Is it normal to feel like this?

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Well kind of a long story. When I was younger, I always felt like people didn't pay me attention at all. My parents, people at school, really just no one. When I got to high school, some guys saw me changing in the locker room and I became known for having a large penis. I had really never thought about this, but everyone at school found out and I got a whole lot of attention from it. Eventually I think it started going to my head, and I would use any excuse for people to "catch" me changing or naked. I would stand further back at urinals, pretend like I forgot my towel in the shower and walk out and get it with all the guys still in the room. When I'd sleep over at a friend's house, I'd even wear boxers to sleep, and my penis would always come out of the leg hole and people would notice. I loved that it got me attention from girls, and guys always talk about how cool it is. Now that I'm older, I look back at these things and I feel disgusting about myself. I really loved the attention, but now it plagues me more than I describe. I feel gross for being that much of an attention whore. Is it normal to feel like this after this kind of thing?
 

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You have nothing to feel bad about.
School days are a very difficult time for everyone. Some people get through them by being the smartest, sportiest or best looking person at that time. Some put others down and become bullies.
You found a way of acceptance and attention due to a gift nature gave you.
You have nothing to be embarressed or feel bad about. Usuing your natual talents to feel good about yourself is never a bad thing, as long as you do not put others down or intentionall make others feel inferior.

You should be proud of what nature has given you and just enjoy life!

Take it easy mate!
 

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Yeah ... stay calm.

Life cannot always be parcelled up into neat boxes. We aren't all able to divide ourselves, or chunks of our time, off into

  • down-to-earth, fact-orientated business people
  • intelligent, perceptive scientists, or detectives
  • artistic dreamers
  • brave soldiers
  • gutsy, driven athletes
  • kind doctors and nurses
  • life-and-soul comedians...
... sometimes, the best parts of life are just living on the edges of the categories. A foot either side of the line, kind of thing, and seeing how things go. Change of perspective is GOOD. And, for example, a business person might need some creativity and imagination sometimes, or a doctor might need some bravery, and so on ...

... I still like - age 48 - posing a little in mirrors, or even catching my reflected image in a shop window. I like walking around in tight briefs, or indeed running and attending gym in tights. I want to look good, and I want people to notice that.

... but, at the same time, I need to look after my home, family, pets, finances, cars, holidays and so on. My ( mild ) vanity doesn't get in the way of the rest of my life...

I'm not seeing a deep problem here, but reflecting back and thinking it's good that you are changing, is good practice. But never, ever direct disgust or opprobrium at yourself. Or, ideally, at anyone else ...

Go placidly.

:smile:
 
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No need to feel that way about yourself. I'm sure the guys in the locker room enjoyed the view. i wish I had beren gifted as you were. For "what if's," what if you had been the recipiant of a micro penis? How would that have made you feel? Be glad to have what you were given. I think most guys who have been gifted as you were, probably enjoyed showing their gift too. It's cool dude, don't beat yourself up about that. I myself enjoyed just this week, showing
off some bulging of my coronal ridge in a pair of bike style shorts, but not made of Spandex, but made of cotton, at the gym. How about letting us have a look?
 

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I do understand and there are probably a lot more guys who have issues, (at one time or another) than don't...... so, Yes I do think it is normal, widespread and universal.
You've already taken the first steps to taking control of the situation/issue by recognising what it is.

Focus on who or where you want to be.
Mistakes are the most effective way of learning, they help us to realise who or what we are.

and If you feel you need to talk, there are support groups out there.
I had issues myself and when I was particularly feeling scared about them getting out of control, I found a self-help group and it did help.

'you can become anything you want to'
 

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Unless something very bad came of that behavior I would try not to regret it. It was high school...we all look back on our high school selves and shudder a little bit. Attention goes to people heads, now you know how to handle it better. Live and learn, regretting it only gives it more attention and energy from you life rather than letting it educate you and grow.
 

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You were young, raging hormones and at an age where we all sought attention. It's a way of saying " hey, check it out, I' m not a kid anymore". Nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about. It all sounded very normal to me.