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Maybe it's a regional thing. Cultural. When I lived in the Bronx, where I'm from, I'd give a blowjob, and it was over when the lucky guy released his satisfaction onto my waiting tongue, or into my greedy throat. That was an unspoken, but well understood, mutual expectation. It was the same in Miami. Suck a dick, swallow jizz. The two went hand in hand. Now, however, I mostly meet men from the Mid-Atlantic or more specifically Tidewater region of the east coast. They don't expect me to swallow. Not only that, they are reluctant to finish inside my mouth in the first place.
My experiences with these men have been different, but they seem to have quite a bit in common. They are from this area, or moved here before they were sexually active. They have a lot of sexual experience. Some say they've never climaxed into a partner's mouth before. The first time I ask them to let me swallow for them, I'm always met with a look that is equal parts hope and fear. They always ask if I'm sure. One of my current partners says, "Oh, no! No, no, no-no-no!" He says it right before it's over, every time. When pressed, he's said he wasn't ready for the blowjob to end. I've been playfully accused by several of "stealing" their orgasms. Nearly all have given me warnings well in advance of climax, and then forced me to stop my ministry right before the point of no return. That's when we have the conversation. That's when they reveal that the women here, supposedly, don't volunteer to accept the slimy outcome, and the men don't ask them to.
Seems polite and all, but it's not for me. I have a little mouth, and big teeth, and overcoming these obstacles to pleasure is a real victory. The mouthful at the end is a trophy. Im not shy about discussion of sexual needs, wants and expectations with my partners. Long before we get into our first adult situation, they've been told I'm willing to accept and swallow their deposit. But that first time, every time, it's all giant puppy eyes, and, "Are you sure?!"
Some of these men have been previously married for a long time. Some of these men have been very promiscuous in the past. Most of them claim to rarely have the opportunity to be sucked to completion, and a few claim it has never been an option before. Some just want to know if I'll still be open to intercourse after. Some aren't sure they'll be able to perform for intercourse if I lead them to orgasm right then.
In what part of the world are you? What is the oral sex etiquette where you are? Men whose partners have been women, is it common for oral sex to carry to completion, or is it common to stop and change activity before orgasm? Women who give oral pleasure to men, is it okay if he comes in your mouth? Swallowing is a separate (and irrelevant) issue. Can he leave his seed in your mouth in the first place?
My experiences with these men have been different, but they seem to have quite a bit in common. They are from this area, or moved here before they were sexually active. They have a lot of sexual experience. Some say they've never climaxed into a partner's mouth before. The first time I ask them to let me swallow for them, I'm always met with a look that is equal parts hope and fear. They always ask if I'm sure. One of my current partners says, "Oh, no! No, no, no-no-no!" He says it right before it's over, every time. When pressed, he's said he wasn't ready for the blowjob to end. I've been playfully accused by several of "stealing" their orgasms. Nearly all have given me warnings well in advance of climax, and then forced me to stop my ministry right before the point of no return. That's when we have the conversation. That's when they reveal that the women here, supposedly, don't volunteer to accept the slimy outcome, and the men don't ask them to.
Seems polite and all, but it's not for me. I have a little mouth, and big teeth, and overcoming these obstacles to pleasure is a real victory. The mouthful at the end is a trophy. Im not shy about discussion of sexual needs, wants and expectations with my partners. Long before we get into our first adult situation, they've been told I'm willing to accept and swallow their deposit. But that first time, every time, it's all giant puppy eyes, and, "Are you sure?!"
Some of these men have been previously married for a long time. Some of these men have been very promiscuous in the past. Most of them claim to rarely have the opportunity to be sucked to completion, and a few claim it has never been an option before. Some just want to know if I'll still be open to intercourse after. Some aren't sure they'll be able to perform for intercourse if I lead them to orgasm right then.
In what part of the world are you? What is the oral sex etiquette where you are? Men whose partners have been women, is it common for oral sex to carry to completion, or is it common to stop and change activity before orgasm? Women who give oral pleasure to men, is it okay if he comes in your mouth? Swallowing is a separate (and irrelevant) issue. Can he leave his seed in your mouth in the first place?