Is not giving head a deal breaker?

[exib]

Yeah it's a deal breaker.

I'm not a fan of getting sucked off until I cum though. I'd rather have vaginal sex and then orgasm. Wife lets me cum on her face and I actually find that to be the biggest turn on, so often I just forego the BJ. Also she does pussy-to-mouth, which again I find a huge turn on.

 

[deleted931509]

Absolutely not. I have never had a satisfactory blowjob, on account of my girth. Of course I am always happy for a lady to try.
Anyway, it isn't the ultimate for me. As long as she can submit to my dominant fat one, I'm satisfied. That may explain why I have been single for a while

 

[Abagnale12]

If I'm ever single again yes. Absolutely. My wife rarely does it and I hate that. Says she doesn't like doing it yet has done it to everyone she's ever fucked... I think it's more my cock is old news as far as that.

 

[rope9839]

I have dated a few women who did not like oral sex. In each case it wasn't jsut giving head, they didn't like receiving it much either.

I can't say it was a deal breaker, because sex was not the reason the relationships ended, but it was kind of a relief when it became part of the rotation again when I met someone new.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

The woman I married used to blow me all the time when we first started dating. Then we got married and it got less and less frequent. The last two years of our marriage we didn’t have sex, so it’s was non-existent.

Now my gf loves it. There are times when she’s like “Hey I’m horny. Can I blow you?” And my reply is “Sure. Can I fuck you?” Sometimes we fuck, sometimes when we don’t have a lot of time she’ll just blow me.

It’s awesome. I don’t think I could ever go back to a woman that doesn’t love both giving and receiving oral.

 

[ceejay1960]

Not a deal breaker but has been disappointing over time.
When my missus and I first got together she had never given head and I didn't push it. After we had been together a couple of months I pressurised her to give it a try when she was on her period, as, no way was I getting access to her fanny at that time. Anyway she gave it a try but not enthusiastically but, she was doing her best and at least the head was in her mouth.
Well I took over and face fucked her and went forward with great gusto until I came what she said was gallons of spunk and I held her mouth on my cock until all was swallowed. Unfortunately that was the one and only time she swallowed and a little lick of the head has been the most I have had since.
Recently she has said that if, I lick out her cream pie she may consider giving head!!

 

[At.your.cervix]

If your dick is thick enough and the girl's jaw/mouth is small enough sometimes it's not a question of desire but rather physiology. If you want to understand what irony is, the only girl who ever managed to take me in her throat down to my balls had a small mouth and could only suck on me for about a minute before the discomfort got too much for her. Sigh.

 

[N68]

DEAL BREAKER

What fool on earth would refuse giving YOU head

 

[emmyfan]

 

[palakaorion]

I can count the number of blowjobs I received on my fingers and toes. Wasn't A deal breaker because we were in love and committed before becoming intimate.

Any new relationship will come with its own expectations.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

I can count the number of blowjobs I received on my fingers and toes.

You poor man.

What are you, Amish?

 

[palakaorion]

You poor man. What are you, Amish?

Not Amish. (And who says Amish couples don't have oral sex anyway?)

Was married happily for 32 years to a woman I loved deeply, for whom blowjobs were not on the everyday menu for a number of reasons which I will not get into, but would treat me occasionally. She passed away 2 years ago. I am between relationships.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

Not Amish. (And who says Amish couples don't have oral sex anyway?)

Was married happily for 32 years to a woman I loved deeply, for whom blowjobs were not on the everyday menu for a number of reasons which I will not get into, but would treat me occasionally. She passed away 2 years ago. I am between relationships.

Sorry she passed away. But less than 20 over 32 years is less than one a year. It doesn’t have to be an everyday thing, but even twice a year, which is extremely low, would give you 64.

I was in a marriage for 13 years, and I’d say the last 3 were loveless; I had sex twice in that period, which included oral. And my ex was a complete witch.

If that’s the case then I’m guessing it was a medical issue. Sorry you weren’t able to experience it then, but I hope you can now.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

And yes, Amish couples Do NOT have oral, as long as they are still Amish. It is forbidden. Look it up.

 

[N68]

I forgot to say what started this is comments I still continue to hear in locker rooms, barber shops, places men feel comfortable talking.


