Is she into me?

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I'm in college and i have a class wih this girl? She stares at me when I walk into class, library. Wherever I am. whenever our eyes lo I always break eye contact after awhile she never does. I want to talk to her so bad, but i'm really shy. So do you think this girl is into me? Is she giving me the go ahead?
 

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Don't be that guy. Seriously. What does it cost you to say hello and ask her how class is going, and if she wants to hang out some time? Is it fear of rejection? Ridiculous! If you go through life protecting yourself from every possible negative outcome, you will also protect yourself from many possible positive outcomes as well. What's the point of that?
 

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Okay, i said hello.. i introduced myself.. she said nice to meet you.. so i think its goign to be okay.. i definitely want to date her.. but slow and steady wins the race..
 

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We don't bite, Sweetie. And if one of us does, then she's not worth it. Sounds like you did the right thing.
 

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You're smart to take it slow. If you dive right in you might scare her away. Start talking to her, sit next to her.. after a week or two ask her if she wants to go get coffee. Go from there...be friendly but dont be overbearing.
 

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So.. i finally asked for her number.. it took weeks to build courage... so i texted her later that night and said.. did she want to study sometime.. she said she was busy this week and had a tst monday.. i said that cool... she suggested next week... so the next day
to show i'm intereted i texted her and said dio you have a day in mind nxt week.. iknow life is busy with school...

she never responded to my text!? what did i say that was so wrong?? only sent 2 texts....

she stared at me forever and now no response!! i don't get it.. what do you guys think?
 

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You text her, she said she was busy, next week is better. You text her again asking for a specific day next week. Perhaps a, "cool, let me know." would have been better.

Question: What happen to slow and steady?

The ball was clearly in her court and you jumped the net and played it again. Hard to say what's she's thinking. Perhaps she doesn't know what day next week or she's annoyed you're pressuring her right out of the gate.

Beyond that don't dwell or text her again, just move on. Water off a ducks back. Don't allow her actions to dictate yours. Who knows what she's thinking? She could be a total mindfuck or simply never got your text. Who cares? It's her move now, you did all the prep work, she knows there's interest there. Don't be a pest. Don't play puppy dog, just lock onto the next girl who interest you. Lesson learned.



Don't be that guy.

I love that. Spot on.

Swingers?
 

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I appreciate your words. Because I was going to text her again and say i didn't mean to make it awkward or cause any harm. i have to see her every day at school. i find it weird.. i want to just let the air out of bag. . i do want to text her and let her know it's cool and okay i made a mistake and lets not be awkward..
 

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Mercurygirl's advice was spot on. Do NOT text her again! She knows you are interested in her and in meeting up so if she's interested in you as well she will make the next move.


I appreciate your words. Because I was going to text her again and say i didn't mean to make it awkward or cause any harm. i have to see her every day at school. i find it weird.. i want to just let the air out of bag. . i do want to text her and let her know it's cool and okay i made a mistake and lets not be awkward..