is it worth it?

[D_dlc01zvc]

Dude, what the hell do you insecurity issues for? You've got a smoking hot body, a great looking cock, a hot girlfriend who loves you.

Don't fuck up reality for a fantasy!

Sklar

Thankyou Don't know why I feel so insecure about myself. I guess I have a low self esteem and confidence issues.

 

[D_dlc01zvc]

Dont do it M8. You've got a hot bod & the grass is always greener.
Whatever you do don't let the ex back into the fold. She's yours now & I'm not sure she really wants you to be his now.
Fantasy is all very well & yes of course it appears hotter than reality, but it's all an illusion. The reality is you have a very good, honest, sincere & genuine relationship with a girl who actually likes your body just as it is.
By all means explore with a 3rd if you both think it could add some spice or broaden some boundaries, but not if you think it could jeapordise what you have already invested in each other.
It takes a long while to find & develop a meaningful relationship, but has always been easier to destroy something than to create something special.
Good luck, & feel free to let us know how things go.

I appreciate your feedback and I think I'm just going to wait before rushing out and chasing a fantasy that potentially could ruin what I have with my partner.
Thank you and will let you know of what happens.

 

[salter]

Sounds like you've got a good mind to go with that great body. If you spend more time thinking about it I think you'll know what you really want to do. But for the umpteenth time I'll have to agree with all those guys who said don't do it with the ex.

 

[D_dlc01zvc]

I usually just lurk and read threads like these; however, this had to be said man...

Don't DO IT!!!

As many others have said, already. You don't want to re-introduce the Ex-Husband into any intimate setting, let alone your bedroom and you, literally!

And as far as attractiveness...

Dude...you're fucking sexy! Many other posters commented and your girl has already said she's happy with you just as you are! Her opinion matters more than any of ours here - as we're just your online feedback. She's experienced your love making and she loves you more for it. And it appears you guys are very open about communication and sexuality so that's great too!

Fantasy sometimes is BETTER than reality.

For instance, before I had a relationship with my XBF [first male relationship], I had always fantasized "threesomes" would be "hot". Until he mentioned that he wanted one...suddenly, it wasn't a fantasy but a reality. And my emotions were entirely different with him, thereafter, for the worse.

And last, sorry for the long post, is this a site dedicated to LARGE MEMBERS - double entendre intended.

Why don't you chat someone up on here if you're so curious about it. Or any other personals site that has pics of guys and their endowments. At least, you can keep the boundaries clean and distinct afterwards. Your idea of including the EX is opening the pandora's box for a blurred relationship.

Again, dude be kind to yourself! You're a hot dude and your girl is into you for you. Step back and look at it from the outside looking in. Don't get in the way of your own happiness!

Thank you so much for your comment. After reading all your feedback I am NOT going to have a 3sum with her ex-hubby. Not that this matters but I forgot to mention that my girlfriend has a four year old kid with her ex and sees him on a regular basis (almost everyday) and also play football with him and see him when I go to pick the kid up from his house. I know this doesn't change much but thought you should know.

I'm so glad I came on this site and posted what I had to say otherwise I think I could have ruined what is a great relationship with my partner for a stupid fantasy. If I do decide to do it in the future it will not involve any previous sexual partners on both parties.

Once again thank you so much for your feedback

 

[185248]

I'll read it tomorrow when my attention span is better.

 

[554279]

