Is it racist if you're only attracted to guys with a certain skin color?

[skinman]

Not at all, Tomcat... case of personal preference... everyone to their own thing...
as long as you are not harming anyone, and partner is agreeable, all is ok...
would be a dreary old world if we all liked exactly the same thing, sexually !!
I'm a white uncut guy into white guys who are also uncut!
Don't worry about the opinions of others... it's your life... cool !!!!!:wink:

 

[pleasureboy]

Neat thread!

I've always kinda felt bad about that fact that I am almost mostly attracted to white guys, some latin guys, native americans, and occasionally hot Indian guys (indian indians not native americans).

I'm almost never attracted at all to asians, and except for some super amazing bodybuilders like Kai Green and Rodney St. Cloud, barely ever have the slightest attraction to black guys.

BUT, I'm not racist. Even my friend set is pretty evenly mixed in all directions, but for some reason I seem to be 'sexually racist' and I sorta feel bad for it!

 

[erratic]

No, OP, it's not racist. If your dick started saying "ew, x people are gross, I wouldn't sleep with them" it would be racist. If your dick enacted a law banning marriage between the races, it would be racist. If your dick joined a neo-Nazi movement, yeah, it would be racist. But only getting hard when they see X, Y and Z is what they do - and when it comes to getting hard they have a mind of their own.

 

[captainwhackit]

It's just about preference, the same as preferring guys who are taller.
This political-correctness is the problem, it makes people suspicious of their own preferences and attitudes.

 

[D_Harvey Schmeckel]

The more relevant question IMO is whether or not it is a CONSEQUENCE of societal racism that you have the supposedly individual and innocuous "preferences" that you do. (on edit-- "you" in the general sense, not addressed to the OP specifically but everyone.)

 

[Bbucko]

Implicit bias is far more insidious than conscious racism. Here's a site I recommend:

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/demo/

I see quite a bit of defensive denial in this thread. Racism is conscious, and if people don't have conscious beliefs in the superiority/inferiority of one race or another they aren't racist in that sense. But unconscious racial bias is different from conscious racist beliefs, far more widespread, and IMO has a lot to do with the supposedly innocuous "preferences" that people are defending in this thread. Those "preferences" are hugely impacted by unconscious racial bias even in the absence of conscious racist ideology.

There is a difference between a bias (which can be either positive or negative) and a stigma (which is freighted with negativity exclusively) or a prejudice (ditto). I know that I can only really speak for myself, but my preferences tend to be culturally biased, not so much based on appearances as attitudes, though I'd be extremely disingenuous if I claimed to not prefer some physical traits, too.

One thing I've always found interesting (and bothersome) is that I tend to be attracted sexually to those least likely to satisfy me emotionally. I wind up having great sex with troublemakers, but any attempt at forming a relationship turns toxic; when I'm lucky, this happens very quickly, when I'm not lucky it can take years, by which time I'm heavily invested in a commitment I really should never have started. On the flip side, if I attempt to form a relationship with someone based on security rather than sexual attraction, it results in immediate bed death

Those are the reasons why, for the first time in my life, I've focused on sex to the exclusion of considering building a relationship; in the last six years any time I've even attempted it it's been an epic disaster.

 

[D_Harvey Schmeckel]

There is a difference between a bias (which can be either positive or negative) and a stigma (which is freighted with negativity exclusively) or a prejudice (ditto). I know that I can only really speak for myself, but my preferences tend to be culturally biased, not so much based on appearances as attitudes, though I'd be extremely disingenuous if I claimed to not prefer some physical traits, too.

One bias I'll admit to freely is for blonds. My current partner and first real love had almost the same hair color; the two in between had light brown and dark brown hair respectively and weren't as physically attractive to me. There surely is cultural bias here, to the effect that a guy like me with dark hair and eyes and a blue-eyed blond(e) make a "cute couple." Of course, a preference for blonds necessarily implies certain ethnic limitations. Judging from this thread, I'm a lot more willing than most guys to acknowledge that this kind of preference isn't some inherent trait, but rather is culturally acquired with all the baggage that implies.

