Hey everyone, I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend (probably future wife) for about 4 years now. Things have ebbed and flowed in our relationship and I can say that for most parts of our relationship, I have ridiculously happy that I found her. But, there is one area that we are having problems dealing with and that is our intimacy/sexuality. For the purpose of candor, I am in my late 20's and have only been sexually active and in a relationship with my current girlfriend, meaning I was a virgin before her and was never in a relationship with anyone, she is also in her late 20's but has a lot more sexual and relationship experience, she's stated that she's been sexually intimate with more than 25 men and then others in which she's only been with less completely (e.g. blowjobs/handjobs). So, there's a bit of a sexual and relationship difference between the two of us but I still love her and am perfectly fine with having only been with her. One of her previous lovers even requested that she participate in threesomes with other men and even set-up sexual encounters between herself and other men that her previous lover would then watch. That previous lover eventually killed himself and she has told me that it was a very mentally disastrous occasion for her but, that she has been able to move on. The situation is that, I would like to be sexually intimate with my g/f on a more regular/frequent basis, which at the moment is at most once a week and there have been periods of time in which we've gone weeks without being physically intimate) and there are some sex acts (particularly blowjobs) that I would like her to try with me that, from our conversations, she has done with others in the past frequently. But, her reactions toward my statements of wanting to be sexually intimate or to try something new (to me) aren't even consider and when we are intimate with one another she rarely seems to be mentally into the act and I have to do most of the work initiating and being physical. When we are sexually intimate we both orgasm (which she tells me is something that she had extreme difficult achieving in all of her prior relationships except for the one time she had a threesome experience with her prior lover who later killed himself.) and I particularly enjoy being sexually intimate with her because, to me, it is one of the most together, pleasurable, and enjoyable experiences that she and I can experience together. So, is it me or is there something else that is going on? In advance, I appreciate anyone/everyone's ideas on the topic.