That old familiar, What do you mean she won't give head!!!!! Oh dude, dump her!
That always makes me laugh a little when I hear it. And I was curious how many guys felt like that.


I'm increasingly intrigued by the big dick guys.

Hey. you know it's big. and just the thought that she's ignoring the chance at something a lot of others wouldn't turn down, can be gob smacking to some guys.


And to stir the pot a little more, the fact that you notice the attention HERE and other places FOR your big dick.

And the fact your partner will be like, "Um, I aint sucking your dick.

And as some said, when they do it it's more like doing a job, rather than pleasing you.

I have never had a satisfactory blowjob, on account of my girth. Of course I am always happy for a lady to try.

I can't say it was a deal breaker, because sex was not the reason the relationships ended

The woman I married used to blow me all the time when we first started dating. Then we got married and it got less and less frequent.

DEAL BREAKER

Knowing then what I know now, yes it would've been a deal breaker. I've had one woman who practically had to be surgically removed from sucking my dick. She loved it so much. And I've had another who hates it so much that when she does suck my dick it effects me emotionally to the point where I stop her. She makes up for this in many other ways. Obviously. I wouldn't have married her otherwise.

DEAL BREAKER

No, not a deal-breaker at all. Which is a good thing because I've never had a good blowjob! Partly I think it's because my head is too sensitive and another reason is because I'm thick, so every blowjob I've had has been a teeth-scraping-down-the-shaft one. I know there are women who can give good oral to guys thicker than me but I've never had the fortune to have oral sex from one who can.

It’s important.

I still find the comments from the straight guys very compelling. I'll highlight the ones from the straight and bi guys in a bit. It's fascinating to me because I'm thinking the guy, being a guy can assume, head is on the table.

 

[CURIOUS_8]

Pretty cool input @Broadsword.

All you guys kind of normalize the commentary I've heard from guys all this time. Because you have some that have said what I've heard forever," No way man a wife/partner who doesn't give head fuck that!!." all the jokes I've heard and laughed at.

Like,

As the BLOWER, Truth be told, it does nothing for me.

So I did find myself thinking, Dam, is a Blow job THAT POWERFUL?!?! With some friends it becomes VERY touchy subject when a bunch of guys are together and it comes up.


My guy's (maybe homophobic ) dad ( who sort of suspects I'm with his son) even made THAT joke about being on wife #3. Because as they lose interest in giving BJs, what good are they? lol...


But to hear gay and straight guys alike joke about it being a deal breaker made me want to ask, not just more guys, but guys in particular with big dicks.

And it's still cool to hear guys say, Although they would like it, it's not the end all and be all in a relationship.

And @BillnotWill, I love the common Birthday Blowjob. I never grow tired of hearing about it..lol..




Wow this is an interesting take.

Most guys I've heard talk about it give commentary like @FastNHard or @Broadsword, who, I admire their candor in saying what my friends have,


"The good outweighs the bad in my marriage, because I can't get a blowjob for shit.

If she offers to blow me I'm Like OK what did you break>/ How much does it cost..etc.."

Always a classic

 

[NOBBY_UK]

As long as she does not expect me to munch

 

[CURIOUS_8]

As long as she does not expect me to munch

HA!

 

[dbcnqld79]

current GF doesn't give head, she has her reasons and I respect that so I can live without

 

[Sagittarius84]

I mean if I was dealing with two potential women that were pretty evenly matched, sure the one more prone to fellation might have a leg up...but honestly as long as there's an honest and earnest effort and desire to satisfy me in other ways, I have no problem if certain auxiliaries weren't available.
I once had a neighbor, whom due to past sexual assault couldn't have missionary sex at all. My wife questioned how her husband could deal with that, I told her that wouldn't be an issue for me and her husband probably has no issue with doggy, prone bone, cowgirl, and all the other fun positions you can do with PIV.
The point is, no BJs can be an opportunity to cultivate a HJ master, or maybe foot jobs if you're into it..
I think either gender should look at a lack of oral loving as an opportunity to find mutually enjoyable ways to reach the same goals, or possibly a way to allow for either to get their needs met within a modified construct of their relationship.