Morals are relative.
It's easy to call someone a "skunk" for cheating when you don't know the situation and don't think about the potential complexity behind it.
Can cheating actually be used to save a marriage? Why not?
While you can easily say, "You should talk to your spouse and get divorced if she won't change," is that really always the best solution to a sexless marriage? Or is that just Puritanical Western marriage morality talking?
People act like divorce is nothing and like libido is something one can control. If your wife has no sexual libido, does that mean it's time to get divorced? That seems morally improper to me as well.
I can predict responses like, "She can still suffer through sex/blow jobs/hand jobs even if she has no libido," so let me respond to them now. If you're with someone with no libido, how good is the sex going to be? For me, at least, if my partner were not interested in sex, I would not want to have sex with her.
I anticipate complaints about how people should see a doctor if this happens, or how if cheating is on the table then there is so little love in the relationship that divorce should be obvious. I do not think this is true. Love is not necessarily reliant on sex.
There was a time when I thought cheating/affairs were 100% morally wrong, but after knowing people in these situations, it became clear to me that it can be a morally complex issue without a simple answer. I've certainly known people who loved their spouses as much as they did the day they were wed, but who, due to the sexless nature of their relationship, cheated in order to satisfy that side of their psyche that their spouse could not satisfy. Their spouses did not find out and nobody was hurt by it... so where was the moral wrong done?
Because there is an attitude of "Anything Goes" around here. I've seen my fair share of "Don't judge someone elses relationship" when it comes to incest, BDSM, threesomes, open marriages, cuckholds, small penis humiliation. Why should this be any different to have someone look at the other side of the coin on this particular issue?
Im not saying no one should have morals, im saying around LPSG its strongly not advised when it comes to sex practices.
Not everyone here is sexually liberal, just like not everybody here is politically liberal. Something you should know intimately by now, no?
Using the word "lib" as a pejorative is very 2005 of you. :tongue: