Hey, I'm careful too. I don't think anything is going to happen. I'm too suspicious. The latest is that he wants me to call him but block my number. That just sounds too suspicious to me. Plus supposedly his car is in the shop, so we could not meet in a public place. I'm starting to think he's a weirdo or hiding something.
I can't let a friend know about any of this. My friends are all rather conservative sexually and would label me a tramp, and I would no longer have any friends. I also don't have a cell phone, so I can't do any texting.
When I had placed the ad I placed a few years ago, I had one or two open minded friends who I could let in on what I was doing. The one guy I did have to go to his place and pick him up, because he was unable to drive (and he was not lying about that - he was honestly legally blind). I had a nice FWB relationship with him for several months and he was totally safe.
I am getting very antsy though - remember it has been six years since I've had sex. That is terribly frustrating to someone with a sex drive like mine.[/quote Go with your gut feelings Hun...if you don't feel confy with it don't go since you already went 6 yrs without I'm sure a few more months won't hurt. How about trying some sort of group where you can meet someone with similar interests as you or perhaps your freinds have some freind or relative that might interest you. And if you don't mind me asking why have you waited so long to have sex?
I don't have any close friends here, not that I could talk about my "preferences" this way. Too many people are really uptight. And I am in several groups where I can do non-sexual activities and meet people but have not dated anyone from the group. Some people in the groups do date, but I haven't found anyone yet.
Why have I "waited" so long? Simple - no one has wanted to have sex with me. It was certainly not my choice. Not all women have an easy time getting sex, despite what people seem to think. It may be easy for drop-dead gorgeous, slim, busty women, but I am none of these. I am just "average" (and a bit below average in the "busty" department). There is also the shyness, which is a result of issues from growing up (yeah, I'm 44 and still have these issues...)
There are several men in the groups I belong to who I am attracted to, and one in particular. However, I was at his house for a party once, then later on went on a hike with him, and he didn't even remember that I had been to his house. I guess the attraction is not mutual. I'm not really surprised - I'm just not a "head-turner". I never have been (and have always longed to be).
I do have a lot of great interests and if you get a conversation started with me and make me feel comfortable, I am fine. I am just very shy at first, and have an extremely difficult time starting conversations. I pretty much have to have someone else start a conversation, and I will join in if I have anything to add. Ironically, my being unemployed makes me more open, because I am job hunting and asking my friends if they know of any job leads. I'm still more comfortable in "activity" type situations like team sports or hiking, rather than parties or such.