For like the four time in 3 years I've now come across someone who's emotional baggage outweights who I actually am and what is happening between us. This latest one actually had me questioning my memory and sanity (Thank god my cell phone bill showed up as proof.) Are men (women) just screwing with women's minds so bad that we all are instantly assholes?
I guess the real question is, are there actually any good women left out there? (That's more of a retorical question.)
Unfortunately matters of the heart can leave many emotionally wounded or damaged, whether you are male or female. Especially when it is a matter of broken trust. Not only do you begin to question the honor and intentions of others, but you question your own judgement.
The same is to be said for communication in a relationship. I have several rules when it comes to discussions, disagreements, and fights. One is, I NEVER, EVER, resort to name-calling or belittling. In both my marriage and my LTR,
not once did I ever call them an "asshole", tell them they were stupid, tell them to "fuck off", or any such remarks. And, yes, I can have a temper.

Both of them were the same way. As a result, when the fight was over and apologies made, we never had to deal with the aftermath of hurt feelings and questioning how the other really felt about us.
I once witnessed a heated arguement between a friend and her husband. At one point, he shouted that he had never loved her and had only married her to have kids. He later apologized and admitted he was just trying to hurt her, but a year later when they separated, she confided that she had never been able to forget that one comment, and it had made her doubt him in a way she could not get past.
I have had my own experience with broken trust, and afterwards I noticed a subtle change in myself. A kind of reserve that wasn't there before, and a part of me resented that a part of my "innocence" was taken away.