There is a surprising amount of apathy for the people getting fucked over by their significant other in here.
There is a surprising amount of apathy for the people getting fucked over by their significant other in here.
We do agree, on a lot.
We, also, disagree on what is "cheating"; who is "cheating"; and what should be the ramifications of "cheating".
I'm going to go one step further and refine the definition to be having sex with anyone other than your spouse without their permission.
I'll never understand the "it's the married persons issue to deal with their relationship, it's not wrong to be the 3rd wheel" argument. Helping someone lie to their loved one, especially when physical health is involved is just wrong.
If I found out he was cheating and the other woman sincerely had no clue he was with me, I'd hold it against Him 100%. If I found out he was cheating and the other woman knew about his monogamous relationship with me, I'm not one to condone violence... but I won't say I'd be able to keep myself from fucking her up. I might snap.
*chuckle*
Do you also blame the first place winner in a contest where you came in 2nd, 3rd, or last place?
She has no obligation to you; never made a commitment to you; probably doesn't know you; or may only know a story about you. She doesn't even have an obligation to talk to you to let you know whether she knew or not.
You'd have every reason to be angry with him. HE made a commitment.
But... how would YOU feel if a strange woman came up to you, in anger, and started demanding you tell her about your current boyfriend/sex partner?
Me? I'd feel defensive and tell her to screw her and get out of my face.
Unknowingly? We're not talking about unknowingly, are we? If we were, I apologise.Well, if challenged, I cannot imagine such a law passing muster.
To charge someone with unknowingly having sex with a married person is a violation of basic mens rea (criminal intent). And every person would claim they didn't know the other person was married. The "law" that criminalizes it cannot expect that eery person will review all marriage records before engage in sexual relations.
I would be interested in seeing the actual statutes, or ordinances, you speak of and follow them (and their associated case law).
I completely disagree with cheating in any way, shape or form. If you can be comfortable seeing a man that you know has a partner and who I am assuming doesn’t know about you two so you are going behind their back I just don’t see how kids changes the situation.So, there is a straight married guy from Honduras that I hook up with every once in a while. I knew about his wife but I just found out that he has 3 kids too.
Should I stop taking care of his fat cock or just continue on?
You’ve clearly never been cheated on by someone you’ve had a deep and meanifull relationship and someone you love and spent years with. You view makes no sense to me.I never quite understood the whole concept of "cheating" and why it upsets people so much. I wouldn't like it if my partner lied to me, but if he or she wanted to have some playtime outdoors, by all means indulge yourself. If you don't tell me, I have nothing to be upset about. I have been far more jealous when partners decided to ignore me, prefer quality time with others and especially when they shared their deepest feelings with others instead of me. I find that kind of 'betrayal' far more upsetting than any sexual escapades.
Back to the OP; why should he feel guilty about something he plays no part in. It's not the OP who's hurting the wife, he probably doesn't even know her. Nor does he know if she's hurt at all. You don't serve a drink to an alcoholic, because it hurts HIM but can't I serve a drink to someone who promised his wife not to drink?
I never quite understood the whole concept of "cheating" and why it upsets people so much. I wouldn't like it if my partner lied to me, but if he or she wanted to have some playtime outdoors, by all means indulge yourself. If you don't tell me, I have nothing to be upset about.
I disagree if you are aware of the partner then you are a party to cheating.Well, there are lots of opinions, but I'll put it in my way...
A lot of people have VERY strong opinions about cheating. He may be violating his commitments to his wife, but that is his issue. His relationship and life are not your concern, unless you are looking for more than hook up.
If your moral compass suggests that you are trying to break up their life, then you should stop.
BTW - If you thought you were just enjoying the sex, then asking this question means you are starting to take it more seriously.
@EllieP I do respect your opinion, but you equated having sex to a crime when you called it "a victimless crime".
Because maybe there’s a lot of people in this thread who have been fucked over!There is a surprising amount of apathy for the people getting fucked over by their significant other in here.
It's not necessarily something I would do, but I'm sure a lot of us have had hookups where we didn't find out until later that the person is married, or has kids. Who is ultimately responsible ? If that person didn't provide me will all the info, it certainly doesn't make me responsible for his actions. If I choose to continue it, that's another story, but the other person is responsible for their relationship. For example, I met a guy who turned out to be married. We talked a few times in person, but he came on way too strong and I wasn't interested in having sex with him. He got really weird, and I told him to go away. Eight months go by, and I haven't spoken to him in ages. I get a phone call from his wife. She started screaming at me the instant I answered the phone. He had left her for a guy half his age. I didn't know he was married when we met. I didn't have sex with him. When she stopped screaming, I was finally able to have a civil conversation with her. She presumed that I was one of many, but I wasn't. Nothing about their relationship was any concern of mine.
Actually, where I live it is a crime. It also is seen to be in violation of the cheated spouses civil rights and they can sue the other party.
I disagree if you are aware of the partner then you are a party to cheating.
Unknowingly? We're not talking about unknowingly, are we? If we were, I apologise.
Anyway, look up divorce laws in VA whenever you like.