There are some really great answers here. Thank you all for taking the time to answer. Im going to try a couple of suggstions here. I have cheated twice due to lack of passion and chemistry, Im trying to avoid doing it again....
I have a great relationship with this guy but there is no passion. My last boyfriend and I had great sexual chemistry and a good friendship. However should I let go of a person who is suited to me in every way except sexually?
*sigh*
P.S. Ex returned to Cyprus after he completed his education.
P.S.S. We have a lot in common and laugh a lot.
My experience is that passion can last for decades, so it's not based on novelty and newness. My experience is that if you search for long enough, you can find the person who is your best friend, your soulmate and who is your sexual ideal. I would never settle for less, especially after my experience of decades of joy and passion.
Studies suggest that passion is based on novelty and newness. That is not going to continue to always be possible in a committed relationship. Being great friends is better in my book if you have to choose. But great sex and great friendship are both desirable. Think of all the people who are in long term relationships that you know. What percentage actually have both? I'd say it's like one in ten are still crazy for each other.
How did you 2 meet?
Sooner or later, the novelty of this "great" relationship will wear off. And if you are having these doubts / concerns now then what makes you think things are going to get better in one, two or three years? Or if you get married he'll become some sexual animal (most studies seem to say marriage does the opposite)?
You should politely leave him and find someone out there who dicks...I mean ticks all your boxes :wink:
I have had all shades of sexual and emotional compatibility, I am still looking for the woman who will love me and love to fuck me but its early days yet. Unless you are pushing 60 then there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Even some with bigger...gills
I have a great relationship with this guy but there is no passion. My last boyfriend and I had great sexual chemistry and a good friendship. However should I let go of a person who is suited to me in every way except sexually?
*sigh*
P.S. Ex returned to Cyprus after he completed his education.
P.S.S. We have a lot in common and laugh a lot.
It's probably long over. Look at the date of the original post.Anything is ok if you want it to be but my suggestion is to prepare yourself for what I believe is the inevitable. This relationship will not last.