Is it racist if you're only attracted to guys with a certain skin color?

[WillyLong]

I prefer men who don't drink (or drink rarely/socially), smoke, or do drugs (including poppers). Everything else is secondary. I think everyone has a visual preference, but if you can't admit that on occasion you find someone outside of your comfort zone attractive, then there's something wrong with you.

 

[D_Andreas Sukov]

Attraction can be political. Left wingers do it so much better :tongue:

 

[arthur]

No...not racist at all...one can't help, nor explain why they are attracted to someone. Who knows why?!

As Sky Masterson says to Sarah Brown when she is certain that 'She'll know when her loves comes around'...'Mine will come as a surprise to me. Mine I leave to chance and chemistry...'

And let us not forget the racist argument goes out the window at eleven o'clock and you still haven't pulled...it's amazing how that man who you turned your nose up at 8 for whatever reason suddenly looks a hell of a lot more attractive!?!?!

 

[millsbrandon1010]

No it does not make you a racist don't worry... it's just your personal preference

 

[798686]

Attraction can be political. Left wingers do it so much better :tongue:

You're just convincing yourself they do. :tongue:

Wot happens if u fall in love with a hot, kind, Conservative bird, that's great in bed? :biggrin1:

 

[HungThickProf]

I truly believe that it's merely preference. I personally don't care about race or color, but what the person has to offer as an individual. Needless to say, my bedroom has seen almost as much diversity as The United Nations.

 

[hud01]

You're just convincing yourself they do. :tongue:

Wot happens if u fall in love with a hot, kind, Conservative bird, that's great in bed? :biggrin1:

Bed is only an hour a night during the week. The rest of it is outside. If she is like most of the conservative nut jobs we would be fighting all the time.

 

[D_Rawkesbye Deadheade]

Sounds more like preference to me. Just because there's a decision to be made and skin colour is involved it doesn't automatically put the situation under the racism umbrella.

 

[wallyj84]

I do think attraction can be political. When I was a little girl all I ever crushed on and daydreamed about was white boys. I simply did not see black men as potential romantic partners. Its crazy because my father was and has always been my standard of of manliness but because of the way the media, books, television and movies had socialised me I couldn't see other black men as potential or desirable partners. Yes I was a very little girl living in an extremely racist society but it was something that bothered me even then. As I got older I really started thinking about the whys of this. Media in its all its glorious forms has always played an enormous role in my life and the reality is that Prince Valient, McGuyver and Ken Doll were not black LOL! The heroes I saw on television, the men making out with the gorgeous women, the muscular thighs clutching the sides of sweaty horses, were never black and so, even though my own real life heroes, the men making a difference in my personal life were black men I'd never seen them as even potentially sexual or carnally beautiful and so, for a very long time, they weren't. I'm grown now, thank God, and variety really is the spice of life. I cannot imagine not being attracted to somebody because of their race - hotness just comes in too many delicious varieties.

This. Being attracted to one race in and of itself isn't racist, but sometimes that attraction can be caused by racism and stereotypes within society.

 

[HungThickProf]

This. Being attracted to one race in and of itself isn't racist, but sometimes that attraction can be caused by racism and stereotypes within society.

Smart man.

 

[B_Sinjay]

Absolutely not. I agree with everyone else.

Our senses subconsciously guide us to what we prefer. Whether it's sight, sound. touch, taste, smell. Just because some preferences have to do with how we respond to characteristics of people, it doesn't categorize our response as racism.

What you're asking is really kinda of comical. It's really no different than liking chocolate ice cream instead of vanilla or strawberry or whatever.

You can apply it to anything really. And no matter what you compare, your position will never be connected to any level of racism. Music, food, art etc. You like some of it but not others. Nobody should feel bad because they don't like blondes or whatever trait a person has.

I'm actually completely grossed out by most asian women. I don't know why. I've only seen one or 2 stunning Chinese woman and a couple hot filipinos. but 99.99% of them make me wanna vomit....yet I'm very good friends with many many Asian people, men and women.

I think black guys are way more attractive as a whole that black women. But I have kissed a black girl, got a blow job from another and may even have sex with my 1st black girl next month. But 99.9% of them totally gross me out. I don't have a choice in the matter. It's how my senses react. Not ashamed at all by it.

 

[avg_joe]

I'm just curious what you guys think. I'm into guys of all skin colors and races- especially Hispanic guys (Mexicans, mostly)...but some white guys are only into white guys- some black guys are only into black guys. Does that make these folks racist? Discuss.

No.

 

[D_Harvey Schmeckel]

Implicit bias is far more insidious than conscious racism. Here's a site I recommend:

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/demo/

I see quite a bit of defensive denial in this thread. Racism is conscious, and if people don't have conscious beliefs in the superiority/inferiority of one race or another they aren't racist in that sense. But unconscious racial bias is different from conscious racist beliefs, far more widespread, and IMO has a lot to do with the supposedly innocuous "preferences" that people are defending in this thread. Those "preferences" are hugely impacted by unconscious racial bias even in the absence of conscious racist ideology.

 

[azladd]

Racist is alittle bit of an over statement. However, I do think that people who have strong preferences with regards to color and ethnicity, are racially biased in their preference. This seems to be quite dominant in American culture. Ive traveled to many countries, and you don't notice racial biases as much. Its not uncommon to read personal adds which states SWM or SBM looking for SBF/SWF..etc. You hardly see this anywhere else in the world, and the United States is not the only country who has a diversity of people. So in my opinion, would that make a person racist? I don't think so, but most people in this country are racially biased for whatever reasons.

 

[Daisy]

Does this have to do with John Mayer saying he has a "racist penis"? Even though the way he put it was a little tacky the idea is the same. I see nothing wrong with having preferences but as a white, middle class woman it somehow makes me feel self conscious every time I say I only like white men. Like somehow that's not ok. I have nothing against other races, I think lots of black guys are very good looking but I'm pretty much only attracted to white guys or occasionally a hispanic guy. Why does it seem acceptable if someone white says they only like Hispanics or Asians, as if they're worldy, but if you only like your own race it comes across as "racist".

 

[earllogjam]

I like guys who don't look like me. Is that racist? lol

 

[D_Henry_Deutschendorf]

I have dated black, white, asian, as well as latin. I do not think that means I am racist against native americans or middle-eastern guys. Dating is about preference. How you communicate, care, work, live, love, etc. You choose to date someone who makes sense in your life. Dating or not dating someone is preference not racist.

That said, choosing not to speak to someone, do business with someone, not trust someone because of their skin color...that, to me, would be racist.

 

[SpiceFromIndia]

yes... u hv insecurity issues..find out wat is it..

 

[flame boy]

IMO, a sexual preference for a certain type of person is far from racist. Liking one race of person is no worse than saying you prefer men over women. How that person deals with their sexual preference may be where the racial aspect comes in to it however. I think black men are beautiful, as are black women, yet I have met others who share a similar preference yet handle it in a much more direct (and often offensive) way.

 

[D_Andreas Sukov]

You're just convincing yourself they do. :tongue:

Wot happens if u fall in love with a hot, kind, Conservative bird, that's great in bed? :biggrin1:

Conservative and kind dont go together.:wink:

Ive slept with Conservatives and they were both pretty shit.