is it worth it?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_dlc01zvc, Nov 17, 2011.

  1. D_dlc01zvc

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    I'll try and keep this brief and as straight to the point as but would like to share my thoughts and feelings as much as I can. First of all I'd like to introduce myself. I am a 28 year old and currently in a relationship with an amazing girlfriend who is very open when it comes to sex and is very willing to do things to make me happy (even though I can be shy at times) I can trust her 100% and she has no reason to lie to me as she has shared things with me that I would rather not know but she is always honest.
    I have a fetish for big dicks and it started from an early age, around 17 I guess and always felt like I was inadequate or was never 'big enough' down below. I have always been into watching porn and like nothing better than watch a huge guy (usually a hung black guy, hence my username) and I'm not sure if watching all this porn has made me feel insecure and paranoid about my size.
    Back to me and my partner. I currently have been doing PE for about 4 months now and my girlfriend caught me in the bath using my bathmate which was rather embarrassing and told me that I didn't need to do and it I should stop doing it, she also said she loves my cock as it is. I must admit that it does work fine and have never had erection problems or premature ejaculations but its always been about the size for me, especially the girth. I'm just over 6.5" BPEL and 4.7" EG. I always make her orgasm and it has only been a few times where I haven't made her cum and she does get very angry and boy do I know it, lol. We have played around with toys ect and decided to treat mysef to something and got this Three Extra Inches Penis Extender Sleeve - Penis Extensions - Lovehoney Mobile I was a little bit coy at first introducing it but she was keen to try it and make me happy. She managed to take it well and it was so horny to watch her take it all. With it on I was about 8.5/9" long and around 7.5" girth. It was an amazing experience and we have used it a few times but she says she prefers mine. We have both shared experiences and the inevitable topic of 'What's the biggest penis you've had' conversation which I'm sure I'm not the only guy to have talked about this with their partners. Anyway, she told me that her ex-husband was the biggest she has had and I have known this guy for a long time as I used to date a girl many years ago who was friends with this guy and I always had a slight crush on the girl I'm now with. Its very confusing I know. He's not like my best friend or anything but we get on ok and now currently play football with my girlfriends ex-husband.
    As we were talking about sex the subject of 3sums come up and she said she would like to watch me get fucked by another guy and I said "that's he'd have to a big dick", and she said that her ex-husband was big. I agreed to this as I was really horny at the time so she sent a few texts to her ex asking for a pic and if he'd be up for it. He agreed and replied with some rather horny scenarios and he sent a pic of his cock. I asked to see it and it was slightly impressed but the way she talked about it I thought it would be much bigger. She said she measured it top be 7.5" long and over 5.5" thick. It was a nice cock and we talked more about it and she seems up for it.

    My question is....... Is it worth sacrificing a fantasy for what could be a lot of emotional pain and maybe jealousy if I do decide to go through with this or is it one of those things that are best left as a fantasy? If anyone has had a similar experince I'd like to know what happened and how you felt after.

    Not as brief as I thought but I thought I'd let you know as much as possible about my life so you can give me advice ect. I will post a picture of me as well and I'd like your honest opinions if you think I'm crazy.

    Thanks guys and gals.
     
  2. Pitbull

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    Don't go there.
     
  3. D_dlc01zvc

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    A few pics of me :)
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    DON'T DO IT.
    It would be hot but it would ruin your relationship.
     
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    find a different 3rd with a big cock. there are plenty of guys with big ones out there. NEVER allow the ex back into the relationship!
     
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    Please stay in your relationship. Now, if she insists, leave her...run as fast as you can. Very few women would permit their boyfriends to be fucked by another man...I know I wouldn't.

    Respect should be in both of your arsenals...it will come back to haunt you, one day.
    Good luck in your relationship.
     
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    Thanks. I do know another guy with an even bigger cock so I might ask him. If my girlfriend won't agree to have a 3sum with him then I shall leave it as a fantasy as not sure if I could cope with her having sex with her ex-husband no matter how much I might find it a turn on. I guess some things are best left as fantasies.
     
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    Honestly shanediesellover. don't do it. You are a sexy man with a gorgeous cock. If your gf/wife likes you and likes your cock the way that is, then don't fuck with something that isn't broken.
     
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    Have you ever received anal before? Or masturbated that way? What if you don't like it? What if it hurts or you find your fetish is just for the big cock and not actually being with a man?

    You just sound way too unsure of yourself and your position to be doing something like this. Slow down. Play with dildos, strap-ons - ease in to the fantasy slowly. It strikes me as a bit sudden to hop right into a mmf threesome.

    Unlike other posters I don't believe there is anything wrong with your girlfriend for wanting to see you fucked by another man. Lots of women have that as a fantasy - and some like the reality of it too. But take it slowly, both of you.

    As an aside, 6.5" is above average. Don't believe all the bullshit you read here - there are very few guys out there packing as much as 7", never mind more. The big cock ideal that the porn industry stuffs down your throat ('scuse the pun) is an illusion, it's camera trickery. Most of those guys are about your size. Just keep that in mind.
     
