Is it cheating??

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I don't consider it cheating. They may not approve of it but I don't consider playing around on cam cheating. You've had no physical contact with that person and likely no emotional bond either. You blew a load with somebody on the net, big deal move along. I wouldn't tell her but if you feel guilty about it just don't do it again.
 

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Anything that is deceiving is cheating.

Deceit of the truth is cheating. In a committed relationship the things that are private are for your significant other, showing your penis off to other woman with the intent for pleasure and fun is cheating in my eyes.

If my girlfriend showed other men her vagina and breasts and wanted to hide it from me should I feel good?
If my boyfriend showed his penis off to other men/women and jerked off and cum'd to strangers and hid it from me should I feel good?

That's just my 2 cents...maybe I'm traditional and in this day and age if you're not physically fucking someone other than your SO it isn't cheating. But for me what's mine is mine, and I would hope my S.O. would feel/do the same.
 

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Unless you specifically gave your girlfriend complete control over your life, or veto power over everything you do, then no, it's not cheating.

Suppose there's a coffee shop in your neighborhood with a barista who wears revealing tops and flirts with the customers a little. Is it "cheating" to go get a cappucino there? Of course not. It's a harmless way to spend some leisure time, involving pleasant human interaction with no real emotional consequences. Same thing.
 

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Unless you specifically gave your girlfriend complete control over your life, or veto power over everything you do, then no, it's not cheating.

Suppose there's a coffee shop in your neighborhood with a barista who wears revealing tops and flirts with the customers a little. Is it "cheating" to go get a cappucino there? Of course not. It's a harmless way to spend some leisure time, involving pleasant human interaction with no real emotional consequences. Same thing.

I'm sorry but I have to disagree.

A barista/customer relationship is nothing like cam fun. Other than a friendly greeting and perhaps some small talk there is no other interaction with a barista.

On webcam emotional consequences will occur due to the intimacy of the acts being performed, or discussed. Just because it's virtual doesn't mean it's not 'real' and not happening.
 

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I'm sorry but I have to disagree.

A barista/customer relationship is nothing like cam fun. Other than a friendly greeting and perhaps some small talk there is no other interaction with a barista.

On webcam emotional consequences will occur due to the intimacy of the acts being performed, or discussed. Just because it's virtual doesn't mean it's not 'real' and not happening.

For the man participating in "cam fun," I'd bet there are no emotional consequences most of the time. It's just a way to make jacking off a little less lonely.

But I take your point that online interaction is just as "real" as one makes it. So I would amend my earier response to say this: having webcam sex is no more cheating than masturbating is. But developing feelings for your webcam partner -- the kind of feelings that could undermine your relationship with your girlfriend -- that's cheating.
 

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But I take your point that online interaction is just as "real" as one makes it. So I would amend my earier response to say this: having webcam sex is no more cheating than masturbating is. But developing feelings for your webcam partner -- the kind of feelings that could undermine your relationship with your girlfriend -- that's cheating.

I understand completely and for a man I think I'd agree. I can't speak for all other women, but I'm much more cerebral and don't think with my vagina (no offence to men, I love men) and I would develop feelings. Not necessarily intimate, but I'd feel a connection of some sort with the person I was camming with.

I don't consider masturbation cheating, that's absurd.
Mutual masturbation or my significant other being watched by someone in the same room - I'm not sure how I'd categorize this. But I think it's a step towards cheating. Same with webcam fun.
Full sexual contact - cheating


I suppose there is a spectrum. It's likely that both members of the relationship disagree on what that spectrum is. Therefore I'd err on the side of caution.

I think of how I'd like to be treated and how I'd treat my partner. I'd feel guilt if I was having online fun with others; I'd feel like I was cheating. My partner might think otherwise if they were doing the same.
 

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I don't consider it cheating. They may not approve of it but I don't consider playing around on cam cheating. You've had no physical contact with that person and likely no emotional bond either. You blew a load with somebody on the net, big deal move along. I wouldn't tell her but if you feel guilty about it just don't do it again.

sexual activity your partner doesn't know of...cheating
 
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I don't think so, if there is no intent on real life meet up or relationship, it's just like masterbating and thinking about someone other than your partner. I'd be sure my gf masterbates and thinks of guys much hotter/better built/hung than me.

I'd say in most cases caming with someone is no different than having a bat thinking about the hot movie star of your dreams, only the person you are camming with makes you feel a little bit less of a lonely wanker. Bit of harmless fun all round I'd think.
 

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Cheating isn't about what you do with the other person/people, it's about what you do to your partner. If there's something you'd like to do but you know your partner wouldn't be okay with it you have three choices. 1) Not do it. 2) Do it and face the consequences. 3) Do it and keep it a secret. If you choose 3 you're cheating.

You have every right to cam with attractive women if you want. Your girlfriend also has the right to decide if she wants to date someone who does that. By doing it and keeping it from her you're exercising your right to choose but keeping her from doing the same. That's the cheating part.

If you want to have a girlfriend and do cam sessions, fine. Find a girlfriend who doesn't mind it. If this particular girl is not okay with that then you have a choice to make. You can't just have your cake and eat it too.