So without going into too much detail here is the story. Went out with girl my senior year of high school (2006-7) for about a year. We were eachothers first boyfriend and girlfriend, she was afraid of getting pregnant and being the nice guy I didn’t pressure her into having sex. As far as we went were handjobs and fingering. Couple months after we break up she gets a new boyfriend and from what I heard from her friend he basically pressured her into having sex. 4 years since and she is your typical college girl.
Here is my “situation.” Ever since we broke up I have been by her side, I have seen the boyfriends/fuck buddies/drunken party guys come and go but I never really got the impression she was trying to make a move on me. Here we are almost 5 years after breaking up and I still have very strong feelings for her.
The past year or so has been very different. Like some girls she was very attached to the guy that took her virginity, she always told her friends she hated him but was basically still sleeping with him (some 3 year years later) because of the “comfort” thing. But he has been out of her life for a good portion of the past year.
I am terrible with signs from girls, you basically have to sit in my lap for me to figure out a girl is trying to make a move on me. I have no problem admitting I am very shy and don’t have much confidence. So there is my problem.
So here are some things that my friends have labeled as “signs” but I just blew off:
-She came home from school for a weekend. She was going to be the only one in the house the entire weekend. She kept saying “ya it’s just going to be me and the dogs on the bed tonight”. My friends have said its obvious she wanted some company in bed.
-I went to visit her at her school and have dinner. In order to get home I have to go over a mountain pass which can get a lot of snow, with my luck the snow started dumping as we started having dinner. Throughout dinner she kept looking at the pass conditions on her phone and saying over and over “so what are you going to do if the passes close?” My friends say she was hinting at having me ask her if I could spend the night at her place.
-It was her 22 birthday around Christmas time. I was the only guy she invited, there were about 10 of her girl friends there. They all kind of lit up with excitement when I got there and she got a little embarrassed. Throughout the night we talked and she smeared my face with some whip cream that came from a drink she had.
-Last year at her 21st birthday I was once again the only guy. She was literally attached to my hip the entire night and kept saying “thank you so much for coming” and “I’m so happy you’re here”. As we left the bar we hugged and she went to her car looked at me and said “love ya”. To me this was just a typical 21 year old girl drunk statement.
To you the person who has never met us does this sound like she is trying to give me “signs”? My friends aren’t the most experienced with girls. And one of them is the type who will just tell you what you want to hear. So its really hard to believe what they are saying in terms of her giving me signs. Like I said I am terrible with signs from girls, and I almost feel like I have been so beaten down by this girl since I have had to see the guys shes been with that I am basically oblivious to these signs she is giving me, if that is what they actually are.
Thanks for any help.
Here is my “situation.” Ever since we broke up I have been by her side, I have seen the boyfriends/fuck buddies/drunken party guys come and go but I never really got the impression she was trying to make a move on me. Here we are almost 5 years after breaking up and I still have very strong feelings for her.
The past year or so has been very different. Like some girls she was very attached to the guy that took her virginity, she always told her friends she hated him but was basically still sleeping with him (some 3 year years later) because of the “comfort” thing. But he has been out of her life for a good portion of the past year.
I am terrible with signs from girls, you basically have to sit in my lap for me to figure out a girl is trying to make a move on me. I have no problem admitting I am very shy and don’t have much confidence. So there is my problem.
So here are some things that my friends have labeled as “signs” but I just blew off:
-She came home from school for a weekend. She was going to be the only one in the house the entire weekend. She kept saying “ya it’s just going to be me and the dogs on the bed tonight”. My friends have said its obvious she wanted some company in bed.
-I went to visit her at her school and have dinner. In order to get home I have to go over a mountain pass which can get a lot of snow, with my luck the snow started dumping as we started having dinner. Throughout dinner she kept looking at the pass conditions on her phone and saying over and over “so what are you going to do if the passes close?” My friends say she was hinting at having me ask her if I could spend the night at her place.
-It was her 22 birthday around Christmas time. I was the only guy she invited, there were about 10 of her girl friends there. They all kind of lit up with excitement when I got there and she got a little embarrassed. Throughout the night we talked and she smeared my face with some whip cream that came from a drink she had.
-Last year at her 21st birthday I was once again the only guy. She was literally attached to my hip the entire night and kept saying “thank you so much for coming” and “I’m so happy you’re here”. As we left the bar we hugged and she went to her car looked at me and said “love ya”. To me this was just a typical 21 year old girl drunk statement.
To you the person who has never met us does this sound like she is trying to give me “signs”? My friends aren’t the most experienced with girls. And one of them is the type who will just tell you what you want to hear. So its really hard to believe what they are saying in terms of her giving me signs. Like I said I am terrible with signs from girls, and I almost feel like I have been so beaten down by this girl since I have had to see the guys shes been with that I am basically oblivious to these signs she is giving me, if that is what they actually are.
Thanks for any help.
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