 

[Bbucko]

There is a difference between a bias (which can be either positive or negative) and a stigma (which is freighted with negativity exclusively) or a prejudice (ditto). I know that I can only really speak for myself, but my preferences tend to be culturally biased, not so much based on appearances as attitudes, though I'd be extremely disingenuous if I claimed to not prefer some physical traits, too.

One bias I'll admit to freely is for blonds. My current partner and first real love had almost the same hair color; the two in between had light brown and dark brown hair respectively and weren't as physically attractive to me. There surely is cultural bias here, to the effect that a guy like me with dark hair and eyes and a blue-eyed blond(e) make a "cute couple." Of course, a preference for blonds necessarily implies certain ethnic limitations. Judging from this thread, I'm a lot more willing than most guys to acknowledge that this kind of preference isn't some inherent trait, but rather is culturally acquired with all the baggage that implies.

I have a thing for big brown eyes and a big booty that's malleable, not rock-hard

Those are traits that are the polar opposite of me and my family: my sisters both have pale gray eyes, mine have a greenish tint due to some yellow flecks on a grayish-blue iris. None of us has any ass to speak of :redface:

I'm not sure why I've always preferred a contrast over a complimentary look in my various partners, but I do. In her twenties, my sister dated African American women pretty much exclusively, though her partner of fifteen years is an Italian (Sicilian, actually) with Mediterranean features. We just don't anything intriguing or compelling in the look of someone who would look like a cousin.

 

[D_Delbert Dingleberry]

Absolutely not. I agree with everyone else.


I'm actually completely grossed out by most asian women. I don't know why. I've only seen one or 2 stunning Chinese woman and a couple hot filipinos. but 99.99% of them make me wanna vomit....yet I'm very good friends with many many Asian people, men and women.

I think black guys are way more attractive as a whole that black women. But I have kissed a black girl, got a blow job from another and may even have sex with my 1st black girl next month. But 99.9% of them totally gross me out. I don't have a choice in the matter. It's how my senses react. Not ashamed at all by it.

A young man once sang in a song.

"Different strokes
for different folks....."

He was what I consider to be a master of the ability to use simple words to convey profound realities.

Asian women, Grossed out. I'm a Black man and when i see an Asian woman, especially one with pronounced Asian features, my dick gets hard. I get tunnel vision. You could be standing next to me with Sarah Palin's panties and i'll tune you out. Asian woman are so beautiful.

If I could come back in the next life, I'd wax God's car daily for my next life if I could be Lucy Liu. My soul could be in an ethereal conversation with Ghandi, but an Asian women make my soul shut up and stare. They're just so, so.....so perfect.

Do you know what one of the greatest gifts that I could give you?

To find perfect beauty.

Chinese women. Perfect beauty.

Here's the argument against the existence of God in Man.

Man built weapons to destroy people capable of making Chinese women.

This presupposes that God is NOT a dumb ass, therefore Man has no Godliness in him.

Here's evidence that life has potential for purpose: Chinese women -- many of them -- want to be well fucked.

Here's proof of the existence of a devil: Chinese women -- many of them -- love White males. And do not love Black males. A companion argument to the non-existence of God in Females.

I digress, but out of necessity. An Asian woman might have read your post.

Here's why I'm responding to your post.

You're wrong about Black males looking better than....well, anyone. We're the most despised, revolted, hated, feared, misunderstood, and loathed creatures on this Earth. My life has been a series of outstanding accomplishments and successes, and help to others only to band-aid this fact.

Interesting thread.

Good to see the forum dealing with a serious topic rather than egomaniacal dribblings about cock size -- or the converse.

 

[heist]

It seems to me that saying "I don't find X people attractive" is generally a poor way of describing one's preferences. Unless you seriously mean you don't find ANY of X people attractive, there's definitely a more accurate way to put it.

It also just seems so silly to talk about people's race as though it's necessarily an overwhelmingly defining characteristic. The more you talk about race, the more important it becomes -- which, in the case of romantic attraction, is purely a matter of cultural tradition, much like other physical attributes.

 

[speedjunkie]

I honestly dont get what race has to do with liking or being attracted to someone. If it does, then, I dont know what to tell you. It is just a color right?

