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BRMSTN69: politics are bad enough but, relegion I'm not even going there!!!!

but I will say that there are so many ideals as to what a MAN should be that the role has become very diffacult to live up to
 

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i had a j/o buddy a few years back. no touching just jerkin and watching porn. it was such a orgasm to j/o without inhibitions. those were the days
 

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Originally posted by prepstudinsc@Jul 2 2004, 01:12 AM
This is why, as a Christian, I get so riled up, by my fellow evangelicals.  They can be so stupid sometimes.  In their small minded thinking, trying to be morally righteous, they turn off those tho whom they are trying to preach, thus negating their whole witness.
Jonb and Prepstud know my position on relgion from the earlier incarnation from this board (and elsewhere) and I take the view as expressed by Lacsap1 in that I am an athiest and happen to believe that religion is the biggest conspiracy ever perpetuated on this world. However, I also respect the fact that people are free to believe whatever the hell it is they want to believe except when they vocalise those beliefs which can do harm to anyone else. Which is why I have made a few strongly-worded posts against Tender. As far as I am concerned she falls into the Right-Wing Christian camp who spout parts of the Bible but ignore other aspects of it because they believe it gives them the moral high ground. But, Jon and Prep are also religious people and yet they have never given me the slightest cause to have crossed words with them. If people choose to believe and it makes their lives happier then all well and good and I am happy for them. The right-wing "Christian" Conservatives can all go and fuck themselves. They scream from their pulpits (or their LPSG posts) that homosexuality is wrong because it says so in the Bible . Well actually the Bible also says:

that you can sell your eldest daughter into slavery as long as it's in a neighbouring country

that you can take an unruly child to the city gates and stone him to death

that you can be punished by death for eating shellfish

you can be stoned to death for touching the skin of a dead pig

etc etc etc; there are many more anachronistic examples from that particular book.

No sane person would kill another because lobster was eaten, so sane person would kill their child because it had been naughty. None of the right-wing "Christian" bigots can answer me when I point out that they tirade against homosexuality but don't stone their own children to death when they are unruly; that they pick and chose what to believe from the Bible because it suits their own fascist, Victorian, puritanical view-point.

As an athiest, I believe I live a more Christian life than so-called Christians simply because I believe we are here to learn and help each other not to denigrate or harm others. So-called Christians really do damage when they become law-makers and impose their fascist views on everyone.

As DMW has pointed out, there are problems with the translation from Hebrew to Greek to English. We've grown up hearing all sorts of stories from the Bible and we are led to believe that they mean this or that. The Good Samaritan: we are led to believe that this means we must help our fellow human beings but in fact the story was Jesus' attempt at political agit-prop and was an attack against the money-changers who ran the temples. We are led to believe that "there was no room at the inn, so Jesus was born in a stable". Well that's partly true but a mis-translation between Hebrew and Greek has led us to believe that the "inn" was some kind of Bethlehem Hilton which was full (well, it was Christmas!! (sorry, just a joke)) but the original Hebrew word referred to the upper part of dwellings were people lived as opposed to the ground floor where the animals were kept. So Jesus was simply born in a normal dwelling but on the ground floor. It's all a matter of interpretion and mis-translation and the politcal agendas of those doing both.

Sorry to ramble on and people such as DMW and Jonb who are far cleverer than I will perhaps clarify some of the things I have mentioned.

So in my opinion Christians can believe whatever they want to but the moment their beliefs cause harm to others, they cross the line and deserve to be slapped down.

Here endeth the lesson.
 

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In addition, (while we're on the topic of mistranslation) in the story of Adam and Eve, it says in the translated version that God made Eve to be a "helper" or "helpmate" to Adam, inferring subordination. In the original Greek, the word meant more closely "the one who would lead him back to God" which is more a spiritual guide than sidekick! This one simple mistranslation, which was no accident, has led men throughout the years to treat women as secondary, when that was not the intention in the original text.

The Bible is NOT a cohesive book, but rather a collection of literary works collected and voted on by a council!! Everyone knows this, yet people try to say it's the inspired writing of God, which is pure bullshit. Some things were included, some excluded, but MEN decided what was what, AND WE ALL KNOW IT!! So I have a very difficult time just accepting every word wholesale knowing that very vital works were not included. Knowing that intrigual parts were misquoted, knowing that the intentions of man are prevalent in the messages, not just the words of God. I think there is a wealth of knowledge there and it serves well as a starting place, but not an end in one's search for the truth. As TSB so aptly pointed out, the Bible in it's infintie wisdom condones slavery, giving away of virginal daughters to a horny throng (oh yes!) and positioning of women as secondary citizens in society. Since I strongly disagree with these things, I also reject the idea of homosexuality being wrong. Actually I disagree with quite a lot. I have that option because I have researched it more fully than some. To accept some but not the parts that seem icky is what almost all (excuse this) psycho-Christians do. Then they have the audacity to condemn others for doing the same thing, making their own discernments. Then there's the topic of Apocolyptic writing, which was an authorial style around at that time where exaggeration and simile was used heavily to make points more dramatically. It was a commonly used writing style and probably accounts for explaining much of the book of Revelation. Then there's the issue of John, there are at least three distinctly different authors who are attributed to "John", it was as common a name then as now! sheesh, rant done.
 

