First off I don't know HOW I've never come across this site before! It's definitely my jam. Came across it last night when I was searching "celery seed." LOL Just funny to me.
So I'm gonna load this question (no pun intended) with some info to get to my various questions... (I promise future posts won't be this rambling)
A lil background... I've dated women, I've dated guys. I personally don't really identify with a sexual preference per se. Actually just creating a profile here I found it a bit antiquated in 2018 that people still care "percentage of str8 - gayness" but I digress and I get it.
SO.... I've never really been wired to pop a boner just seeing a naked guy (or girl). Not gonna go into that much but sets up my question. To ME nakedness wasn't something sexual.
I have never really "liked" clothes, but definitely wasn't a nudist. I don't wear underwear or tight clothes etc., just feels restrictive to me is the best way to describe it.
My first "nudist experience" was when I visited a Korean Spa. I had never hung out naked with other guys like that ever. It wasn't about the guys, it was about the freedom I felt if that makes sense.
I was hooked. I absolutely loved just bein to sweat it out ballstowalls haha This was about 6-7 years ago before the Korean spas basically turned into a gay bathhouse. It was when I started going at night after the bars that I noticed the energy was different. I saw a guy getting a body scrub gettin a boner at that brought my lil soldier to attention. I discovered that seeing someone get turned on, turned me on. Idk if that's voyerism or what but that's not the point.
One day a guy and I struck up a convo randomly about being from the same hometown. There was no "play" no sexual tension, just a convo between two people. He asked how long I had been coming there etc, I shared with him some of what I just explained and we exchanged numbers to connect next time we were going.
I lived in a place at the time that had a private roof top deck that of course I would lay out naked on as often as I could. The next time we met up at the spa, I invited him to come hang some weekend. There was no motive or strategy on either end.
He came over one weekend and laid out and had a few beers and just talked and chilled. He said he was straight, and by this time I had dropped the bitch and made the switch and shared that with him as well. We actually became friends for years till he moved.
I thought I had officially become a nudist. However laying out on the roof, or hangin at the spa was my limit so to speak. For some reason it felt awkward to me hangin out naked sittin on my couch watching a movie or whatever. I'm not sure why other than to ME I wasn't doin anything that "warranted" bein naked. Not too long after, I met a new friend (gay) who had a house in the desert that he went to on the weekends. When Id drive out to visit within 5 mins of arriving I'd say hi, grab a beer and be naked in the pool. That was his vibe too. Never anything sexual.
We're gettin close to an actual question here... hang on LMAO
My "5 year plan" was to fulfill a dream of mine and buy a house with my own pool just like my friend. I recently accomplished that, and you guessed it, the DAY I got my keys, I didn't even unpack a single thing... walked in the house stripped down and jumped in MY pool.
Shortly after getting house I decided to go out for drinks by myself and just check things out. Started at str8 bar ended at gay bar where I met this group of people I ended up laughing my ass off with. At bar close I said they were welcome to come over for drinks. (again nothing sexual, I'm a late nighter and all my adult life my pad was always where people came to pre drink or after bar drink etc)
All were tourists.. one str8 guy and str8 girl (not couple,) One gay single guy and two guys who were boyfriends and me.
We came in made drinks and went to have a smoke by the pool. (oh btw I have a completely private backyard)
Here's where I'm stuck and want opinions...
I am always naked in my pool. It actually seems weird to me to get undressed to put on clothes to jump in my own pool.
So one of the boyfriends was the first to say he felt like jumpin in. I offered a pair of gym shorts etc, but no one moved. The boyfriends seemed a little uncomfortable compared to when we were all at the bar. I realized as the host maybe I should break the ice (also I was drunk) hahah
So I walked to the hot tub, got naked and got in. Single gay guy did the same. Girl didn't get naked or get in cuz she didn't want her new extensions to get wet LOL but sat on the side of the hot tub and drank and chatted with us. I felt I was successful at putting everyone at ease.
However I noticed the boyfriends still sitting over on the patio and the str8 guy. We prodded them to get in, but the boyfriends said they were tired and left (it was like 3am at this point). And minutes later the str8 guy said bye to his friend (str8 girl) and left too.
The 3 of us stayed up drinkin and laughing our asses off for another 2 hours and they left. They were / are two of the funniest people I've ever met.
The next day I started over thinking things... gay guy and str8 guy ended up becoming friends. Gay guy doesn't give a crap and jumps in naked when he's over. Str8 guy have gone out to the bars several times and had a blast, but he's never come back over for some reason.
My question is... does nakedness always insinuate something sexual to everyone else but me? Did the boyfriends think the night was gonna turn into a f*@k fest and that's why they suddenly left? Str8 guy is obviously comfortable enough to hang at a gay bar, but did the sight of dick traumatize him? LOL
I'm a lil gun shy now about offering / suggesting we hot tub or pool to new people who come over because I don't want them to seem like "that guy".
And I don't have to be naked of course. I just don't understand why someone wouldn't want to be. I do have a couple friends who have visited and wanted to get in but said "oh I don't have trunks" I tell em no one cares (meaning they don't need em) or you can go grab a pair of shorts in my room. If they put on shorts then that's how I swim too.
