Kinda strange coming to a board to ask dating advise from guys (and girls) I don't know, and I've only lurked on... but, what the heck right? Quick back ground... I'm 29, 6' tall, lil over weight, but not sloppy over weight, I'll admit I'm not exactly a greek god, but I'm not fugly either... just your average kinda guy. Not into drugs at all, never smoke and very rarely drink. Since we're on a penis board, I'm a little longer than average, around 6.5" long or so and decently thick... once again not a monster, but my lil buddy has never gotten a laugh either. I have a great career, I make a very comfortable living (especially for my area), have my own house, nice truck, nice things. Over all I'm a pretty darn nice guy, nicer than most guys I've met (especially towards the female gender). My last relationship ended just over a year ago, was with her for 7 years, married for a whopping 4 months of that before she left for the grass that was greener (turns out it was a tumble weed, but that's another story). I never have been a ladies man by any means, but I've never had much trouble either, until recently. I swear I could have a bucket of water and be ignored by ladies who are ablaze. I'm by far not expecting to find my next soul mate, but I'm kind of looking for something more than friends too. Even though it sounds cliche, I truly do believe that women aren't interested in a successful nice guy any more. I'm about 95% sure I'm not doing the too desperate clingy bad stuff too... The most common scenario's I've had are slipping right into that friends role (not horrible, but not always fun either), or I manage to find the married women who tell me they wish their hubby was like me and would date me in a heart beat if they weren't married. The other oddities would be the girl who won't talk much or even hang out (most common one), or out of the few ladies whom I'm not invisible to, are everything I don't want. Just for kicks and giggles, here's my semi criteria list. (in importance) 1. Must have a job, or even better, a career 2. Preferably non smoker or light smoker, no choo choo trains for me. 3. Must not be ugly... I'm not expecting any models (not opposed either lol), but honestly, there's got to be some physical attraction too.. 4. Drinking is fine, but social drinking only, no alcoholics or people who feel the need to get trashed every chance they can. 5. No kids, or if they do, a kid or 2 from a previous serious relationship is fine. I'm not into the girls who have 3 kids by 5 dads all with in a few years. Not terribly picky I don't think, yet it rules out at least half or more of the women around here. I've attempted meeting girls through my friends, the internet, via the few times I go out, nothing is working. I know this is a very brief description, but from what you experts can see, any tips on where to steer myself back on track?