is oral sex cheating?

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  1. ruffboy

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    have actually made plans to have my cock sucked in the next couple days with a woman is just gaga for me and it, but i'm married..........

    so, is it cheating?

    where is that line drawn for y'all?

    i know it will be different for everyone, just wondering where people stand
     
  2. JUSTaskME

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    Yes! Definitely cheating!!!!!
     
  3. Joll

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    Yes it is! Sorry. :/
     
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    I had a person tell me "Remember, eatin' aint cheatin' and suckin' aint fuckin'"
     
  5. DiscoBoy

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    Generally, if you feel the need to hide it, then it's probably cheating.
     
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    Yes, it's cheating, but then again, cheating has won Presidential elections and Superbowls, so it isn't like cheating doesn't work sometimes.
     
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    Definitely cheating if it's another woman. If it were a guy, then it's a bit gray in my book. :rolleyes:
     
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    Yes Mr. Clinton. It is cheating! You did have sex with that woman!:eek:
     
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    Ofcourse it is!!!!!!!! Look at it this way, if your wife found out, would she leave you? I think she would, so dont do it!
     
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    Yes...it's cheating to me...more importantly if it is cheating to your wife (which is really all that matters) then it is...I'm guessing if you feel the need to hide it or lie about it then, yes it is.
     
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    My thing is: If your not getting good lovin' at home, youre going to look elsewhere for the need to be met.

    I see it as no other option because no guy signs up for a sexless marriage. Hell i wouldnt either.

    It's like if your husband wasnt good at fixing cars or things around the house, or deliberately chose not to, then i'd have to find someone else to get the job done.

    Is it cheating? Sure it is, but i think i know your marital situation a bit better than most on here. So i highly doubt she'd be leaving you over it as Lemon suggests.

    Sometimes well into marriage a woman gets to the point where she has no sex drive and literally could be happy never having sex again. What is a guy to do at that point? How long do you have to be a chronic masturbator in order to get intimacy or an orgasm from someone else?
     
  12. BigDallasDick8x6

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    This is a question for your wife and your wife only. Are you going to tell your wife in advance and will she be OK with it? If not, then it's cheating.
     
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    You may be right, but i was just working with the information given.

    You are asking us if its cheating, but i think you are really asking should you do it. If your having to ask then dont.
     
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    Did you believe him (or her)?
     
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    I think it is, and I bet you also do. And if it weren't, are you sure you would stop at it, or wouldn't you move on to something more?

    PS. You didn't give any info about your marriage situation. If there is no sex in it, your plans could have an attenuant...
     
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    There are many men in sexless marriages. Although I truly understand you wanting to find release, even if it's from outside the home, it doesn't mean it's right. I've been there too, and I've done what most have suggested, "talk to your spouse," but that doesn't always resolve the problem. There are women out there who simply can care less about sex. The husband can do everthing right, the wife is just not into sex. So what are you to do? Keep trying! Cheating will only make matters worse. Another question you have to ask yourself is would you be okay with your wife receiving oral sex from another man. If the answer is no, there's your answer. My recommendation, put more effort into being intimate with your wife than looking for it else where.
     
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    Perhaps you should ask yourself if you'd consider it cheating if you found out your wife was sucking some other guy's cock.
     
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    If you can't or won't tell your wife then in my opinion it is cheating. Unless of course you have an open marriage but then again I don't think that is the case here because you are asking if it is cheating.
     
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    Yes, oral sex is cheating. Any kind of intimate physical action that results in sexual pleasure with another person, without the awareness or approval by significant other is cheating...and generally shows a person to be dishonest and noncommitted.
     
  20. Deno

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    Not according to an ex president.
     
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