Is it homophobia...?

[Maxime_]

where did i say you were a jerk?

like i said. defencive.

"regardless of sexuality, nobody wants to be around a jerk."
Who is defencive and who is offencive now? but the game's nice aslong as it's short....so just giv it up,it's ok!

 

[Maxime_]

Does he use soap or shower gel?

Shower gel....and anyway that's a urban legend....the soap falls,the guy bends to grab it and gets fucked....old stuff!

 

[Drifterwood]

Meeeeooooowwwwwwwww

Your cock is not a straight man's issue :biggrin1:

 

[Kotchanski]

I always shower in the common one,since i like showing off a bit and do not have problems in standing naked in front of other guys.

He is straight too,knows I'm gay and knows i have a big cock.

I have to agree with a few others who suggest it's more likely to be an attitude issue than anything else.

The above 2 quotes say it all really, you like showing off, and even the straight people you work with know you have a big cock (I've worked in a lot of places, and I can say with 100% certainty none of them have seen my tits or pussy) So one way or another, you're making yourself known, and that isn't always a pleasant experience for other people.

A woman I lived next door to a few years ago made her breast size known in various ways, without actually flashing them around the place. I didn't know her, never associated with her, it was just like meeting someone in the showers of a gym, you are aware they exist, but that's about it... I know full well I disliked her and her attitude because of the way she walked, the way she said hi, and if I saw her leaving her house at the same time as I needed to leave mine, I'd find an excuse to go back in just to avoid having to be around her. If we'd have ended up having to share a room for any reason (I dunno, a gas leak on the street or something) I'd have demanded I be put elsewhere too... No way in hell I could stand spending a whole night in her company.

 

[dolfette]

"regardless of sexuality, nobody wants to be around a jerk."
Who is defencive and who is offencive now? but the game's nice aslong as it's short....so just giv it up,it's ok!

you are.

at most my post implied he might think you're a jerk.
you just assume it's an attack.
...because you're defencive.

 

[Maxime_]

you are.

at most my post implied he might think you're a jerk.
you just assume it's an attack.
...because you're defencive.

It's an old trick....asserting things isn't different from insulting or saying things straight ahead. It's just more subtle and less brave....

 

[dolfette]

The above 2 quotes say it all really, you like showing off, and even the straight people you work with know you have a big cock (I've worked in a lot of places, and I can say with 100% certainty none of them have seen my tits or pussy) So one way or another, you're making yourself known, and that isn't always a pleasant experience for other people.

i don't like being around people who assume everyone is checking out their assets. it's an assumption that offends me...mostly because i find people leering at me so annoying.

 

[dolfette]

It's an old trick....asserting things isn't different from insulting or saying things straight ahead. It's just more subtle and less brave....

^^ that's called paranoia, sweetheart.

he might think you're a jerk. fact.
you don't know that he doesn't.

 

[Zayne]

What a bunch of good advice wasted on a guy using a gay-phobia pretext to call attention to his dick-size.

 

[Maxime_]

I have to agree with a few others who suggest it's more likely to be an attitude issue than anything else.

The above 2 quotes say it all really, you like showing off, and even the straight people you work with know you have a big cock (I've worked in a lot of places, and I can say with 100% certainty none of them have seen my tits or pussy) So one way or another, you're making yourself known, and that isn't always a pleasant experience for other people.
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Wait,wait,wait. My job is ballet dancing. We wear tights all the time or less than this when on stage,at training and after in the locker rooms. When you are in tights you cannot hide much and it's normal that people notice if one has a bigger bulge....if i worked in an office,it'd be impossible for them to know...I am proud of what i got but i have no reason of showing it in inappropriate circumstances!

 

[HorseHung40's]

After having read your responses, I feel even more that you need charm school more than anything else. Your big, queeny dick is not the problem, it is the man attached to it!

 

[dolfette]

ouch!
...and i was being mean for thinking the other guy might hate him?

 

[legna]

What a bunch of good advice wasted on a guy using a gay-phobia pretext to call attention to his dick-size.

Couldn't have said it any better Zayne.

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

when women avoid me,
even women with tiny breasts,
i tend to assume thast they just don't like me.

and that's cool.
you can't like everyone.
it's shag all to do with my big tits.

just saying.

this penis thing might be your way of denying that anyone could ever just think you're a twat. how do you feel about people not liking you? does it upset you when you know someone hates you?