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One of the points that Madame Zora very subtly makes, that my fellow Christians almost TOTALLY miss, is that God gave us brains, and that we are SUPPOSED to use them. If we were supposed to blindly follow the rhetoric thrown at us, we wouldn't need them. We are supposed to think for ourselves. Why else would the books have been written in the styles that they are? We are supposed to take parables and figure out the truth. The kernels of truth are hidden in there, but we need to THINK. What's on the surface is not always what's the real meaning, there's most always a hidden deeper meaning that we are supposed to find. To only take things at face value is very infantile. It's like going to the Louvre and saying, "hey, yeah, it's a nice museum." It is just easy to not have to think for ourselves. I admit that growing up with this mindset, I was taught, "this is the way it is, don't question it....." However, as I got older, my eyes have been opened to a lot of things. I have tried things for myself. I have seen things. I have also had some wonderful ministers teach me that life isn't so black and white. It's made me realize that I can't be so quick to make judgements and that I needed to think for myself, not to always rely on the rhetoric of others. All I know is that it's made me a better person for it, because I have been able to relate to more people because of it. Jesus was all about having relationships with people that religious society had shunned. Why? So he could show them the love of God. Love--not hatred.
 

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Back to topic :D

I never had a buddy, as an adolescent or adult, that I jo'd with. I sorta regret never having had the experience. However, I tend to draw a fine line between activities with friends/buddies and those with sexual partners/boyfriends. One includes sex and the other does not. Maybe I really have been affected by my uptight Midwest upbringing (culturally, not familial). LOL

Even at a nude beach in Greece, I was not comfortable enough to disrobe in the company of 5 friends (they didn't either, although the couple did when they were on their own).

Maybe like DMW, if I understood hime correctly, I think that sexual stuff can get in the way of the buddy thing.
 

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Prepstudent, I am glad you picked up on that theme, in my late night rant I didn't make it as clearly as I would have liked. Most of what I've learned about Biblical translation, I actually learned in church! My pastors are very learned men who feel it is important to understand the original as well as the translated texts to make clear judgements as to what is being said. It is the only church I've ever attended personally that went to that extent to bring reality into Christianity! I have learned a great deal there. I raised my daughter to know that she was born with all the knowledge of God inside her and she could tap into it any time she wants. She was given a brilliant mind and she should use it for more than a hat rack. I also told her she was more intelligent than either of her parents, and likely more than the poeple she'd meet, so she should learn to take information from everyone, but then make her own decisions. Christianity and clear desicion making should not have to be mutually exclusive, nor is anyone to be a blind follower. Jesus was never seen as a man of condemnation, except when he threw the moneychangers out of the temple! (Go Jesus!) I am far more offended by the Catholic festivals where they gamble and drink at church than almost anything esle, because THAT'S what made Jesus mad! Oh yeah, Catholics aren't supposed to read the Bible, just let the priest tell them what to do. Nevermind, I'm too into this.

Tender, you and I don't always see eye to eye, but I do appreciate differing views in the long run. We are of significantly different ages and experiences, perhaps we were not too dissimilar when I was much younger. Age and trechery has had it's affect! lol. No, in all seriousness, I have experienced an incredible amount of growth and change in the last 11 years, much due to coming into AA and the tremendous amount of soul searching it has caused. Look forward to your 30's they are a very intriguing time!
 

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Originally posted by Tender@Jul 2 2004, 12:08 PM

oh, for Prep, your jumping down my throat for being 'associated' with this site?!
when you say that men having sexual relations together is OK?!
Left wing christians, (otherwise known as loose christians), they get me so riled up!
they think anything goes! :D
(we disagree. its OK)
Tender,
I don't think that I was the one who condemned you for being associated with this site, I just said that being a female who has never "experimented," you don't understand the bond that two guys share. There are a couple of other posters who got you on that point. As for men having sex together, I'm not going to make a judgement one way or the other. If I say it's wrong, then I think that we should also be following all Kosher laws, you should be silent in church, you should sit apart form your husband in church, and you should not cut your hair, wear any kind of jewelery or other adornments, etc. On the old board, you used to have your picture as your avatar, and your hair, while not short, was definitely cut, and I would assume that you probably sit with your husband in church, and you probably eat pork products and bacon, and have probably eaten dairy and meat together in a meal, so I think you've broken Biblical laws. That's why I choose not to condemn anyone...that's God's job and God's job only. I'm forgiven by grace. I'm saved through my faith in Christ Jesus. I ask for forgiveness for my sins. I know I sin. I'm not perfect, but you know what? God knows that we're not perfect and that's why He sent Jesus to atone for our sins. That perfect sacrifice took care of that. So the next time you think that I'm a "Left Wing" Christian, think again, Honey. I'm not sleeping around with all sorts of people. I actually live a pretty chaste life being a single guy. Yeah, I'm not a virgin, and I regret it. I've jacked off with some buddies and enjoyed it. Big deal. I got closer to them because of it.
I pray daily and spend time reading my Bible. I'm active in my church. I'm actually on staff part time at a church and I'm going to start seminary in the Fall, in addition to my regular job (some of you know what that is.) LOL
I'm still sticking with my opinion that if two dudes want to jack together it's ok as long as they are both ok with it. They know their consciences, let them ask for forgiveness, they need to deal with it. It's not up to us to judge. We're here to lend support and give advice from those who have been there.
 