So I'm gonna load this question (no pun intended) with some info to get to my various questions... (I promise future posts won't be this rambling)
A lil background... I've dated women, I've dated guys. I personally don't really identify with a sexual preference per se. Actually just creating a profile here I found it a bit antiquated in 2018 that people still care "percentage of str8 - gayness" but I digress and I get it.
SO.... I've never really been wired to pop a boner just seeing a naked guy (or girl). Not gonna go into that much but sets up my question. To ME nakedness wasn't something sexual.
I have never really "liked" clothes, but definitely wasn't a nudist. I don't wear underwear or tight clothes etc., just feels restrictive to me is the best way to describe it.
My first "nudist experience" was when I visited a Korean Spa. I had never hung out naked with other guys like that ever. It wasn't about the guys, it was about the freedom I felt if that makes sense.
I was hooked. I absolutely loved just bein to sweat it out ballstowalls haha This was about 6-7 years ago before the Korean spas basically turned into a gay bathhouse. It was when I started going at night after the bars that I noticed the energy was different. I saw a guy getting a body scrub gettin a boner at that brought my lil soldier to attention. I discovered that seeing someone get turned on, turned me on. Idk if that's voyerism or what but that's not the point.
One day a guy and I struck up a convo randomly about being from the same hometown. There was no "play" no sexual tension, just a convo between two people. He asked how long I had been coming there etc, I shared with him some of what I just explained and we exchanged numbers to connect next time we were going.
I lived in a place at the time that had a private roof top deck that of course I would lay out naked on as often as I could. The next time we met up at the spa, I invited him to come hang some weekend. There was no motive or strategy on either end.
He came over one weekend and laid out and had a few beers and just talked and chilled. He said he was straight, and by this time I had dropped the bitch and made the switch and shared that with him as well. We actually became friends for years till he moved.
I thought I had officially become a nudist. However laying out on the roof, or hangin at the spa was my limit so to speak. For some reason it felt awkward to me hangin out naked sittin on my couch watching a movie or whatever. I'm not sure why other than to ME I wasn't doin anything that "warranted" bein naked. Not too long after, I met a new friend (gay) who had a house in the desert that he went to on the weekends. When Id drive out to visit within 5 mins of arriving I'd say hi, grab a beer and be naked in the pool. That was his vibe too. Never anything sexual.
We're gettin close to an actual question here... hang on LMAO
My "5 year plan" was to fulfill a dream of mine and buy a house with my own pool just like my friend. I recently accomplished that, and you guessed it, the DAY I got my keys, I didn't even unpack a single thing... walked in the house stripped down and jumped in MY pool.
Shortly after getting house I decided to go out for drinks by myself and just check things out. Started at str8 bar ended at gay bar where I met this group of people I ended up laughing my ass off with. At bar close I said they were welcome to come over for drinks. (again nothing sexual, I'm a late nighter and all my adult life my pad was always where people came to pre drink or after bar drink etc)
All were tourists.. one str8 guy and str8 girl (not couple,) One gay single guy and two guys who were boyfriends and me.
We came in made drinks and went to have a smoke by the pool. (oh btw I have a completely private backyard)
Here's where I'm stuck and want opinions...
I am always naked in my pool. It actually seems weird to me to get undressed to put on clothes to jump in my own pool.
So one of the boyfriends was the first to say he felt like jumpin in. I offered a pair of gym shorts etc, but no one moved. The boyfriends seemed a little uncomfortable compared to when we were all at the bar. I realized as the host maybe I should break the ice (also I was drunk) hahah
So I walked to the hot tub, got naked and got in. Single gay guy did the same. Girl didn't get naked or get in cuz she didn't want her new extensions to get wet LOL but sat on the side of the hot tub and drank and chatted with us. I felt I was successful at putting everyone at ease.
However I noticed the boyfriends still sitting over on the patio and the str8 guy. We prodded them to get in, but the boyfriends said they were tired and left (it was like 3am at this point). And minutes later the str8 guy said bye to his friend (str8 girl) and left too.
The 3 of us stayed up drinkin and laughing our asses off for another 2 hours and they left. They were / are two of the funniest people I've ever met.
The next day I started over thinking things... gay guy and str8 guy ended up becoming friends. Gay guy doesn't give a crap and jumps in naked when he's over. Str8 guy have gone out to the bars several times and had a blast, but he's never come back over for some reason.
My question is... does nakedness always insinuate something sexual to everyone else but me? Did the boyfriends think the night was gonna turn into a f*@k fest and that's why they suddenly left? Str8 guy is obviously comfortable enough to hang at a gay bar, but did the sight of dick traumatize him? LOL
I'm a lil gun shy now about offering / suggesting we hot tub or pool to new people who come over because I don't want them to seem like "that guy".
And I don't have to be naked of course. I just don't understand why someone wouldn't want to be. I do have a couple friends who have visited and wanted to get in but said "oh I don't have trunks" I tell em no one cares (meaning they don't need em) or you can go grab a pair of shorts in my room. If they put on shorts then that's how I swim too.