Is seeing a 20 year old too young.

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  1. Broken5150

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    I have met someone that is about 17 years younger than me and we are both interested in pursuing something more serious, mainly sexual, but I have reservations because of our age difference.

    We met innocently enough at Best Buy and got to chatting about music and what not. She is into old school rock, heavy metal, Van Halen etc., which surprised me with rock not being that popular with the younger folks out there right now. We kind of flirted a bit and exchanged emails and agreed to have lunch in the future. Well we went out for lunch and she asked me how old I was. I told her I was 37 and she was a bit surprised. I guess I look younger than my age. Well she said that she wasn't really comfortable seeing someone my age and I said I understood and we finished lunch and we about our lives for awhile. About two months later I received an email from her saying that she felt bad turning me down because of my age and asked if I would meet her again for lunch. Well we met for lunch and things went well and we both agreed to do the dinner/movie thing and see where things went. Well over dinner we got into discussions about sex and it eventually led to her asking me how big I was. I swear girls that age have no hangups whatsoever. Well I am not used to talking about my size that often so I was a bit embarrassed and said "its so tiny you cant see it" . She didn't like that and kept pushing me for an answer. I finally said its bigger than normal and didn't say anymore about it. I guess that got her attention because now she is more flirtatious and keeps hinting at sleeping with me but I still have some reservations because of the age difference. I don't know if it was the size comment that peaked her interest more or what but it is hard to keep my cool around her.

    I hate the label dirty old man but that is what I feel like right now. She is gorgeous and sexy and I am surprised she is even talking to me let alone thinking about having sex with me.

    Just for the record I am not that big 7.5X6 or so depending on the day and I am not a male model by any means.

    All in all I guess seeing a 20 year old is not that bad but if I think about it just doesn't feel right. Its like having a devil and an angel sitting on your shoulders saying things into your ear. Part of me (yes that part) wants to just please her for days but the other side says no. What to do.

    Any advice would be appreciated.

    Thanks in advance.
     
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    You are both adults. My uncle always has a young girl with him every week...and I know that at least here, most guys your age would be jealous/would 'love to love' a 20 year old girl.

    Please her for days! She sounds hot!!!

    I would love to get asked my size...I try showing them...with my big tongue but the 20 year olds here aren't impressed? lol.

    Go for it. Two adults should do what adults do, its all good.
     
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    Go for it, if it was an older lady and a younger man she`d jump on his cock in a heart beat, i know from personal experience.
    Also, my second wife re-married a man 20 years older than herself and has since had several children with him, i guess they`re happy, so it`s not that uncommon.
    What i`m trying to say is that today is not like it was 30 years ago, people live longer, plus they`re healthier than ever before so that has kinda changed the rules.
    Don`t worry about what others think, you shouldn`t let them dictate your potential for happiness, what`s the worst that can happen, that it doesn`t work out, atleast you`ll have lived in the persuit of happiness vs. wondering till the end of your days if you should had gone for it.
    This could be your last chance at some righteous p***y, think about it hard, no pun intended, ha, ha.

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    You're both adults but you say that it doesn't feel right, it really doesn't matter what other people think or feel when you're both the age you are but if it doesn't feel right to you then you probably won't enjoy it.
     
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    Go for it dude, CERTAINLY if she likes Van Halen. You won't have this kind of opportunity forever.

    If anyone in the tri-state area has an extra ticket for when Van Halen comes to town in November please let me know.
     
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    Ha ha, yeah she is incredibly hot and it would be some righeous love making :smile:. I think I would spend a few days just obsessing over every inch of her bod. She is tight and busty and just knocks me out every time I see her. Damn I need to give her a call. :biggrin1:
     
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    Well as long as your honest and she knows about the age difference and is ok with it.

    A few weeks ago I went out on a date to see a guy and he had told me that he was 27, im 23, but then some of his friends were asking him how old he was and I sorta felt like his boy toy, so then he pulled out his license and it said he was born in 1970 so he was actually 37 instead of 27. And he acted like this should not have been a big deal to me, and that I shouldn't be upset that he lied, but to me there is a huge difference between a 4 year age difference and a 14 year age difference, I really don't want to see someone who is old enough to almost be my dad, since I can't see what I could possibly have in common with a guy that much older.

    Not that I'm agaist older guys it's just important for the age to be out in the open and be honest about it which it sounds like you were, because i once dated a guy who was 32 when I was 22, he had originally told me that he was like 26-28, but he at least did have the balls to tell me the truth after we talked for like an hour, and because he did this we then had an 8 month relationship.