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    Thank you. I guess you're right, she does seem really happy and tells me I'm the best lover she has had. She said she's had to train all her previous partners up but hasn't had to do a thing with me :)
     
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    I have had previous experience with hung guys but don't really consider myself to be gay, just exploring my fantasies and finding what I like. I've told my girlfriend that I like anal and I'd like to get fucked by a big cock. We have a strap on and used it twice but it was a double ended one which she wasn't keen on. She said she wants one a normal strap on that she'd like to fuck me with. I'm guess I'm being silly fantasising about all this 3sum talk but sometimes I think about it and it really gets me horny.
     
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    92pilip posted what I would post to you. As a relationship counselor I would never add an ex-husband into a new relationship no matter how great the fantasy might be.
    You are you and she is pleased and loves you and your body and parts. Your pics are great and you have nothing to be ashamed of about size or your sexy masculine body. You have what you have and don't need to enhance it.
    Have confidence in yourself and your gf -- your love making is good don't complicate it with a 3rd ex person from her past.
    And I agree you may not want to be penetrated by a male -- let your fantasies stay as fantasies. Imagine them, verbalize them -- but you don't have to act upon them -- that is why they are called fantasies.
     
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    shanediesellover, dont do it with a X. They are a X for a reason.
    And you have nothing to worry about very nice looking package
    and body
     
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    Dude, what the hell do you insecurity issues for? You've got a smoking hot body, a great looking cock, a hot girlfriend who loves you.

    Don't fuck up reality for a fantasy!

    Sklar
     
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    Put the relationship first. People are not as easy to handle as toys and playtime fantasies. Keep it just you and your playmate, for as long as possible.
     
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    There are people who want nothing more than a partner to share their lives with who understands them and loves them just the way they are. That's a very simple thing to want, but it's actually almost rare.
    Now think about how long it took you to become dissatisfied with your last partner after you discovered the things that made you give it up. How long was that, about a second? Two seconds?
    How many seconds like that will arise in the fantasy game you have in the making, for either you or your partner?

    think
     
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    Dont do it M8. You've got a hot bod & the grass is always greener.
    Whatever you do don't let the ex back into the fold. She's yours now & I'm not sure she really wants you to be his now.
    Fantasy is all very well & yes of course it appears hotter than reality, but it's all an illusion. The reality is you have a very good, honest, sincere & genuine relationship with a girl who actually likes your body just as it is.
    By all means explore with a 3rd if you both think it could add some spice or broaden some boundaries, but not if you think it could jeapordise what you have already invested in each other.
    It takes a long while to find & develop a meaningful relationship, but has always been easier to destroy something than to create something special.
    Good luck, & feel free to let us know how things go.
     
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    Holy crap! You've got a hot bod and a BEAUTIFUL dick! WTF are you insecure about?!??!?!

    The X is a very bad idea. As others have said, if you want to try getting fucked, fine and dandy---but trust me, it HURTS the first time for most of us. You do NOT want to get her interested in her X again if the little tryst doesn't work out.

    For cryin' out loud, your dick is BEAUTIFUL. I'll put it this way: if she's tired of you or you're not big enough for her, I'll be glad to take you off her hands!
     
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    I'm not sure if you want a girl's opinion, but don't do it. No way. Fantasies are hot. But they're fantasies. And, I agree with all the guys, he's an X for a reason, but don't let him back in. Noooo way. I can't imagine you'd be okay with that once the ball started rolling....then how do you stop it.
     
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    I usually just lurk and read threads like these; however, this had to be said man...

    Don't DO IT!!!

    As many others have said, already. You don't want to re-introduce the Ex-Husband into any intimate setting, let alone your bedroom and you, literally!

    And as far as attractiveness...

    Dude...you're fucking sexy! Many other posters commented and your girl has already said she's happy with you just as you are! Her opinion matters more than any of ours here - as we're just your online feedback. She's experienced your love making and she loves you more for it. And it appears you guys are very open about communication and sexuality so that's great too!

    Fantasy sometimes is BETTER than reality.

    For instance, before I had a relationship with my XBF [first male relationship], I had always fantasized "threesomes" would be "hot". Until he mentioned that he wanted one...suddenly, it wasn't a fantasy but a reality. And my emotions were entirely different with him, thereafter, for the worse.

    And last, sorry for the long post, is this a site dedicated to LARGE MEMBERS - double entendre intended.

    Why don't you chat someone up on here if you're so curious about it. Or any other personals site that has pics of guys and their endowments. At least, you can keep the boundaries clean and distinct afterwards. Your idea of including the EX is opening the pandora's box for a blurred relationship.

    Again, dude be kind to yourself! You're a hot dude and your girl is into you for you. Step back and look at it from the outside looking in. Don't get in the way of your own happiness!
     
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