 

[Safelite]

I prefer wings but I'd eat a thigh or a drumstick if I had to.
I prefer Bruce Willis movies but I'd watch an Arnold Schwarzenegger or Stallone movie.
I prefer Snickers bars but I'd eat a Milky Way or a Baby Ruth.
I prefer gray but I'd wear orange or heck, even purple.
I prefer the ABC network but I tune into CBS or Fox too.
I prefer Mondays but I still live life the other six days of the week.

The point is everyone has preferences but when I hear folks say they prefer such and such and won't even think about deviating from that for no good reason it's being close-minded and borders racism to me when it concerns the issue of race. A lot of folks hide behind the whole "preference" excuse when the truth is they're just haters. I'd respect them more if they were upfront and trustful about the matter. Peace.

 

[Nkw17]

some people in their eyes find a certain skin color attaractive. I'm black (medium tone) & What catches my eye 1st is tan,light skin & red skinned people etc... "Gary Dourdan" "Micheal Ealy" they have nice color but really its not even about skin color its more about physical appearence to me.

 

[ColonialBoy]

This is an interesting question I have thought about.

I am straight acting and have no sexual interest in guys over 40, or indians, or asians, or dark-skinned people (eg australian aborigine). If I saw them nude or in a shower I would have the same reaction as a straight guy.

On the other hand over the past few years I find young guys with crew cuts a turn on. I like japanese women.

The human mind lacks logic when it comes to attraction.

 

[willow78]

I think there are two different issues going on in this thread. One is attraction, the other is relationships. I admit that I am attracted to men of colour. I feel uncomfortable discussing my attractions because I know it must sound patronising and shallow. A man's skin colour will definitely get my attention but I hope it takes personality and substance to keep my attention. I'd hate to think that I'd have an entire relationship with someone just because of colour. But I have never been in a relationship so I don't have any real knowledge or experience.

In regards to the OP, I think attraction to a certain skin colour doesn't mean you are racist. Just like being gay or lesbian doesn't mean you are sexist. Just like being straight doesn't make you homophobic. You love who you love,

 

[simbasa12]

Implicit bias is far more insidious than conscious racism. Here's a site I recommend:

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/demo/

I see quite a bit of defensive denial in this thread. Racism is conscious, and if people don't have conscious beliefs in the superiority/inferiority of one race or another they aren't racist in that sense. But unconscious racial bias is different from conscious racist beliefs, far more widespread, and IMO has a lot to do with the supposedly innocuous "preferences" that people are defending in this thread. Those "preferences" are hugely impacted by unconscious racial bias even in the absence of conscious racist ideology.

I would agree with this. Good post.

 

[simbasa12]

The point is everyone has preferences but when I hear folks say they prefer such and such and won't even think about deviating from that for no good reason it's being close-minded and borders racism to me when it concerns the issue of race. A lot of folks hide behind the whole "preference" excuse when the truth is they're just haters. I'd respect them more if they were upfront and trustful about the matter. Peace.

I think it's something inherent in each of us and most people don't fully comprehend. Most people don't spend much time in their lives looking deep into their own psyche to find out what really makes them tick.

 

[pornographicpoet]

Let me preface this by saying that I'm a white dude in a relationship with a Black woman. No, it is absolutely not racist to be only attracted to a certain skin color. Before I met my girlfriend, I went on dates/dated Black, white, Asian, and Latin women. I could care less about race, as I think an attractive person is an attractive person. Some people may like only a certain look that one race has and others do not. Not racist, just preference. I think we as a society are way too quick to label things racist. This just detracts from combatting real instances of racism.

 

[D_Cock_Hudson]

I don't think it is. How you treat anyone can be, depending on how you respond to them.

 

[hungboy18]

I'm white and I feel more attracted to white people, but it's more than someone's skin color, it's everything, a white person will probably act and think more like me because of their upbringing (culture...), I've had black and hispanic friends and their backgrounds were a lot different from mine and that affected their personality...

I'd date a black guy but I'd probably not feel attracted to most hispanics and asians sorry, but I don't feel attracted to them but I'd never judge or neglect a person because of their color and believes, I couldn't care less, people are people!