    So the key to this question is honesty, and go with what you and her feel is the right thing to do as you are both adults and its really no one else's position to judge, just watch out for the parents reaction if it gets too serious.

    Note: they had a show about this on Dr. Phil Recently.
     
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    Yeah young Van Halen fans are far and few between and I was shocked when she said she was a fan. Plus she is hot and wants my bod so I was/am like a kid in a candy store with some morals.

    I would LOVE to go see them on this tour but they aren't coming anywhere near where I live. SUCKS.
     
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    LOL let me clarify my earlier statement, what doesnt feel right is a 20 year old busty beauty hitting on ME :biggrin1: That shit never happens to me and the fact that I am in this situation just floors me. I guess I shouldnt worry about the age difference too much. She is mature for her age and I guess I am worrying about what other people will think too much. Thanks for the comment princess, oh and BTW you are gorgeous.:biggrin1:
     
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    As with any relationship, as long as you are honest with her (which includes your intentions about the relationship being largely sexual and your reservations about the age difference) I, personally, see no problem. However, realize that your discomfort with the age difference probably will not go away over time, though it might (I'm no fortune teller).
     
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    When we met I knew she was young and I treaded lightly and was honest with her about my age once we kind of moved beyond the friendly stage and started flirting and hanging out more. It was mutual attraction I think from the start, so I had to keep my wits about me.
    I am not sure where this is headed and quite frankly I am just enjoying the ride right now just being with her. It is nice to get a younger perspective on things. We haven't done anything sexually yet and if for some reason that doesn't happen I will just go take a cold shower and have, hopefully, a new friend.

    Broken:biggrin1:
     
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    My husband and I are 15 yrs apart and I have never been with a younger man (I'm 34).
    I agree with SP, if it doesn't feel right don't do it. But if you are just uncomfortable because it is a new situation, go with the flow.

    By the way, keep your eyes peeled for any gold digging tendencies!

    One last thing...I'm going to Van Halen when they come to Detroit in October.
    DAAAAAAVVVVVVEEEEEEEE!!!!
     
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    Go for it, if the only thing that's stopping you is because you're not often hit on by young hotties you'd be daft to let that stop you. People are either adults or they're not, she evidently is so have fun. You don't know where it will go but doesn't that apply to any flirtation/dating you enter into?
     
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    LOL I dont think she is a gold digger, her parents are loaded so maybe I have a 20 year old sugar mama:wink:.

    Jennuine will you take me with you. Damn

    I have seen VH four times with Sammy and Gary but never with Dave(got on the VH train late) man I hope they tour again and make it out to Denver or somewhere close.
     
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    Thanks to all for the advice. She is coming over tonight so maybe tonight is the night to unleash the beast with her (oh please). LOL she might just want to find out what bigger than normal is with me. LOL hope she doesnt expect a 12" cock, then im not screwed.:tongue:

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    This is gonnna give your life new meaning. I can think of no better situation for yourself, or for myself when I am your age. There is nothing else in this world that makes you feel the feeling of being young and in love again. Because you will love her body. You will love the way you feel. I bet you already feel like your flying. Damn I'm excited and its not even for me! And she likes Van Halen, what else could you possibly ask for?

    Don't think twice ever again about this, and don't listen to anyone who says anything negative about this, and don't ever worry what anyone else might think about this.
     
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    You are correct Skull, I am flying as I have opened my mind up to the possibility of this happening and its not just about the sex its just the thought of spending more time with her on a different level and intimacy. Nothing may happen tonight but I dont really care. After writing about this it has allowed me to really figure out where my mind is and decide that I want to take it to the next level if it fits with her.

    Wow as you said Skull it is a good feeling. Not because she is young but because of who she is.

    Thanks again all.

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    Keep me posted man im rootin for ya. Be wary of trying to push it too far too fast as she may pull back. Just play it cool and let things fall into place. I've seen VH with gary and sammy a few times and I can't wait to see them when they come round here. Why don't you make it out to vegas to see them?
     
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    Oh yeah I am going slow, no rushing here.

    I would but its a money/timing/ issue to get down there. If I can I will.
     
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    Just be yourself. Don't try to act her age. Go slow and really take time to pleasure her. Remember guys her age are usually bunnies in the sack. Show her what 17 years can teach a man :wink:.

    Good luck!
     
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