Is Sexting Cheating?

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Wrestling with this. Thoughts?

I'm talking about swapping pics with people, with some comments / suggestions back and forth.
 

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Found this article:

Does sexting count as cheating? - body+soul

Which seems slightly contradictory.

"Anonymous pictures, fantasies and thoughts are okay when contained. Cheating is when there is a real third person made to feel, in any form, that they are invited to trespass into a primary partnership."

Sexting is generally pretty close to anonymous...isn't it?
 
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Yes, it is emotional intelectual cheating.

Sorry to be a killjoy dude, but it is true. It is inappropriate if one has a gf, partner, spouse.
 

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Emotional affairs count and so does this. Anything you dont tell your partner about is going to be considered cheating
 

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I thought so. I think so too. But I think I'm accustomed to getting off on people telling me how big my dick is (or how big they think it is).

Only when I'm horny though. It's become my porn. Instead of watching vids I flash my dick to people. No harm no foul?

I mean I could see it being an issue if it lead to sex. But what if it was just sexting.
 

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Yes. Cheating isn't about the act, it's about the deception. If your S.O. doesn't know about it, and would be upset by it, it's cheating.
 

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Found this article:

Does sexting count as cheating? - body+soul

Which seems slightly contradictory.

"Anonymous pictures, fantasies and thoughts are okay when contained. Cheating is when there is a real third person made to feel, in any form, that they are invited to trespass into a primary partnership."

Sexting is generally pretty close to anonymous...isn't it?

How is it when you have someone's number? Sounds like you are looking for someone to say it's ok even though you know it's not.

Having thoughts about men or women and keeping them in your head is one thing, approaching someone you know or a stranger and being sexually explicit is very much another - Dumped
 

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I thought so. I think so too. But I think I'm accustomed to getting off on people telling me how big my dick is (or how big they think it is).

Only when I'm horny though. It's become my porn. Instead of watching vids I flash my dick to people. No harm no foul?

I mean I could see it being an issue if it lead to sex. But what if it was just sexting.

depends if you're misleading them to think it's anything more
 

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Emotional affairs count and so does this. Anything you dont tell your partner about is going to be considered cheating

This is interesting, given your situation. Although you have a "full disclosure" policy...

At the moment I'm thinking of either breaking up with her, if sexting turns to sex (before it does), or explaining my sexual needs/masturbation routine with her.

Probably both dick moves but I am not a dick. It's just sometimes (maybe once a week) I get so horny and wanna get some feedback from a new person. Not even have sex with them.

Then I cum and am no longer horny and haven't physically had sex with another person. But I have sexted.

Forgive me Father, for I have sexted :p
 

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Interesting, SugarLove. I don't think I'm misleading her, this is a very new relationship. But I can tell she's attached to me. We'll see how long that lasts
 

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This is interesting, given your situation. Although you have a "full disclosure" policy...

At the moment I'm thinking of either breaking up with her, if sexting turns to sex (before it does), or explaining my sexual needs/masturbation routine with her.

Probably both dick moves but I am not a dick. It's just sometimes (maybe once a week) I get so horny and wanna get some feedback from a new person. Not even have sex with them.

Then I cum and am no longer horny and haven't physically had sex with another person. But I have sexted.

Forgive me Father, for I have sexted :p

then I'd suggest you have particular issues with that 'need' and btw it's not a need, you need air and water to survive, you don't need to flash your cock to strangers
 

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then I'd suggest you have particular issues with that 'need' and btw it's not a need, you need air and water to survive, you don't need to flash your cock to strangers

Okay its not so much that I need to. I could probably not do it. But it's so easy to do. And every time I see a pretty girl with a nice cleavage / big tits I get the urge to show her my cock. Sometimes I do, more often than not they respond.

But the right thing to do is seldom the easiest. Right now, I want sex with lots of people. But on the other hand I don't want to be single or secret sexting / etc. I could have a real relationship, I'm easy to fall in love with. But sometimes I just want to fuck some new pussy or try something new.

And so I am conflicted.
 

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This most recent sexting may have been triggered by my current gf's penetration problems. I just think that the right person for me would have the right vagina for me...
 

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i guess you could ask yourself..if it was your partner doing the texting and showing body parts...would you have a definitive position...
 

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Probably depends if he was bigger than me haha. But if she would let me do it, I'd let her do it. But to be honest I don't think she would, or would want to. I mean she might do it out of spite but she only has eyes (and the rest) for me.