Is It Rude To Text Someone At 3 In The Morning?

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Normally, I only text people during the same hours that I might actually call them, although I've been tempted to text people at odd hours but have refrained because I don't want to wake them. I personally turn the volume down on my cell when I go to bed and so I don't care who calls or texts me in the middle of the night, not that many do. How about you?
 
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I mute my phone when I'm sleeping, and while many people I know do, I am sure some do not. So with the exception of friends who I know work graveyard shift, I don't text outside of the hours I know they will be awake. I try not to disturb anyone when they're busy, whether sleeping or during meal times, etc
 

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My volumes can be turned all the way down but my phone alarm (Alarmy) still beeps loudly.
Either way, I’m up at half 4 for work. If it’s a cute pic or strip video as a present to wake up to, I’m down.

If it’s a “hi” or deep musings on life... save it for when we are both free. It’s 3am!
 
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I only send a text at a respectable hour. That being said, I am normally in bed by 11:30 pm. I always turn my phone off before going to bed because I'm a light sleeper, so any buzz, ding, beep, etc will wake me up, and it can be difficult for me at times to fall back asleep. I have heard that cell phones emit waves that disturb sleep while turned on and not being used. I don't know if that's true or not, but because I have a difficult enough time staying asleep as it is, I keep it turned off to be safe. The older I get, the more precious quality sleep has become to me because it's more and more difficult to get.
 
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It’s unacceptable unless an emergency. Who texts in the middle of the night unless somethings wrong ?
 
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Point of clarification for my earlier post. I am something of a night owl. So is my sweetie. We don't tend to go to sleep until 3am or later. I have a short list of folks who I know are also up late that I tend to bullshit with at night.

I'm way more conscientious about not bothering my day walking friends than they are about waking my vampire-y ass up. It's why I set my phone to be silent except for phone calls from numbers I have saved for x amount of hours before I go to sleep. Once that time is up, it automatically goes back to normal for notifications. My friends are good people, but some don't seem to get that I am not going to be awake usually at 8am when I only went to sleep between 3-4am :p
 
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I'm a fucking morning person. Text me at 3am and expect me to be a complete fucker to you for waking me up before my beloved morning time. No. Not all morning people are fucking cheery about it. I'm kinda picky as fuck about my morning routine. Don't. Fuck. It. Up.

I don't need an alarm, I naturally wake up around 4 or 5 in the morning. I would never attempt to spark up a conversation via text message at that time unless it was someone I specifically know is on the same sleep routine as me. In bed by 10-11, up at the butt crack.

I don't send texts after 9pm or before 9am out of consideration for the recipient. I don't know if they keep their sound on. I do, just in case a family emergency of some sort happens during those hours. So, it would probably wake me up.
 

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I mute my phone and turn the sound all the way off when I go to bed. My phone will vibrate but I place it on the carpet, which baffles any vibrations. We have no landline phone. There is no way for the outside world to reach me until i awaken the next AM.

So, by all means, text me all you want at 3:00 a.m.
 

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I'm usually awake at 3, but I still think it's rude, lol. It's never happened though. Most of my real-life friends are 10-20 years older than me (41) so I rarely hear from them between 9pm and 9am.

I often get late night/early morning e-mails. But I let that slide because I have friends/family overseas, so the time difference makes it a given.

I always have my phone on silent/vibrate, so if I'm texted or e-mailed while I'm asleep I don't hear it. I have an alarm set for 8 am, which bypasses the silent/vibrate setting. I decided to use a song I love as the alarm, which has sort of backfired on me. Instead of getting out of bed ready to face the day, I just lay there, listen to the song, then go back to sleep. lol.
 

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Normally, I only text people during the same hours that I might actually call them, although I've been tempted to text people at odd hours but have refrained because I don't want to wake them. I personally turn the volume down on my cell when I go to bed and so I don't care who calls or texts me in the middle of the night, not that many do. How about you?

I accept the following business hours
Mon-Thur 7-9
Fri-Sat 7-10
Closed on Sunday.

You better be dying otherwise.
 

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I am of the opinion it is perfectly acceptable for someone to text me at 3 am. At 3 am I am usually asleep, and even if I am awake, I would not be inclined to text anyone at that hour.

When I am about to sleep, I sometimes turn my phone setting to mute. Usually, I just sleep through whatever message alert sounds that my phone makes.

I view a text message as something of tertiary importance. If something is very important and/or sensitive and/or critical, they would probably come see me personally to convey the message. For example, if there is a casualty involving a family member of mine in a motor vehicle accident, the police would usually come convey the message to me personally.

If people have something to convey to me but they cannot come to tell me personally, they would make a telephone call. This makes telephone calls to be of secondary importance. If my friend wants to offload something in his heart, he would probably call me to moan over it. If I need an ambulance or some important service but I cannot go there for that service, I will make a call. I would not send a text.

This puts texts into a position of tertiary importance. If someone sends me a text, I do not feel obliged to look at it immediately, or to respond immediately. If the sender expects me to read and respond immediately, I feel something is wrong with the sender's perception of a text message. If it requires an immediate response, the sender should have given me a call, not send a text message.

So sending me a text message at 3 am is not rude. Instead, expecting me to respond to a text message immediately - regardless of time - is downright offensive. That's my opinion.
 

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I usually keep all my communication between 7am-10pm and everyone I typically talk with do the same, maybe occasionally up to 11pm or 12am. I guess it depends on the circumstance and the person. If I know someone works night shifts, I try not to bother them before noon. And if I'm unsure then usually 9am-9pm is a "safe" bet. But if it's an emergency, I don't really think you can put a timer on that.

The again I operate under the motto that a message isn't worth sending now if the person can't respond now. It started at work when I realized that emails sent after 7pm usually weren't answered until 8am or 9am the next morning. So then I just save my message as a draft and send out the next day. Not everyone works that way, though.

On the note about not responding right away, send me a text at 3am if you wish but I'm a deep sleeper and won't even see it until whenever I wake up. But I guess that's only OK since I am such a deep sleeper, whereas if it were the opposite I would be quite upset about being woken up in the middle of my sleep.

I had never really thought about this before. I personally would be indifferent about a 3am text message (actually, I might wonder what you were doing awake) but this thread had made me think that it would actually be quite rude in general.
 

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Normally, I only text people during the same hours that I might actually call them, although I've been tempted to text people at odd hours but have refrained because I don't want to wake them. I personally turn the volume down on my cell when I go to bed and so I don't care who calls or texts me in the middle of the night, not that many do. How about you?
I’m nocturnal so nothing applies, I am paged to horror from a dead sleep on a regular basis.
My family knows that they best physically wake me. Lol which none of them can cause they live at least 2 hours to 100’s - 1000’s of Miles away