Is it gay?

[ramwella]

I'd say is was certainly, at the very least, bi-curious. The reason I say that is b/c if you were totally indifferent about the incident, then you wouldn't have thought anymore about it beyond the locker room. And you wouldn't be on-line seeking advice about it either. The incident just would have stayed there.
But, since you are rewinding everything in your mind and pondering what it all means, chances are there is some curiousity there. That is not a bad thing, but something to consider.

I know, b/c I've been there. I went through a "bi-curious" stage in college during my junior year. It made me do serious self inventory on how I viewed sex and my sexuality. Once I finally got over my so-called macho self and that pesky man-crush on my roommate, I was free to experience an awesome side of sex that I otherwise would have never known was possible.

And, if I'm reading you correctly, you're probably wondering what your co-worker is thinking right now, too. Right?

Bottom line: It is okay if you enjoyed it. Having that 2 extra inches is a nice start.

 

[Matthew]

Why do you care if it was gay?

Thank you!!!

 

[B_josiah852]

Are you guys gonna get together and make sure the comparison was done right ? lol

 

[Nrets]

Is it gay that I think this thread is totally cute?

 

[BIGBULL29]

Man, if comparing dicks makes a man gay, there's a hell of a lot of gay men out there. :biggrin1:

 

[D_N Flay Table]

I dont think its gay at all..
men straight and gay LOVE big cock...
think of it like this:
when you watch porno, do you want the guy in the scene to be 5" or 10"?
10" of course!!!
you want to see big cock beating up some poon!!!!
does that make you gay?
no!
it makes you a guy.
period, end of topic..
NEXT!

 

[BIGBULL29]

I dont think its gay at all..
men straight and gay LOVE big cock...

A lot of men of all sexual orientations love dick and big dicks. Why? Because they have one themselves:biggrin1:

Listen to the blue collar boys talking to their workmates about the big dicks they see in pornos...

:wink:

 

[bravesoldier]

dxjnorto,

I never had a strap on cock in my ass like the photo depicts, but ass play done right can be hot man.

If my lady wanted to try it right I would let her..

 

[snoozan]

when me and my girlfriends fluff our tits and feel each other up to get a comparison when we're bra shopping, are we doing something gay? if our nipples get hard while we're doing it, does that make it gay?

okay, i just threw that in there to titillate the straight guys a little bit.

i don't think it matters. things happen. who cares? there's no shame in it, whatever it is.

 

[ostrich egg]

Does your post win a prize for the most sensible so far?

With over 6 billion people said to currently be alive on Earth without objective verdical verification of the concurrence of terminological application can this question have any answer that is objectively warranted.

now wait... hu?

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

Guys have been having dick contests since there was more than one dick. If you got turned on, it's gay.

 

[TripodMillenium]

It could be argued as an objective scientific experiment of as, technically, a homosexual act as it was directly sex/sex organ related between two men. I say that depends on the motivations behind it.


So.. as an act? It can be taken as technically a GAY ACT.... but as an action by a gay guy or that supports a theory of one being gay? Naw. As said, comparisons happen all the time.


Just remember... according to psychology, the instances of perfect heterosexuality and perfect homosexuality are very very rare. Most of us fall between those two extremes somewhere on the continuum.


That, of course, is complicated. So, gay and straight are used socially to refer to where someone leans in majority -- to simplify things. For instance: I can appreciate that a woman is beautiful or even that her boobs look squishy, but I do not desire to have sex or sexual conduct with her... maybe a boobie squeeze for laughs. This makes me quite firmly gay... even though, by percentages, I wouldn't be 100% homosexual. There have also been guys who don't desire to have sex with other guys who have even touched my cock out of curiosity. Socially, they're "straight"... even if they, too, are not 100% on their side of the spectrum.


This is why we have that nice percent thing with our orientations here. :wink:


Either way, don't worry about it, dude. If you liked it, you liked it. If you didn't, you didn't. Extremes are boring, anyways. :biggrin1:

 

[headbang8]

Answers to the question:

• No, it's not gay. If your workmate asked you how tall you were, and you compared your height, it may just be innocent conversation, however personal the subject.
• That said, it IS sexual. If it were a discussion between a straight man and a straight woman, and she asked you how big your dick was in exchange for revealing how large her breasts were, either of you might be up for sexual harassment.
• You DID cross the line into intimacy with this guy. It is the kind of thing that only the most intimate of friends discuss. If he's not a good friend outside of work, I'd say you were pretty reckless with one of the intimate details of your life. Would you feel comfortable sharing other knowledge of your sexual life with him? Is he such a good pal that you would trust him with something so personal? If the answer is yes to those two questions, then what you did was not only not gay, but probably a good and helpful moment that deepened your friendship.
• Straight men on this forum share intimacies all the time, and that's what makes it an exceptional place. Women exchange intimacies anyplace, any time, and think nothing strange of it. WE all need someone to share these intimacies with, and it's not always our significant other, especially if you're straight. There are some things men need to talk to other men about, and gay phobia bullshit gets in the way. It's great that you two guys broke down that barrier.

 

[crescendo69]

(post retracted by myself; I think I spoke a little crassly - sorry)

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Hey, Steve, are you still reading these posts, and all the inciteful responses? I'm not sure you thought there would be so many angles to this.

You got the wrong kind of insightful there buddy.

 

[crescendo69]

whoops, my bad

 

[EddieAztek]

That is some gay shit you doing.

 

[bottomnoi3382]

no i dont think so, it is natural to compare them. maybe not side to side and stuff like that lol, but no i dont think it is

 

[TxAg]

is what we did kinda gay? I mean standing next to each other and working up an erection to compair?

Naw, it ain't gay. It's abnormal.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Naw, it ain't gay. It's abnormal.

It's not abnormal. It's just that the desire to compare has taken over.:biggrin1:

In gangbangs, most dudes are secretly sizing each other up like there's no tomorrow. :wink: