Is it really that unusual if I prefer shy nice girls over promiscuous ones??

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  1. UpwardCurve

    UpwardCurve New Member

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    It seems that in America today it is hard to find a generally nice shy girl. Guys today seem to only go for girls that are really open and wild, and I am not into that type of girl at all, as a matter of fact I think that is a turn-off (sorry if i offend any people on here, it is just my preference lol). Maybe it is because I am shy too (and sexually inexperienced at that) that I think this way, I am also quite conservative (pretty shocking on this site, but we are all different and individuals).

    One reason i like these types of girls is the "mystery" factor that surrounds them (if that makes any sense) and they are like unexplored territory to some extent. The common westernized girl today will pretty much go for anything without even blushing and there really is no mystery or subtlety about that.

    I think i would have better chance to find what I am looking for in Korea (where i will be studying in a couple of months), where that type of girl is more common according to what i gathered. i also have been friends with a korean girl i talk to online for over a year and i think she is the perfect type for me (and yes, she is sexually inexperienced too). American girls really aren't doing it for me i think lol. I know i am just generalizing here, but generalities exist for a reason, and that reason is that they are common occurences. Anyway, it seems "shy" girls dont exist anymore here in the u.s....
     
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    You're not alone ... just about all of my straight buddies will date & sexually use the less-than-demure girls, and replace them as easily as they change shirts, but when it comes to a serious relationship, still look for the kind of girl you describe ...
     
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    There is nothing wrong in looking for someone who is reserved and a little mysterious. the problem is they are shy and you are not going to find them in a forum like this.
    A small foot note I know a lot of wild girls love trying to get a nice shy guy like you for the same reason your a mystery.
     
  4. whatireallywant

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    Then there are the women like me - shy and all innocent on the surface but with another side to me that very few people see. :biggrin1:
     
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    Girls in Korea aren't that much different than girls in the US. There are shy girls both places. There are sexually inexperienced girls both places. There are also plenty of guys who don't go for "crazy" or "wild" girls. I find your generalizations lack merit.
     
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    Especially the one in the title of this thread. Are promiscuous girls not "nice"?
     
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    I'm with you on that, I feel the same way being inexperienced myself.

    Ideal would be a nice, shy girl. But be just as horny as me.:cool:
     
  8. Principessa

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    UpwardCurve, what you seek is in short supply due to the numerous technological and media advances made in the last 35 years or so. Since the USA is not the only country with television and computers you may be shit outta luck.

    There are however three options available to you. 1) Girls who have been home schooled. Quite often the parents who do this are conservative christians. 2) Mormon girls, though a good Mormon girl probably isn't going to date out of her faith. 3) Amish girls. Don't laugh I am not being facetious. All Amish youth reach must experience rumspringa. Rumspringa generally refers to a period of adolescence for members of the Amish religious denomination - a subsect of the AnabaptistChristian movement - that begins around the age of sixteen and ends when a youth chooses baptism within the Amish church or instead leaves the community. What you need upwardcurve is a young lady who during rumspringa has decided not to go back to her Amish community. That doesn't make her promiscuous or wild and she most likely holds true many of the values, ethics, and morals which you do.
     
  9. DC_DEEP

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    Upward, it is not unusual for you to want a girl who has about the same level of experience and values that you have... well, perhaps unusual, but there's nothing wrong with that.
    Do just about all your straight buddies realize how disgusting that is? I mean, really repulsive?

    How can anyone have such a hypocritical viewpoint that they will say "I'm a man, so if I sleep around, it's ok, it's cool, it's studly; I want a girl who doesn't, because if a girl sleeps around, it's NOT ok, it's NOT cool, it's slutty."

    Having different standards for oneself than for other people is pretty slimy.
     
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    the saying is true.........shy ones are the worst :0)
     
  11. whatireallywant

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    Yes I was thinking of that too! I was like, get into the 21st century!

    And of course we all know how much I HATE double standards!!!
     
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    funny you should say that ... when I read the response, I was thinking: how 70's!

    I can only guess that one set of personality & behavioral traits does not mesh with the role they are expecting of the girl they choose to be the mother of their children.

    I wouldn't celebrate the emergence of this personality type of the woman just yet -- it seems to correlate with, as symptom, and causal factor with a lot of problems.

    But, then again, it's a guess, since I don't involve myself with them
     
  13. rob_just_rob

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    I prefer girls who have interests, values and desires and desires that are similar to mine.

    And ones that are hawt.

    By the way, shy girls can be promiscuous. You just have to ask them.
     
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    Not unusual to understand...you want a girl/lady you can take home for ma & dad to meet without them raisin an eye-braw in question...(smile) Good Luck!
     
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    You've been watching too much "reality" porn.

    Unless solely for sex I do not know of any person who chases people based on their lack of reserve.

    Same with girls; unless solely interested in less than commitment and emotional attachment I don't remember them chasing people solely based on status, power, etc.
     
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    I take it we attended different colleges?
     
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    Do not fret.

    The double-standard has been there for some time and has only gotten stronger. Then again its just played out as women got more honest. Kind of sad how close the mentalities men were ridiculed for years about match those of "honest" women. More women admit to infifelity, promiscuity, mindgames, etc. now than ever before and once you look you'll realize it was fear that kept the numbers down.

    The same women, "pure", are the ones cheating; the same ones who if cheated on would "cut off his balls". I guess that aids in my lack of trust in other girls my age. :p They all play the double-standard in their favor using ad Hominem quo que tu.

    Its mispelled.
     
  18. Ethyl

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    Guess that means if the guy is a total slut there's little chance she'd want to take him home to meet her parents...right?

    Right.

    If there are men who still believe this horseshit, women don't have much to look forward to.
     
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    No.
    That's out of context there. I said in all entirety that women don't chase men solely based on those traits if they are looking for a longer lasting relationship.

    know the truth though! :p
     
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    just because a girl is a little shy and quiet, it doesnt mean shes not promiscuous, or wouldn't be if more guys attempted to get them into bed... keep your guard up
     
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