Is it offensive to ask someone you're dating but haven't slept with how big they are?

[voyeuristic]

What do you all think, and does the answer to this question depend upon whether you are looking for a more serious connection or just casual sex?

 

[vergax]

Depends, but normally, we men won't get offended at all, in fact our primitive reasoning in these contexts would trigger the "she wants me, we are are going to fuck pretty soon"...
Realistically, it is very uncommon. I have only once been asked to show it to a girl before any sexual context, she was happy to see it and we didn't have sex on that ocassion, so it was true curiosity (some days later we did actually have sex, anyway)

 

[Mule]

While I wouldn't be offended, it would probably lead me to think that she was interested in casual sex rather than a serious relationship.

 

[B_Enough_for_Me]

What do you all think, and does the answer to this question depend upon whether you are looking for a more serious connection or just casual sex?

This depends.

1) are you going to ask for proof?
1a) If you ask for proof are you ready to take it to the next level? I don't do 30 second shows. Don't build him up if you don't have an intention of getting him off.

2) Will you believe the answer? A guy thats small will think that if he tells you how big he really is then you won't sleep with him.

I've been known to lie about my size. I usually say that I only have 4", that way when the night improves they are surprised.

 

[deleted3272]

Have had this happen a few times, idk i guess its a double edged sword. First off it kinda makes me think she has some kinda size limit or sompthin and wants to make shur i meet it. But if I turn out to be the biggest so far its kinda hot to know. That is if she is honest about it.

 

[morsecode]

I don't know, would it be OK if I asked her if she has a tight or loose vagina?

 

[SensualHer]

What do you all think, and does the answer to this question depend upon whether you are looking for a more serious connection or just casual sex?

Men LIE... If you haven't discovered this tactic yet. Especially when they feel like one answer will lead them getting LAID or Not getting laid.. Even if he's small he isn't going to tell you, my dear....:frown1:

 

[voyeuristic]

I don't know, would it be OK if I asked her if she has a tight or loose vagina?

I wouldn't be offended by that question, but I may be a bit uncommon.

 

[morsecode]

I wouldn't be offended by that question, but I may be a bit uncommon.

Yes, it is uncommon to ask because most men know that most women would not like that question, and in my case, I'll probably come across as extremely creepy and get mace in my face. If a woman ever asks me that, I probably won't be offended but I'd say that I have a tiny dick.

 

[SEXXXX]

rather harsh but will save you some fake orgasms

 

[ejection_handle]

What do you all think, and does the answer to this question depend upon whether you are looking for a more serious connection or just casual sex?

I don't think it is offensive, but before I straight out answered I would ask why do you want to know. I'm a tall guy with big shoes, I've never been asked this by someone I was dating but I have been by asked by normal female friends. All of them I knew were simply being themselves so I answered casually that the myth about big feet does not hold water. Sad but true. If a dates answer to why she wanted to know did not give me reason for serious concerne I would answer casually just like giving the time of day. Its a quarter past 5 and getting closer to 6 as we speak.

 

[Pitbull]

I don't know, would it be OK if I asked her if she has a tight or loose vagina?

No it would not be OK. Death awaits you.

Besides silly boy - you know the answer
women are always tight until you stretch them out
(if your stuff is big enough :wink

 

[DiscoBoy]

It all depends on the person you're asking. Some would be offended, most would not.

It does however, reflect on the type of person you are. The second a person asks the size of my dick (not necessarily on this site, it's to be expected) I pretty much lose any ounce of respect I had for them.

Although, if it's just going to be a fling and you'd much prefer an average-large sized dick, then I think it'd be in your best interest to ask first.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

voyeuristic, i'd totally picture you wearing a cute tight t-shirt that has some message like....

"Go BIG or GO home"

"I like'em larger than average"

"My Vag is a LP supporter"

"Make me walk with a limp in the morning"

 

[anoushka]

Is it offensive to ask someone you're dating but haven't slept with how big they are?

Offense lies in the mind of the person judging something so - nothing is offensive inherently - so as with most things, it depends on the person involved and their perspective and values.

To me, it doesn't point (no pun intended) one way or the other as it regards casual/more serious. It is a question. It's a great opportunity to demonstrate honesty and comfort with one's body if one so chooses.

Some people might ask because they are interested in casual time with a hung guy. Some people might ask because they know their own sexual nature/desires well enough to ask about such things ahead of time. Some people might ask because they are seeking someone who can be open and honest.

 

[Drifterwood]

I always think of my size in relative terms to what it's fucking. So it's a dumb question to me, and I would not necessarily believe a woman knew what she needed dimensionally if I asked her in turn.

 

[D_Tilly_De_Toilet]

The second a person asks the size of my dick (not necessarily on this site, it's to be expected) I pretty much lose any ounce of respect I had for them.

I have to disagree with you on this one. I’ve had numerous conversations with both male and female friends about penis size and have yet to lose respect for them. I don’t see anything offensive about it. It’s no big deal, it’s just a simple question.

 

[DiscoBoy]

I have to disagree with you on this one. I’ve had numerous conversations with both male and female friends about penis size and have yet to lose respect for them. I don’t see anything offensive about it. It’s no big deal, it’s just a simple question.

I should have been more clear. I don't mind discussing penis size with male or female friends, but when a person I've just met (or at best, an acquaintance) asks me the size of my dick, I lose respect for them and do look at them differently because of that. I just think that developing a connection with a person first is more important than finding out whether they've got a big dick or not.

 

[open501s]

You want to play show and tell?

 

[AlphaMale]

What do you all think, and does the answer to this question depend upon whether you are looking for a more serious connection or just casual sex?

You could do it more slyly like just ask what type of condoms they like to use... if they say anything other than Magnum XL or something from TheyFit you can send them packing! :tongue: