Is It Cumming Or Orgasm That More Dampens Libido/erections?

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Up front, to clarify, I'm not talking about staying hard after cumming, or quickly getting hard for round 2, I'm asking about the longer-term effect (hours later) on getting hard.

Hypothetical: let's say it's been several days since I've cum, and I have a date planned with my girl for tonight, but after we slept in this morning, she's amused that I've still got morning wood after stepping out of the shower, so she gives me a blowjob. Assuming I want to be sure I'll get a raging hardon tonight, should I:
A) Turn down the blowjob
B) Let her suck me to almost the point-of-no-return, but then have her open her mouth so that I can shoot my load without any stimulation, to avoid triggering orgasm, then tell her that's enough and walk away still hard.
C) Let her suck me me off, but clamp down while I'm cumming to minimize how much cum I shoot (after the first few spurts they'll just be dry pulses).
D) Let her suck me to the point-of-no-return, then pull out and jerk off every last drop into her mouth, and hope in 12 hours it won't make any difference.

So, what I'm getting at is, what is it that dampens the libido and the quickness to get hard the next time? Is it because you felt "satisfied" from the stimulation during orgasm, or is it the "tank" being physically drained by cumming? Is it more mental or physical?
 
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Go for D , if Shes turning you on enough you will be back within the hour nevermind 12
 
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12 hours is plenty of time for your batteries to recharge imo.
I didn't mean that I wouldn't be able to get hard at all or cum at all -- I'm just curious how much the various options would degrade my potential.

I probably shouldn't have included options A and D, since their consequences are obvious.
 
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Nobody knows your body like yourself bruh, personally I can't really comprehend the time scale you're talking about, that amount of time I'd be crawling the walls ready to fuck. I am fairly highly sexed though and never have a problem being ready, I have sex with my wife at least twice a day and more during this lockdown period, I just don't seem to suffer from a diminished libido. We can have a real long freaky session, swap out multiple positions and I'll bust several times during before I'm done but I'll always be ready to go again a few hours later or sometimes less.
 
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So, what I'm getting at is, what is it that dampens the libido and the quickness to get hard the next time? Is it because you felt "satisfied" from the stimulation during orgasm, or is it the "tank" being physically drained by cumming? Is it more mental or physical?
What you are talking about is called the refractory period. I'd google that for more info, but here is a fairly decent article that walks you through what you are concerned about.
 

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Up front, to clarify, I'm not talking about staying hard after cumming, or quickly getting hard for round 2, I'm asking about the longer-term effect (hours later) on getting hard.

Hypothetical: let's say it's been several days since I've cum, and I have a date planned with my girl for tonight, but after we slept in this morning, she's amused that I've still got morning wood after stepping out of the shower, so she gives me a blowjob. Assuming I want to be sure I'll get a raging hardon tonight, should I:
A) Turn down the blowjob
B) Let her suck me to almost the point-of-no-return, but then have her open her mouth so that I can shoot my load without any stimulation, to avoid triggering orgasm, then tell her that's enough and walk away still hard.
C) Let her suck me me off, but clamp down while I'm cumming to minimize how much cum I shoot (after the first few spurts they'll just be dry pulses).
D) Let her suck me to the point-of-no-return, then pull out and jerk off every last drop into her mouth, and hope in 12 hours it won't make any difference.

So, what I'm getting at is, what is it that dampens the libido and the quickness to get hard the next time? Is it because you felt "satisfied" from the stimulation during orgasm, or is it the "tank" being physically drained by cumming? Is it more mental or physical?
Orgasm dampens libido. This is why you can ejaculate and stay hard. Regardless, 12 hours should be enough time to be hard again at night.
 

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I actually read some scientific research the other day that backs up the sort of thing I suspected: pressure in the seminal vesicles (fuller from abstinence) triggers nerves that signal the brain "the tank is full", increasing the chance/rate of mental arousal. So while it's true that ejaculating without orgasm doesn't kill libido as much, there's still a price to be paid.

It's not that I'm worried about this or anything, I just wanted to get a better understanding of the mechanisms involved.