In all honesty neither situation the OP has described particularly suggest that he might be intrinsically unlikeable, so what he's comfortable enough to be proud of his naked body in the showers at the gym, that doesn't make him a twat.

In any case neither situation have anything to do with people's response to Maxime as a person, the first indicates quite clearly that the guy who wont shower with him has issues around being naked with Maxime, not that this guy doesn't like Maxime's personality.

The second situation is outrageous, and his coworker and whoever was in charge of that trip behaved appallingly. It's a work trip, you get assigned a room to share with a coworker, even if you think they are an unmitigated cunt you get the hell on with it. The fact that in this case the coworker's stated reason for not wanting to share a room with Maxime was his sexuality, and the fact that this coworker was bold enough to say that rather suggests that actually this situation had nothing to do with Maxime's likability, and everything to do with the revolting prejudices and presumptuous, self regarding homophobia of Maxime's workmate and boss.

This colleague not only presumed that just because Maxime was gay that he would automatically want to butt-rape any man at all who might end up sharing a room with him but he also presumed that Maxime (because he is gay) is totally incapable of self restraint, sensitivity, discretion and professionalism or of respecting other people's privacy or personal space. The insults were numerous and Maxime's boss's collusion in such an insult was offensive to the point of being actionable in court in many countries. In fact both the colleague and Maxime's boss (or whoever was in charge of this trip) violated numerous laws on discrimination in the workplace and sexual harassment, and are lucky that Maxime hasn't sued them.

 

[sxjTheFirst]

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The second situation is outrageous, and his coworker and whoever was in charge of that trip behaved appallingly. It's a work trip, you get assigned a room to share with a coworker, even if you think they are an unmitigated cunt you get the hell on with it.

No way I always insist on my own room. They tried to pull that on me once and I put my foot down and got my own room.

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

No way I always insist on my own room. They tried to pull that on me once and I put my foot down and got my own room.

What even if everyone else has to share?

 

[sxjTheFirst]

What even if everyone else has to share?

That was the case in this event. I just told them if they want the job done I need my own room or forget it. Sometimes you have to be firm would they ask a CEO or someone high up to share a room? So why should I?

 

[B_Nick4444]

in both cases, homophobia

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

That was the case in this event. I just told them if they want the job done I need my own room or forget it. Sometimes you have to be firm would they ask a CEO or someone high up to share a room? So why should I?

The OP's a Ballet dancer, this isn't the world of high finance or big corporate business, I expect some sacrifices need to be made sometimes. And in any case the OP had no problem sharing, his homphobic colleague did.

 

[eyescream]

Funny I was thinking that the shower room behavior was homophobia not the refusal to share rooms. Sharing a room (to me ) is something very personal - I think that's most difficult part of a marriage that you don't have a place to lock yourself in - and it's a one to one situation so he might be uncomfortable not because you have a big cock (you seem to give too much credit to the cock) but because he was worried that HE may be tempted :biggrin1:

Sharing a public area on the other hand is expected Just as you have to share buses and trains so you have to share shower areas. Rosa Parks and Gandhi protested being thrown out of trains not private cars.

His behavior in the shower is homophobia IMO but not as in discrimination but as in unreasonable fear. Phobia can be understood as either hatred or fear.

Let's not forget that the OP said:

"One of them was supposed to stay in my same room. He said to the principal,that he was not very glad of this fact and that he would prefer someone else. So he went and stayed with another straight guy."

For whatever reason this guy chose to sleep in a different room, whether it was a phobia or his dislike for the OP:biggrin1:, ultimately he did discriminate. Homosexuality today is still very much a sensitive issue and to an extent, the guy was wrong to have done what he did.

Whether the OP's a jerk or not, the guy should have maintained professionalism and just go to bed. Slightly different from the shower scenario, in this case you don't have to be naked and your eyes won't be open to see anything you don't want to see.

Put it this way rather: if the OP was a black guy and someone chose to sleep in another room, most people will be quick to point out that it's discrimination. Whether the fleeing party had a phobia for the big dick or not.

If I had to share a room with an out-of-the-closet lesbian, I would. There's nothing to think about, there's nothing to consider nor "reconsider". I might secretly think "oh shit, now my friends will make jokes that I shared a bedroom with a lesbian and probably slept with her." But ultimately, it comes down to personal beliefs and not what my friends think.