I'll try and keep this brief and as straight to the point as but would like to share my thoughts and feelings as much as I can. First of all I'd like to introduce myself. I am a 28 year old and currently in a relationship with an amazing girlfriend who is very open when it comes to sex and is very willing to do things to make me happy (even though I can be shy at times) I can trust her 100% and she has no reason to lie to me as she has shared things with me that I would rather not know but she is always honest.
I have a fetish for big dicks and it started from an early age, around 17 I guess and always felt like I was inadequate or was never 'big enough' down below. I have always been into watching porn and like nothing better than watch a huge guy (usually a hung black guy, hence my username) and I'm not sure if watching all this porn has made me feel insecure and paranoid about my size.
Back to me and my partner. I currently have been doing PE for about 4 months now and my girlfriend caught me in the bath using my bathmate which was rather embarrassing and told me that I didn't need to do and it I should stop doing it, she also said she loves my cock as it is. I must admit that it does work fine and have never had erection problems or premature ejaculations but its always been about the size for me, especially the girth. I'm just over 6.5" BPEL and 4.7" EG. I always make her orgasm and it has only been a few times where I haven't made her cum and she does get very angry and boy do I know it, lol. We have played around with toys ect and decided to treat mysef to something and got this Three Extra Inches Penis Extender Sleeve - Penis Extensions - Lovehoney Mobile I was a little bit coy at first introducing it but she was keen to try it and make me happy. She managed to take it well and it was so horny to watch her take it all. With it on I was about 8.5/9" long and around 7.5" girth. It was an amazing experience and we have used it a few times but she says she prefers mine. We have both shared experiences and the inevitable topic of 'What's the biggest penis you've had' conversation which I'm sure I'm not the only guy to have talked about this with their partners. Anyway, she told me that her ex-husband was the biggest she has had and I have known this guy for a long time as I used to date a girl many years ago who was friends with this guy and I always had a slight crush on the girl I'm now with. Its very confusing I know. He's not like my best friend or anything but we get on ok and now currently play football with my girlfriends ex-husband.
As we were talking about sex the subject of 3sums come up and she said she would like to watch me get fucked by another guy and I said "that's he'd have to a big dick", and she said that her ex-husband was big. I agreed to this as I was really horny at the time so she sent a few texts to her ex asking for a pic and if he'd be up for it. He agreed and replied with some rather horny scenarios and he sent a pic of his cock. I asked to see it and it was slightly impressed but the way she talked about it I thought it would be much bigger. She said she measured it top be 7.5" long and over 5.5" thick. It was a nice cock and we talked more about it and she seems up for it.

My question is....... Is it worth sacrificing a fantasy for what could be a lot of emotional pain and maybe jealousy if I do decide to go through with this or is it one of those things that are best left as a fantasy? If anyone has had a similar experince I'd like to know what happened and how you felt after.

Not as brief as I thought but I thought I'd let you know as much as possible about my life so you can give me advice ect. I will post a picture of me as well and I'd like your honest opinions if you think I'm crazy.

Thanks guys and gals.

No fucking way. He is an ex for a reason. If you have to insert a third partner go with no emotional baggage that could come back to haunt you and fuck up your life.

 

[D_dlc01zvc]

I'll read it tomorrow when my attention span is better.

Ha ha. Yes it is a rather long post but I wanted to share as much detail about my situation as possible and give you a detailed view on what I have been thinking.

 

[sexplease]

the only way to get rid of an itch - scratch it. That being said, YOU do NOT make your girlfriend orgasm nor the reverse. It's all in your head.... or hers.
(Fun Fact: a mans orgasm actually happens in the nervous system between the spine and cock)
Size is not the issue here, but rather a possible reason to explore or open up to some of your feelings of your sexual identity.
I suggest a few sessions with a counselor or psychologist first.
You must be to a level of awareness of your self before offering to others for healthy interpersonal relationships.
and leave your beautiful, hot cock alone. I'm an artist and your body is quite beautiful. mmmmm

 

[helgaleena]

With the additional info, the only way this fantasy should happen is if her ex actually COMES ON to you. And even then, you need all three of you to sit down and discuss it TOGETHER. When you are in a relationship, all aspects of sex life are mutual. Even pursuing a fantasy with another guy is your girl's business, until you leave the relationship.

If they have a kid together, you knew from the start he is going to be around. I urge you to pin down the REASON why he's an ex and keep it foremost in your mind always. And when you decide it's time to make a fantasy real, be certain to clear it all with the girlfriend as well, up until you are ready to leave her behind. That, of course, might be never, if she's a wonderful playmate.