Is it normal for a woman to be finished after one orgasm?

[shamrockfaced]

Title is self explanatory. My wife tends to orgasm, and immediately after, things become uncomfortable and she's done. I have heard many women are multi orgasmic, but i dont know if thats normal or what. I like to focus on bringing her to climax first. As a guy, its alot 'easier' for me, however sometimes when i bring her to orgasm, its a quick shut down.

 

[841491]

I've personally been both. Sometimes it depends on my mood. Sometimes it's the guy and how girthy he is

 

[AlteredEgo]

She's normal. Perhaps you're not compatible with each other, that's something you will have to work out.

 

[shamrockfaced]

She's normal. Perhaps you're not compatible with each other, that's something you will have to work out.

I'm sorry...what would make you suggest were not compatible? (After saying its normal). That is confusing.

If we're not compatible, that would imply, perhaps, that if we were she would be ready to go again and multi orgasmic. Or am I misunderstanfing you?

I guess another way to word the question: do most women have a refraction period after orgasm, as the normal male does? I've had times in my life where i orgasm and within minutes am hard again and ready to go. That is not normal however. Thanks for the replies.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I'm sorry...what would make you suggest were not compatible? (After saying its normal). That is confusing.

If we're not compatible, that would imply, perhaps, that if we were she would be ready to go again and multi orgasmic. Or am I misunderstanfing you?

I guess another way to word the question: do most women have a refraction period after orgasm, as the normal male does? I've had times in my life where i orgasm and within minutes am hard again and ready to go. That is not normal however. Thanks for the replies.

She is how she is. You are how you are. You obviously don't find this to be ideal, or you wouldn't be concerned it was abnormal. However, from your description, you're both quite normal, but perhaps not perfectly aligned sexually. It's not insurmountable. I absolutely believe you can figure out a compromise that will keep you both happier. From the sounds of it, unless I've misunderstood you, you need to be able to focus on her pleasure in order to ensure she gets off first, but then she runs out of steam and becomes too sensitive, making it difficult for you to achieve a satisfactory end. Your very interest in exploring what you perceive as a problem is a sign you'll keep thinking and asking questions and trying stuff out until you strike a balance. That's all I was saying, perhaps my previous post was too breviloquent.

I couldn't say whether most women do or do not have a refractory period, but many say they do. Sometimes, I am counted among that number.

 

[neon_beaches]

She's normal. Perhaps you're not compatible with each other, that's something you will have to work out.

Beyond your organs functioning "normally" who can say what's normal when it comes to the gooey world of sexual preference.

It's probably normal to be able to orgasm. Beyond that who can say. It's all just personal preference.

Let's move away from the porno prototype of women being shrieking octagons of orgasm:::::CUMMING AGAIN!!!!!!!!

I think what Altered means is that sometimes two people's "normals" don't really jive. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either.

Every partner comes with give and take, learning to find that balance. Is it a balance that works for you?

Maybe you like the way one lady could come three times in a row while you fucked her and it made you feel like King Cock, but maybe this lady is the most adventurous travel partner you've ever had. Is one more important than the other?

You get to decide.

The ego dies a little every day.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I think what Altered means is that sometimes two people's "normals" don't really jive. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either.

Yes.

 

[shamrockfaced]

From the sounds of it, unless I've misunderstood you, you need to be able to focus on her pleasure in order to ensure she gets off first, but then she runs out of steam and becomes too sensitive, making it difficult for you to achieve a satisfactory end. Your very interest in exploring what you perceive as a problem is a sign you'll keep thinking and asking questions and trying stuff out until you strike a balance. That's all I was saying, perhaps my previous post was too breviloquent.

Thanks for the feedback, ladies.
We have been together for a long time, and are monogumous. Looking back, I'm not sure our early years (we were young) were good sex for her at all. As a young guy, I didn'tknow what I was doing. Now that I am older (near 40) and she is also experiencing a time of sexual revival (yay!) I'm much more focused on making her pleasure a point if emphasis.
As we've both matured we're far more open with our likes and kinks with each other. (She loves to fuck with a small butt plug in...10 years ago such an idea would have mortified her).

I DO work hard to get her off first. Sometimes our rhythm/timing is off and she does run out of steam, but that's not often. Since, in most cases, I am able to reach climax in a short period of time, I like to work on her patiently and often times reaxh climax together, or nearly together.

The other poster hit on a great point. I do think my perception is skewed by porn, in that its so common to see the actressess 'orgasm' again and again and again. I want that sort of pleasure for her, however I think I'm buying into a false reality there.

The other misperception I buy into is that if I had a bigger dick, I'd be bring her to orgasm all the time l, and fast. Reading more and more hear, I can see thats more male-brain ego talking.

Plus, she has never once given any indication that having multiple orgasms is of interest or need. Of course it sounds great in theory, but when she blows up, she's all good and usually spent up and needs sleep (or whatever else we have to do).

Thanks again for the comments. I'm still learning everyday and sometimes its nice to have sone other knowledgeable yet uninvested opinions.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I think you've turned a corner! You seem like a great couple. Best of luck.

 

[Charli]

I'm not certain about "normal". I know I like five or six.