Is it racist if you're only attracted to guys with a certain skin color?

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  1. TomCat84

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    I'm just curious what you guys think. I'm into guys of all skin colors and races- especially Hispanic guys (Mexicans, mostly)...but some white guys are only into white guys- some black guys are only into black guys. Does that make these folks racist? Discuss.
     
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    no its a preference thing. to each his own. if its big enough, i dont care what color it is haha.
     
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    I myself like the variety menu life and men have to offer, but I really don't think it's racist unless an individual disparages those that are not their preferences.
     
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    Only by adding new and innocuous dimension to the word 'racist.'
     
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    I have criteria and preferences because some things just don't work for me: you can't create chemistry where none exists. Though there are plenty of guys in, say, France or Denmark or Cameroon or Cambodia or Japan who would be great candidates, I'm in Florida now: 90% of the guys whom I find myself attracted to are Latinos. We just have the best chemistry.

    I don't find that racist at all. But I think one should always be very conscientious of the process of editing and selection, guard against stereotyping and over-generalizations and always keep an open mind to life's possibilities.
     
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    If a certain skin colour is the only thing that gets you going, I'd say it's a fettish.
     
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    Racism is one of the most manipulated words in the language.

    At the same time, it has been extremely well defined. The media and special interest groups simply ignore its definition to suit their own purposes.

    Here's what racism means:

    To use instruments of power to subjugate a person or persons based on their race and to maintain that control over them. Instruments of power include the ability to exclude them through economic means -- through employment, education, access to capital and participation in free enterprise. Instruments of power also includes the isolation and alienation from full participation in society as equal members, which can limit ascendancy in other spheres. This might include the formation of a mythology that the race is inferior through religion, media and the academy. Many so-called "scientific" papers were written, for example to explain how Blacks are inferior. A third instrument of power is through direct confrontation. A man is tied to a pickup truck and dragged to his horrible death. There are other instruments, including the use of the political and judicial systems to undermine people, but the theme is clear. The use of power to subjugate a race.

    Racism is broadly categorized as "institutional" or "overt." Make a law that results in a huge explosion in Black male incarceration, it is the use of the political institution toward a racist purpose. March in KKK rallies and it is overt racism seeking to instill fear, and therefore control, over Jews and Blacks, amongst others.

    Bigotry is often confused with racism. Bigotry is a dislike for a race, but does not include the use of power to subjugate. One can subscribe to feelings of revulsion toward a race, but still be free of behaviors such as employment discrimination that would be racist.

    So, to your question: Is it racist to prefer guys of a given skin color? Based on the definition of racism I've just given it is impossible to be racist. That is totally outside of the definition of racism, unless you believe your cock is so essential to function in society that if a person is deprived of your cock that they are subjugated.

    Are you a bigot? I don't know. It doesn't sound like it. Sounds like the fact that you are concerned about whether you are a bigot indicates a level of sensitivity and concern that you are anything BUT a bigot. To be clear, based on the statement that you prefer to fuck one race alone, I would definitely say that's not enough evidence to say you're a bigot. We'd have to know a lot more about you to say where you stand either way. Is that clear?

    Generally, preferences in your personal life have no bearing on whether you are bigoted. Some of us are simply turned on by a certain kind of person. Now, those preferences can be informed by societal institutional racism -- example: Media teaches that big lips and kinky hair is ugly. You grow up watching movies and reading magazines that extoll that blond hair and blue eyes are the most beautiful traits. While in all areas of your life you are bigotry free you absorb those messages. You form a personal preference for blond hair and blue eyes. Does that make you a bigot? Of course not.

    It just means that you miss out on some outstanding fucking.
     
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    I think it depends. If, when it comes to friends, you can be friends with anyone but you only find yourself attracted to asians or mexicans or whites or blacks or something, then no, that isn't racist. If you surround yourself only with people of a certain race, only date within that race, and only associated yourself with people of that race, then that might be racism...
     
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    This is isn't exactly what I was going to say but close to it. Thank you for that!
     
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    Why is this a thread...
     
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    Ask yourself then if it is sexist when you only prefer a certain gender or age discrimintion when you're only attracted to a certain age group...
     
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    Well, it's a thread because I clicked "New Thread", typed in what I typed, then clicked "Submit New Thread". Anymore fucking questions? :rolleyes:
     
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    ha! lmfao.
     
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    I'm attracted to some races more than others, and also - certain sexes more than others in different races.

    Maybe I'm just weird? Don't think it's racist tho - you like what you like.
     
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    Excellent reply!

     
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    ROTFL! :biggrin1:
    But to answer your question... I really don't think there's a problem if some people are generally attracted to a certain type of person more than the other. Even with my particular preferences (a little older and usually caucasian), I still find myself eyeing other men that are other skin colors, ages and races. When I was single, race never play a factor with who I wanted to have sex with. A hot man is a hot man and variety is the spice of life. :wink:

    UB nailed it when he said that you can't create chemistry when there's none there. At the same time, I can see why people would look negatively at those who vehemently pursue only one type of person and act repulsed at the idea of venturing beyond that mold. The fact that there are people out there in this world that find you attractive enough to have sex with should make anyone feel good about themselves. As long as the person isn't forcing themselves on you when you're not interested, the last thing you should be in return is negative or nasty.
     
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    I think we all have physical preferences that seem to be inbuilt. If these are just physical preferences (ie. no associated negative perceptions such as 'I don't like guys with purple skin because they're stupid') then I don't think they're necessarily racist.
     
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    Not racist. It's preference. Pure and simple. You can't help who you're attracted to and who you're not attracted to.
     
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    No, I definitely wouldn't call that being racist. I think it's just a comfort-zone kinda thing based on familiarity.
     
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    I do think attraction can be political. When I was a little girl all I ever crushed on and daydreamed about was white boys. I simply did not see black men as potential romantic partners. Its crazy because my father was and has always been my standard of of manliness but because of the way the media, books, television and movies had socialised me I couldn't see other black men as potential or desirable partners. Yes I was a very little girl living in an extremely racist society but it was something that bothered me even then. As I got older I really started thinking about the whys of this. Media in its all its glorious forms has always played an enormous role in my life and the reality is that Prince Valient, McGuyver and Ken Doll were not black LOL! The heroes I saw on television, the men making out with the gorgeous women, the muscular thighs clutching the sides of sweaty horses, were never black and so, even though my own real life heroes, the men making a difference in my personal life were black men I'd never seen them as even potentially sexual or carnally beautiful and so, for a very long time, they weren't. I'm grown now, thank God, and variety really is the spice of life. I cannot imagine not being attracted to somebody because of their race - hotness just comes in too many delicious varieties.
     
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