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joe22xxx: Wow, thanx for all the illuminating comments. I just thought I'd throw one more into the mix.

I often feel a little at odds with my spiritual impulses and my sexual ones. I don't think that there is such a thing as "sin". I mean, we humans act in ways that hurt others or ourselves, and we also act in ways that help too. It seems to me that the ultimate spiritual impulse is to bring happiness to those we love...including sexual happiness. Is this too perverted to some Christians?

I also don't think as human beings we are intrinsically "evil" or "sinful". I also don't think we are intrinsically good. I think we're a composite of these forces, acting in concert to become aware, which is beyond these opposites. Maybe that's what God is.

Sometimes I think that sexual pleasure and feelings are so amazing that they are the ultimate spiritual experience. Who knows?
 

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I never really had male friends in r/l, and the only male friends I have now are from LPSG, so I've never stroked alongside another guy. To be perfectly honest, I dunno if I could just watch another guy stroke or be near another guy while he was masturbating without wanting to touch him. That's just me though ....
 

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Originally posted by Tender@Jul 2 2004, 10:08 AM
so much for 'tolerance' :lol:

i post on this site because i like the openness here.

DMW, I appreciate your post as well. you know that i disagree personally with same sex relationships and when asked about it, i say so.

I love my kids, but there are still certain things they are not allowed to do and they will be punished for doing them, regardless of my love for them. Even though God loves people, he still holds them accountable to the standards he has given them.

what they read into or out of it. Ive given my view, and been lynched. I have decided for myself the way i translate it, and that is all that ultimately matters to me.

again, a question was asked, and this board does have a liberal one sided view many times on issues. I see nothing wrong with adding my view just because it differs.

anyway, im done with this matter. I dont wish to fight about it, so im moving on!

Tender

Tender, then please explain to me, and I am trying to be polite, where in the Bible it says it is ok and not a sin for a married woman to visit a site which so freely discusses and often shows, topics regarding sucking, fucking, big male sexual members, intercourse and sex out of wedlock, orgasms and on and on; none of which pertain to the proper heterosexual relationship she shares with her equally proper, heterosexual husband? This is a wonderful site, it has so much to offer but, and I wonder, why "tolerance" is only one directional? You appreciate the "openness", but condemn some of us who value this communication all the same. So it's ok to disagree, as long as we agree with your point of view? :huh:
 
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HornyVeteranSJ: Is it safe to say that there is nothing in the 10 Commandments in the Old Testament, God's laws to Moses, that says that homosexuality is a sin? Even the two Commandments from Jesus in the New Testament doesn't mention homosexuality. Based to interpretations, there is a story in the Bible about same sex love. In the Old testament there is the story of David and Johnathan, (son of King Saul.) This thread morphed into something else huh?
 

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Well, in Leviticus 20:13, it says "If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them." It basically means penetration..

Oh, and in Sodom and Gamorrah, the moral more has to do with hospitality. So always be careful with any reference to sodomites. Of course, Lot offers his daughers to the angel-rapers, so once again, I wouldn't base my personal decisions on it.
 

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Originally posted by Tender@Jul 3 2004, 02:13 AM

no where does it say that David or Jonathan had intimate relations or were involved in that way.
it says they loved eachother.
Yeah, definitely morphed.

So, Tender, it says they didn't have "that" sort of relationship. So interpretation is only allowed on your part, in order to comdemn others. Is that correct? But interpretation isn't allowed to support any ideas that oppose your own narrow view? Is that correct? I'm not certain it could be anything else, considering all of your posts that contain one contradiction after another.
 

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Originally posted by Tender@Jul 3 2004, 02:42 AM

youre saying two men cannot have a bond between and be loyal to eachother without jumping in bed together?
:rolleyes:

Tender
Ummm.... completely uncertain how you read that from what I wrote.

You are interpreting stories for your benefit to make a claim and support it. When someone else does the same thing, you cry foul.

And the scripture you quote above is a modern interpretation of an old interpretation of a story passed down orally by people who had no first hand experience with the subjects they spoke of. And then it was selectively edited by the male hierarchy of the church with its own agenda.