Is it hard for a woman to go back to a small dick?

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Remenissions said:
A girl I'm interested in had sex with a man with a 12 inch penis and I'm only 5.5 so...

Well many women have experienced different sizes and girths, so unless she's told you otherwise, I wouldn't assume anything. I suppose 5.5 inches doesn't sound that impressive when compared against 12 inches, but then again, there are a helluva lot more guys out there with 5.5" penises than 12" ones. In the end, you can only uses what you have. I seriously doubt you can compensate and make 5.5 feel like 12, so if that is what she wants and prefers, you may have to find another girl. People can be sexually incompatible, but there are plenty of women out there who could give a damn really.
 

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From my own experience - it's not easy, and hard enough for me to have never tried it. Maybe a few times after my first sex (which was with a rather hung guy), but I noticed quickly that I need more size to feel comfortable during sex. I'd not consider myself to be a hardcore size queen, but I can't relate the fun and pleasures big cocks give me to smaller men, and I can't see a good reason therefor why I should try to go back. If you know what fun you can have with a big dick, why give it up?
 

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ClaireTalon said:
If you know what fun you can have with a big dick, why give it up?

Well it could be a problem if one were to seriously fall for a guy who wasn't the preferred size, but I see your point. If you know what you like and/or need, why should you have to settle.

Love your use of the word "fun" Claire, because sex should be fun IMO, and not frustrating.
 

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Aplus said:
Well it could be a problem if one were to seriously fall for a guy who wasn't the preferred size, but I see your point. If you know what you like and/or need, why should you have to settle.

Love your use of the word "fun" Claire, because sex should be fun IMO, and not frustrating.

It's just natural that sex should be fun, and to have fun in bed, it needs more than just "sufficient" endowment, there has to be some extra, be it a longer dick or elaborate techniques. I prefer it to be a longer dick, because I don't really like bed acrobatics. Talk about being a linebacker girl ;-)
 

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ClaireTalon said:
It's just natural that sex should be fun, and to have fun in bed, it needs more than just "sufficient" endowment, there has to be some extra, be it a longer dick or elaborate techniques. I prefer it to be a longer dick, because I don't really like bed acrobatics. Talk about being a linebacker girl ;-)

I can see Claire being a woman who fucks a cock rather than is fucked by a cock! Length for a guy who is with her would be a good thing.:) ;) :)
 

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insideoutside said:
I'm interested to hear from the women here on whether it's hard for you to go back to having sex with a guy with a small dick or having someone like that as boyfriend, after sleeping with guys with big cocks and knowing how good sex is with them. Throughout my life I've almost always been with women who had previous experienced sex with very well-endowed guys.. and while some girlfriends have been more diplomatic towards me than others, all have expressed in one way or another that they miss the big cock and how it feels.. for your information I'm 5 inches. Just wondering if it's possible at all for a girl who's had say a 9 or 10 inch to ever enjoy a serious relationship with someone with a small one and not having to look elsewhere or think about the big ones..

I would say yes. After having a nice large one, a small one just doesn't do it for you. And I do not care how good you are with your tongue, it just isn't the same. :rolleyes:
 

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Shelby said:
I've been toying with the concept that most size queenery, be it coming from a male or a female, is at some level a function of insecurity.

Or maybe it's just like the large guy who longs for the feeling of full penetration. It might not be a deal breaker, but it sure would be nice.
I guess women aren't supposed to consider our own satisfaction if we discover we're deeper, right? We're just bitches if we know what it takes to get us there.:rolleyes:
 
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Amen sister! Size queens aren't bitches, at least not the real size queens. There are those girls who think that they might like a big one, or that they like the look of a big one, but they are sometimes mistaken. Madam I am sure that your concern for a big cock is because it feel better, plain and simple. You can explain it by saying that you are deeper, but thats just an explanation not an excuse, because you dont need an excuse, it just feels better to YOU. What's wrong with wanting to feel good?
 
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Shelby said:
Whoa now, I said most. Of course there will be exceptions. Anatomical variation assures it.

I just think more often it's psychological.

I used to think that also, but then again, I'm not a woman. Nobody knows a woman's body better then she does. And even if she hasn't learned her body that well and/or how to bring herself to orgasm, I think she clearly knows what does or does not feel good. And I don't think its always a case of them not being able to feel anything. I've heard some women talk about not being able to feel it in a way that they need to. If you can't feel it, can barely feel it, or have to work extremely hard to feel it, how are you supposed to orgasm or even get any pleasure out of it. There are probably times where there are psychological issues involved, relationship problems, communications problems, inexperience, or just plain laziness involved, but I think most women know what they like and especially need. Thru no faults of their own, people just aren't sexually compatiable sometimes.
 

