, physical, etc.