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GottaBigOne said:
Amen sister! Size queens aren't bitches, at least not the real size queens. There are those girls who think that they might like a big one, or that they like the look of a big one, but they are sometimes mistaken. Madam I am sure that your concern for a big cock is because it feel better, plain and simple. You can explain it by saying that you are deeper, but thats just an explanation not an excuse, because you dont need an excuse, it just feels better to YOU. What's wrong with wanting to feel good?

You're damned right I don't need an excuse! GBO sometimes I really think you're amazing, y'know?

The reason I mention my depth is not to defend my choices, but just because it's true. I've never in my life had sex with a guy who wasn't balls deep in me within 30 seconds, despite the fact that I only go for the big guns. Several men who are not accustomed to getting full penetration with a lot of women have mentioned it, so I guess it must be true. I credit this as the reason for my desire, which makes sense to ME. If anyone else has other reasons, that's fine for them as well.

I've still gotta get to NY for that cup of jo.
 

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Aplus said:
I used to think that also, but then again, I'm not a woman. Nobody knows a woman's body better then she does. And even if she hasn't learned her body that well and/or how to bring herself to orgasm, I think she clearly knows what does or does not feel good. And I don't think its always a case of them not being able to feel anything. I've heard some women talk about not being able to feel it in a way that they need to. If you can't feel it, can barely feel it, or have to work extremely hard to feel it, how are you supposed to orgasm or even get any pleasure out of it. There are probably times where there are psychological issues involved, relationship problems, communications problems, inexperience, or just plain laziness involved, but I think most women know what they like and especially need. Thru no faults of their own, people just aren't sexually compatiable sometimes.

Granting exceptions
, what I meant was I think most male size queens are such for obvious reasons - they don't think they measure up and are fascinated by those they think do. Women on the other hand are always obsessing about weight, looks, etc. It stands to reason they might fret they aren't small or tight enough. What's their simplest fix? A bigger dick.

I'm exploring emotions.
 

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Aplus said:
There are probably times where there are psychological issues involved, relationship problems, communications problems, inexperience, or just plain laziness involved, but I think most women know what they like and especially need. Thru no faults of their own, people just aren't sexually compatiable sometimes.

And here is a good bit of wisdom. People ARE different and that fact is undenyable, even though we seek in earnest to find hard and fast rules that are actually quite irrelevant to anything. You want to know how a woman feels? Ask HER, not some strangers. You want varying opinions, then that's fine, but please don't try to apply MY opinion to YOUR girlfriend. It insults us both.
 

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i hope to never have to put this theory to the test, but I think given a bit of time (maybe a few months?) I could easily enjoy sex with an average-sized man after being so used to my current bf for so long. I always do my kegels anyway, and I certainly don't think he's 'ruined' me just yet. Obviously I've been stretched by him, and I had to adjust to take him in the first place, but over time I could certainly re-adjust.

And anyway, while my bf is both big and skilful, it's the skill that is most important - size is nothing without control, and an average-sized man who knows what he's doing can be just as good a lover. Not to mention oral sex, and the biggest sexual organ of all - the brain!

However, I'm not complaining about having to put up with a big penis! I know, it's a dirty job but someone's got to do it.
 
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GorgeousJane said:
i hope to never have to put this theory to the test, but I think given a bit of time (maybe a few months?) I could easily enjoy sex with an average-sized man after being so used to my current bf for so long. I always do my kegels anyway, and I certainly don't think he's 'ruined' me just yet. Obviously I've been stretched by him, and I had to adjust to take him in the first place, but over time I could certainly re-adjust.

And anyway, while my bf is both big and skilful, it's the skill that is most important - size is nothing without control, and an average-sized man who knows what he's doing can be just as good a lover. Not to mention oral sex, and the biggest sexual organ of all - the brain!

However, I'm not complaining about having to put up with a big penis! I know, it's a dirty job but someone's got to do it.

if it's not dirty you aren't doing it right :)
great post GJ
 

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Sorry I'm late on this one... I've been busy with a family Christmas!

When I think about past relationships it would be much harder for me to go back to a guy who smoked, or drank too much, or was mean to me, than to an average-sized guy. Actually my guy IS average (I guess) and I am very happy with him. Sure, my experiences of larger guys (we occasionally swing a little) are wonderful, and were the reason I joined the board... but enjoying this kind of experience can no way replace the feelings I have for my bf, and if anything they add to the sex we have, rather than make me feel as if I am missing out... but that's just me! I've never dated a really w/e guy though... so my feelings are only based on occasional fun.

Happy New Year everyone!